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Salesmen = Trigger for CPTSD

I have come to realize that dealing with salesmen is highly triggering for me. This is because of the real or imagined pressure that I feel to make a quick decision and to spend money. To add to this, some salesmen (as part of their job) will not accept my NO the first time, and try to manipulate it into a YES.

I first realized this last year when I went to purchase a single tanning session. After saying I just wanted a single and not a monthly purchase, I had to explain myself MULTIPLE TIMES. I ended up breaking down and briefly crying. For a trauma survivor saying no ONCE is hard enough, but to say it multiple times is excruciating and sometimes feels impossible because then my fawning patterns kick in and sometimes my no is changed to a yes. And then I berate myself after I leave, unhappy with myself and the purchase, as well as the fact that I was manipulated into buying something I didn't want or was unsure of.

Aside from this, I am someone who takes a while to make decisions. I need time to think, weigh pros & cons, and use process of elimination from my top picks. This is not easy to do when someone is standing there watching and waiting for you. I am extremely uncomfortable being watched during my decision making process. Sometimes, I can sense their annoyance with me and I end up apologizing unnecessarily.

I am trying to "toughen up" to these salesmen, because I know the real root of the issue is my past abusers who consistently rushed me, picked apart every single decision I made, blamed me for said "wrong" decision, and refused to accept the answer no from me. Also, salesmen do sometimes use coercive, dismissive, dominating, & minimizing tactics, so they often are very manipulative like my abusers. In fact, one of my ex-abusers was an insurance salesman.

Who else gets triggered by salesmen?

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Who do you go to for advice on big decisions? #52SmallThings

When you have to make a big decision, like planning for your future, who do you talk it out with? Do you go to your parents, your partner, a sibling or someone outside your family like a trusted friend, your therapist or a spiritual leader? Let us know in the comments below.

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If you could have one “decision do-over,” what would it be? #52SmallThings

Sometimes the choices you make don’t always turn out exactly the way you plan them in your head. You’re not alone if you have felt regret after a decision has gone awry. But imagine this: you’re granted one “decision do-over” — one chance to make a different choice that could change things. What’s something you would do differently a second time around?

#MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Parenting #Disability #RareDisease #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Trauma #PTSD #AutoimmuneDisease #Lupus #ChronicPain #Migraine #Fibromyalgia #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Autism #Decisions #decisionmaking #CheckInWithMe #DistractMe

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“The best decision I have ever made is...” #52SmallThings

What is the best decision you have made? Maybe it was choosing where to live or go to school. Or maybe it was something smaller, like what kind of dessert to have after dinner. Or perhaps it was finding a supportive community by joining The Mighty. Finish the sentence and share what you best decision has been.

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How do you usually make decisions? #52SmallThings

Do you prefer to make a pros and cons list? Do you talk it out with someone you trust (a friend, family member, spiritual leader, therapist, mentor)? Give us a little insight into what your process looks like when you make a decision in the comments below.

#MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #RareDisease #Parenting #Disability #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Trauma #PTSD #AutoimmuneDisease #Lupus #ChronicPain #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Fibromyalgia #Migraine #Autism #CheckInWithMe #Decisions #decisionmaking

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