Addiction

In therapy one day this lady shared something about life she was taught. Here it goes;
"Life is like a dollar, four quarters. You're first 25 years (1st quarter) of life you make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. When you've reached the second quarter and 50 years old your life if half over, let's assume you live to be 100. Kids are almost or are grown. You're still working, paying a mortgage but your much wiser. When you turn 75 3/4 of your life is gone. Friends and family members your age become fewer each year. Now you look back and remember growing up, raising a family and are enjoying retirement. At this age you have much wisdom. At one dollar or one hundred years and you know how short life truly is. Putting life into 4 quarters made life span even shorter. I try to keep positive, tell those close to me I love them more often. And try to make good memories.

Let me start by saying I have two roommates that are messy and more on the lazy side. Me; I'm a neat freak! I do apologize through cleaning once a week. Last night I washed the dishes and swept the floor. Then laid down in my room. Couldn't sleep. So I hand washed a small load of my clothes by hand and hung them up. Swept my room and laid down. This morning I finished the kitchen, cleaning stove top, electric burners and the trays, stove knows and the door. All counters were cleaned and then I tackled in and outside of the refrigerator. Also cleaned the bathroom. Mind you I have many breaks in-between. This all took me 7 hours. Oh and I took the dog on a short walk. My back hurts but we'll worth the pain the have a clean home!!

I want to wish everyone a safe stressfree, and peaceful weekend. Also, Happy Father's Day to all the Dad's and granddads!!!! Make wonderful memories:)

My motto: "It is what is it, So breathe, calm down and deal"
I say it this way because no matter what life throws my way, no matter what I do it's still going to happen. Whether loss, pain, health ... don't matter. I can't yell, get mad, pout, to make whatever change to my liking. I try to think rational when I'm up against difficult situations. By thinking positive, counting my blessings and writing themselves down, and having an upbeat outlook, do I get through every hurt, let down or severe pain and not take out my emotions or pain filled brain out on anyone.

I’m in my mid 60’s and I have been with my husband for 12 years. He has ADHD and a porn addiction. This year he was finally diagnosed with BPD. He seems to have the porn addiction under control with the help of Sexaholics Anonymous, but his BPD is especially hard on me. Sometimes, I am the best thing that ever happened to me him and other times it seems everything I say irritates or upsets him. He has been seeing a therapist for his BPD, but sometimes it doesn’t seem to me like it is helping enough. I would prefer not to have to end the relationship and start over again at my age. Does anyone have anything positive or encouraging about living a happy life with someone with BPD?