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The Ultimate Parenting Hack: Choosing the Right Partner for a Lifetime of Support

As you embark on this incredible journey of transitioning into #Motherhood #Motherhood and becoming a parent, it's important to remember that having a strong and supportive partner can make all the difference. The number one #hack for being a parent and alleviating the challenges of #postpartum is choosing a good partner to begin with.

While this realization may come after having kids for many of us, it's crucial to seek out character traits that indicate a person's ability to be a true teammate in parenting. In this article, we'll explore the importance of finding the right partner and how it can positively impact your parenting experience.

The Power of Partnership

Parenting is a lifelong commitment, spanning over 18 years of your life. It's crucial to consider the long-term implications of choosing a partner who will be an integral part of making your daily life more manageable.

From the beginning, we should prioritize the desire for a true partnership and a teammate who will support us not only during #Pregnancy but also throughout the period and beyond.

Identifying the Right Traits

Finding a partner with the right traits is essential for a successful parenting journey. Consider the following qualities when choosing a partner:

Communication and Empathy:

A partner who excels in communication and empathy will create a nurturing environment for your growing family. They will be there to listen, understand, and provide emotional support when you need it most.

Shared Values and Goals:

Finding a partner who shares your core values and parenting goals will ensure a harmonious upbringing for your children. Aligning on important issues such as discipline, education, and family values is key to creating a cohesive parenting strategy.

The Crucial Role of a Supportive Partner in the #postpartum Period

The #postpartum period, particularly the first six months, can be an intense and challenging time for new mothers. #hormonal fluctuations, sleep deprivation, physical recovery, and adjusting to the demands of caring for a newborn can feel overwhelming. Having a supportive partner during this time can make the transition into #Motherhood that much easier.

A supportive partner understands that is a period of adjustment and exhibits patience and empathy. They validate your feelings and thoughts related to the changes of becoming a mother, offering reassurance and understanding when you need it most.

They actively participate in caring for the baby, easing the burden on you as a new mother. From diaper changes to late-night feedings, a supportive partner is willing to help as much as possible with the baby, allowing you to get much-needed rest and self-care.

Additionally, a supportive partner recognizes the importance of taking care of you as a mother. They understand that when you are well-rested, emotionally supported, and nurtured, you can better care for your baby. They encourage you to prioritize self-care and provide the necessary support to make it happen.

Modeling Healthy #Relationships

As parents, we play a vital role in shaping our children's understanding of relationships. By modeling a healthy and respectful partnership, we can teach them the qualities to seek in a future partner.

Even if your current partner doesn't possess all the desired traits, it's essential to have open conversations with your children about what's important in a partner. This will empower them to make informed decisions in their own lives.

Nurturing Your #relationship

Maintaining a strong and fulfilling partnership requires investing time and effort into nurturing your relationship.

Carve out quality time together and prioritize self-care as individuals to strengthen your bond as parents. Recognize that #Parenthood is a shared responsibility.

Encourage open communication about parental duties, delegate tasks, and provide support to each other to ensure a balanced and harmonious parenting experience.

Building a Strong #Parenting Team

A strong parenting team relies on open and effective communication. Your partner should be someone with whom you can discuss parenting challenges, share responsibilities, and find solutions together. This collaborative approach fosters a sense of unity and strengthens your bond as parents.

Recognize the importance of balancing parenting responsibilities. A supportive partner actively contributes to household chores, childcare tasks, and daily routines, ensuring that the load is shared equitably. This balance allows both parents to feel supported and appreciated.

During the journey of motherhood, emotional support from your partner is invaluable. They offer a listening ear, a comforting presence, and words of encouragement. Their unwavering support helps you navigate the ups and downs of motherhood with confidence and resilience.

As you embark on your journey into parenthood, remember that choosing the right partner is the ultimate parenting hack. By seeking a partner who embodies the traits of a supportive teammate, you can create a nurturing environment for your child's growth and development.

Remember, it's never too late to model the kind of parent you want your children to have and to have open discussions about what's important in a partner. With the right partner by your side, your parenting experience will be enriched, and you'll be better equipped to navigate the joys and challenges of raising a child.

Parenthood is a beautiful adventure, and with a loving and supportive partner, you'll have an even greater chance to create lasting memories and forge a strong foundation for your family. Embrace this incredible opportunity and enjoy the journey together!

