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    Remember your first time on a plane? Do you remember where you went?

    Share with us the story of your first plane trip! We’d love to hear your responses! My first trip was when I was just a few months old and we moved from Dallas to Southern California. Not so exciting but momentful nevertheless! #MajorDepressiveDisorder #Anxiety #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #EatingDisorders #TraumaticBrainInjury #MightyTogether #LGBTQIA #KetamineTreatment

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    I’m new here!

    Hi, my name is julsgrrrl. I'm here because I am struggling with chronic pain and did 13+ years of ECT and tons of medication. I’m in a new state with very little support and am looking for people with similar issues to relate to

    #MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #EatingDisorder #Grief #SchizoaffectiveDisorder #ChronicKidneyDisease #complexpost-traumaticStressDisorder

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    What brings you the most shame?

    Shame is a difficult feeling to have. Coming from personal experience, shame can be debilitating and hard to move past. Right now I'm battling the shame that comes with having a mental health condition and not seeming like I have things "all put together."

    🌹 P.S. If shame is getting you down right now, know that you're not alone and it's OK to not feel OK. We can take baby steps together in getting to a better place. We won't feel this shame forever.

    #CheckInWithMe #Grief #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #PTSD #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #RareDisease #ChronicPain #Spoonie #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #CrohnsDisease #Cancer #Migraine #Fibromyalgia #MultipleSclerosis

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    Competition is Survival, and We are Born to Survive

    Part 1 of 2 Human beings are born to compete for survival, just like any wild animal. We depend on being strong enough, protected enough, fed enough, sheltered appropriately, and safe enough to grow and reproduce. Competition is so widely accepted as a natural state of being. It’s so natural that our society has made competitions a game.

    Competition is natural.We watch sports on TV, we gather around marathons and triathlons, we hold the Olympic Games every two years, and we start kids in sports young. So no wonder people who have illnesses sometimes compete with each other sometimes, when trying to support another person with the same, similar, or different illnesses.

    It’s human to compete. Competition doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you human. But when it comes to competing to be the “sickest” or “worst” to get our needs met, it threatens our lives, and it sends out an energy that feels sticky and leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Turning that competitive energy for wellness can actually save a life.

    I have a number of chronic illnesses that limit me greatly in life. I’ve been sick for almost 13 years. I’ve been to residential/inpatient treatment for my eating disorder too many times to count. I’ve vomited unintentionally almost every day since the beginning of 2010. I have had to get surgeries, procedures, tubes, central lines, an ileostomy, catheters, etc. over the years to manage symptoms. I’m a frequent flier at the hospital, and my medical expenses far exceed what I can afford. Hell does not describe what I’ve experienced, but I know for sure that I do not want ANYONE (even my abusers) to have to experience what I have felt. I would give my own organs to keep someone from having to experience such pain and suffering. I would much prefer to be the one to suffer than to be the caregiver or family member who feels utterly hopeless and powerless, because that is its own hell that hurts just as much as everything I’ve experienced.

    People sometimes get intimidated to share their struggles with me because in friends’ words, “I have it worse.” But that’s where the competitive drive is not helpful, and actually quite dangerous. I have friends who suffer immensely. I’ve met most of my closest friends in hospitals and treatment centers so there is no question that a lot of my dearest friends have also been through hell. Nobody feels worthy of compassion and care after being treated like dung by egotistic, power-hungry, shaming providers who work at these treatment centers. Treatment centers, while they do save lives, and can be very helpful for people, they also cause their own flavor of trauma – sometimes worse than the trauma the patient admitted to the center to treat.

    When I talk to a friend who is struggling to believe their pain is valid, I try to avoid comparison. I find relating very helpful, but the most impactful comments in a conversation come from a place of deep love, compassion, empathy, and patience. Listening and validating is more impactful than sharing your war story, your pain and your suffering. You can relate without dumping your trauma onto the other person who is also hurting.

