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Lessons from an accident #2

#Depression #Anxiety #Relationships #FamilyAndFriends #Trauma #MentalHealth

Its been more than 3 months since an accident at a gym upended my world. I am still attending rehabilitation twice a week and need a crutch to move about.

This accident meant I have now had 9 surgeries in the last 3 years. One of the important lessons I have learnt is that when a nurse or doctor is standing in front of me, they cannot read my mind. It is up to me to answer their questions as accurately and honestly as I can.

I recall that after a triple heart bypass my daughter said to a nurse that if I tell them my pain level is 5 then it really is 7. She said to them I will always minimise your responses because I don't want to be a bother.

Sadly she is right. With this latest bout of surgeries I have strived to be as honest as I can. There is no glory in trying to "tough" out pain. After 3 months I am really over pain and restriction but I am being honest with my family and the medical staff about how I am doing.

When we are upfront about our health we are opening ourselves to more appropriate help and greater assistance. You are not a nuisance. You are not defective. You are human, just like everybody else.

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Needle felting #2

This is the project we made- hearts to look like those famous Sweetheart candies for Valentines Day.

My daughter is going to make a garland out of them.

The artist who taught the class is incredibly talented and such a great teacher. She creates animals and embellishes clothing and etc.

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Another Great and Beautiful Day !

Looking through all the post yesterday was actually good as some of you really opened up. Today, let’s try and talk about good Christmas memories and fond thoughts. Deep down inside I know we can find some. I love posting in the morning as my mind is clearer before the “ chores” begin lol. I spent a week going through my “ music room “ cleaning every nook and cranny, Running cables nice and neat. I opened the door yesterday to find my wife had found all the free space to put all the Christmas gifts. I don’t even think I can get to my guitar rack now., let alone any amp. Forget the Piano Bench, it makes a great place to put boxes lol. Not to change the subject but technology is both good and bad. Do you remember when there were no cell phones or game consoles? Those 2 items have changed people in a negative way. Young people don’t know how to communicate with others face to face anymore. Game consoles have become “baby sitters” for parents. What happened to outside activities? Riding bikes for miles, playing baseball or football in a empty lot? I miss those days. I can remember doing term papers using Encyclopedias. Now it’s all done with computers. As we grow older, we think of those days and miss them. So let’s all try to think positive thoughts and memories and post those today…..David. P.S. Put on some original Christmas Music and listen to the words. I go through “ phases” of different types of music whether listening or writing. Right now I’m in the country phase lol. If your interested, look up the Grand Ol Oprey in Nashville Tennessee. 2nd P.S. There’s a reason why I’m asking for everyones favorite Christmas Memory, #1 You,ll see there is a positive side of everyone here. #2 It will take some of the negativity even if it’s short lived out of your day.. When you think of theory, in life and the planet and environment,where there’s a negative charge, theres also a positive charge. So please share……David

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Trying to join couple groups, fill out the questionnaire and no submit tab

#frustrated#sunny day#nosy neighbor #Garden producing#sunflowers close to 10' tall#proud gardener#2 inspections soonUGH !

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It’s that all to familiar annual talk

Well a great morning to all. Hopefully everyone is well rested and feeling great. As a firefighter still in spirit, I usually give this annual talk.With the 4 th of July comin up. Please recheck all your smoke detectors! I know all you changed your batteries when the time changed right? This is the time of year when to many firework injuries occur as well as house fires. You might not be setting them off but I bet one of your neighbors are. #1 /inspect your smoke detectors #2 ;Those with children insure they know a escape route and just importantly a meeting place. More parents die from running back into a house looking for a child who they can’t locate Never go back in for pets !. #3 ;if your doing fireworks, insure you have a bucket of water to dispose of the used fireworks. Do NOT store in the garage ! Supervise kids lighting fireworks! Never forget about the grill , ( very common. ( pic included of what the end result is when you leave a unattended charcoal grill on the 2nd floor of a condo) regardless, have fun and be safe!….David

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I Thank all of you

The reason for the warning earlier was due to a variety of reasons. #1 it was written with A-I technology. #2 The man said he was from Germany and had been in the US for exactly 1 year 7 days. ( why be so exact? ) #3 I was stationed in southern Germany for over 3 years and his dialect was more middle eastern. #4 His first name was not a common German males 1 st name. #5 He was trying to get us to download a music app he developed. ( there are 100s of music forums on the web) lastly, there was a news briefing yesterday of a dangerous virus showing up in text or emails or websites. I have notified the main admin and given his screen name and post and debugged my own computer. Thank You for all that listened……David

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A major uplifting

I just read through Janet Lynn’s profile and she is a amazing person! In my prior life, I have taken care of patients like Janet. Her upbeat attitude and her faith in God is contagious so please read her Bio when you can. This morning while reading Yahoo news, they had a story from a Hospice RN who wrote about all her patients regrets before they died. This woman has worked for Hospice for 20 plus years so she has seen a lot. But there were 3 things that the majority of her patients regretted . #1 Caring about materialistic things and not taking the time to stop and enjoy the smaller things like smelling the flowers or watching nature. #2 Not forgiving themselves or others during their lifetime. #3 Not taking the time to learn more about their faith and not doing what their faith told them. This was a eye opener to me. I will say in my 32 years in my prior life, I have never met a atheist who was dying. Yes I’ve seen miracles though ! But please take the time to read Janet’s Bio, she is a inspiration to all ! Welcome to the group Janet!….David

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Haven’t had my coffee yet

Guys and Gals, I need some input from all of you dealing with a hard problem, As all of you know, forums are good but there’s 1 problem that we all need to address. When a member joins 2 things happen #1 The member stays and slowly opens up #2 The member joins and then doesn’t feel right and never comes back on.. I am going to open up a real possibility that’s happened. Practical Turtle was very active on this site. She would also on occasion message me . She opened up to all of us about her desire to commit Suicide as well as self harming. Right before Christmas, she was going through high emotional thoughts. I haven’t heard from her since and she has not posted anything in the chat room. How does everyone feel about a “sponsor” type of method. 1 could share their private EMail for instance so they could hopefully get in touch with that person? No phone numbers just E mails. Daily or weekly depending on how active they are, One could check in with them and see how their doing? I probably will worry about Turtle forever always worrying. If anyone has any other idea please throw it out there…..David

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Another Beautiful morning

Morning hours are probably the most enjoyable time of the day for me. Taking Buddy Outback to do his business while I sit and reflect on what I need to accomplish today. My thoughts instinctively go out to all our members and the problems their facing. Just know your not facing them alone and these problems one day will be in your past and not your future. In med 101 your taught the different stages that apply to Hospice patients which also can apply to most individuals facing challenges #1 Denial #2 Anger #3 Bargaining #4 Acceptance. Until you accept it’s hard to move forward. But you will. My older sister is Bi Polar but very enjoyable to be around. While going to college I worked the 11P-7A. On the crisis stabilization unit. Yes there were patients with small issues but during that year I can honestly say there was only 1 person that was “crazy”. He if he hasn’t died is still at the State hospital. But rest assured, these small issues can be fixed ! Always think positive about your future! …..David
P.S. Boss, is there anyway to set up a wellness check for members? Practicle Turtle hasn’t been seen since before Christmas.

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