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So I have my first meeting with my psychiatrist this morning at 11:20 am today, as well as I have therapy for the first time in over a week since I missed my last session by accident last week du to being at my first obgyn apointment since I am NOW almost 14 weeks pregnant. Both of them thought I was going to move forward with all this in a different direction as in not have the pregnancy and I thought that the decision I wanted as well. But I ended up changing my mind about it.
At the last minute, I don’t know what to expect from their reactions but I am positive I will get support regardless.
A lot has happened since I talked to both last and it will be taxing on my heart and mind .
I have not been doing well when it comes to my mental health life I have been struggling wayyy to much.
With way too much anger ! I am actually signing up for a anger management class to help with it in town . I also know for now I want to discuss with my current psychiatrist hopefully getting back on a antidepressant that would be safe for me and my un born babies I know most all my providers do not like the idea of me being on psych medications while preggers but I need them! #Pregnancy #BipolarDisorder #MentalHealth

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Just so tired of migranes

So I was sufferer of migrane headaches choriclly for quite a few years. But as of recently have also become pregnant with twins I am 13 weeks and two days as of right now . Lol and I want to get the point I am actually enjoying pregnancy but with my already longgg list of physical health issues it’s not an easy thing to do and truth me told I am struggling so much so that I am taking into consideration talking to a disability lawyer. Cause my laundry list of physical and mental health issues simply gets worse and worse . And I can still get up and do things but not nearly as much as I was before . And I would struggle a lot at trying to maintain a “normal” job anymore.
Ugh I woke up this morning with my friend I spent the night cuddling lol with a mirgane that felt as if it was splitting my skull open I finally got over deal with this and now I have one again. I went to my nurologist to address this issue and they told me I could not be on medication for migrane help due to being pregnant! Yet I have read several articles stating it seems like you get more migranes when you are preggers anyway lol yay!
It never ends lol!
Ugh I am also on day three of quitting smoking and vaping and I almost grantee that the headaches are increasing some due to withdrawal symptoms as well.
Lol and I also have had a bad track record of getting tension headaches , and sinus headaches as well wondering if I could be Getting tons of stress headaches also
This would not bother me sooo much if it wernt for how painful it is! How I can go anywhere bar light of any kind , or being around sound PERIOD!
I mean I might as well just curl up in a fetal position in a deep dark light less sound less cave some where when I get migranes lol #migranes #Pregnancy #fml

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Pregnancy and Cannabis

Hi all, I've just found out I'm pregnant, which is a mixed blessing. My husband and I sort of gave up trying after finding out I have a unicornate uterus (one tube) plus all the difficulties I'm already having being in constant pain (currently on disability leave).

But, surprise surprise, as they say it's when you stop trying that it happens.

My biggest concern is that I currently use cannabis daily to help me tolerate the pain. It's been working so well to help me manage my mood by keeping me out of despair.

I have switched to using my vape for now until I talk to my doc and find a better alternative. I'm currently more concerned about increasing stress and falling back into the pit of despair than the effects of weed at this stage.

I'm curious if anyone else has had to navigate pregnancy who uses cannabis for pain?

#Pregnancy #Cannabis


How do people with bipolar disorder navigate pregnancy?

I have bipolar 1. I want to marry and have children, but I'm scared of
1. Whether my psychiatrist will agree to change or take me off my meds while trying/pregnant. I'm on lithium and ziprasidone (geodon). Both cause harm to the fetus. My psychiatrist never agrees with me whenever I point out the side effects of my medications. She always says my symptoms must be due to something else. I think she may have the same response when I tell her I want to go off my meds to have a kid.
2. Postpartum psychosis
3. How to avoid sleep loss while taking care of a baby. For me, sleep loss inevitably leads to a manic episode
I'm still figuring out if having bipolar disorder is a good enough reason to not have kids even if you really want them. If it's really bad then I'd have to change my priorities and marry someone who doesn't want kids either or already has kids and doesn't want any more.
Is there anyone out there who's had a bipolar diagnosis before having kids and it turned out alright? I'd really like to know.
If someone is child free by choice because of bipolar I would also like to know about it.
Thank you. #Pregnancy #baby #Child #Parenting

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Guys I’m in labour 😱
So I literally sneezed and my waters broke (it was like the movies with a massive gush and 5 hours later my waters are still coming out bit by bit which I’ve been told will happen until I have had the baby)
So far the contractions aren’t too bad. I’m not sure whether my pain tolerance is either better than I thought or whether I’m still super early on. The backache is quite bad though. Hopefully he will be here sometime tonight 🎉🎉 #Pregnancy #Depression #Anxiety