    I get messages from people in facebook groups, or friends from treatment, asking how they can get the same medical devices I have, or have the same procedure or surgery I had. I have to admit these conversations trigger a part in me that feels invalidated when people assume that if they had my set up, they’d be happy. It isn’t that I don’t think the person needs the medical device, procedure, or surgery they are inquiring about. And there is a way to ask about medical interventions without coming across as competing to be the sickest. But if the conversation goes back and forth with us just throwing out all our worst trauma to each other, it leaves us both feeling sick to our stomachs and even more alone. I’ll give you an example of the difference.

    The other day I received a message from someone who’s daughter was struggling very similarly to me, although she has to use a wheelchair, and I am ambulatory. This mother asked me about what I go through, listened, and then shared what her daughter goes through, what they have tried, and what symptoms she has. I listened and validated that what her daughter is going through sounds horribly painful and I would be happy to help in any way I could. She mentioned that she read an article I wrote for The Mighty website, and she said her daughter related so much that she had to reach out and ask for my doctor’s name and number. I was happy to give it to her, and happy to let my doctor know that this person was going to be calling him the next day. This interaction felt amazingly satisfying to me. My goal in life is, and has always been, to help others, and this time I got to!

    The other example of frequ

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    Deep breathing

    Normally when we breathe, we think we are breathing fully. But now that you are conscious of it, take in a big breath and see how much more room there is in your lungs to fill. When you practice bigger breaths, notice how this not only calms your body, but it also takes your mind off of things like anger. Does this help anyone?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #Schizophrenia #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome

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    Pick a Light💡🕯️

    Let’s lift each other up today! Choose a light and follow the prompt that goes with it.

    🕯️: What’s a helpful (and practical) piece of advice you’ve been given in the past?

    💡: What helps you to stay grounded and continue moving forward?

    I’ll go first!

    This advice kind of answers both questions 🕯️💡. I remember my ninth grade English teacher telling me once that when reading a book, stop looking at how much you have left to read and just focus on the page you’re on. This stuck with me because it helps me check in on myself and focus/ground my energy on right now. It’s often easy for me to want to know what’s going to happen next, so only prioritizing on today calms my anxiety and allows me to let go of future expectations.

    #CheckInWithMe #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #Fibromyalgia #EatingDisorders #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ADHD #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #Disability #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #RareDisease

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    I’m new here!

    Hi, my name is 573kerrisnow. I'm here because I am a work in progress, every day I don't ever feel like I'm enough.

    #MightyTogether #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety #PTSD #ADHD #EatingDisorder #OCD

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    Let us know how you’d finish this sentence!

    For me it woul be “if it weren’t for my mother and my recovery from alcoholism” #MajorDepressiveDisorder #Anxiety #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #EatingDisorders #TraumaticBrainInjury #MightyTogether #LGBTQIA #KetamineTreatment

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    Being

    Notice how the mind loves to try to convince you that you should be doing more. No matter how far you go or how much you accomplish, it will insist there is more you need to do. Even when you are on vacation and simply resting, the mind will tell you, you are wasting your time. But life is not about getting anywhere. There is no destination or finish line. If you let your mind convince you of these things, you will constantly think you are not good enough. Can you relate to this? How do you ignore the constant pressures that your mind tries to attack you with?

    ~ Thanks to all. Thanks for all. ~

    Speaking of thanks for all, I was hoping we could acknowledge everyone who comments below. I know it seems like a small gesture, but many people here have never opened up to anyone before and being open and honest with strangers can be quite scary. So, if we could show our gratitude by giving their comment a simple reply or heart, I’m sure they would really appreciate your team support. What do you say?

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Suicide #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Addiction #dissociativedisorders #OCD #ADHD #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #POTS #PTSD #Cancer #RareDisease #Disability #Autism #Diabetes #EatingDisorders #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #RheumatoidArthritis #Schizophrenia #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome

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    I’m new here!

    hi i’m just a lonely lesbian with fibro and about a billion other things. hoping this will lift my spirits
    #MightyTogether #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #Migraine #Fibromyalgia #EatingDisorder #OCD #Grief