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    My perception of my own thoughts TW #SuicidalThoughts

    If someone else were to share with me the thoughts that have been going through my head lately, I would be seriously concerned for them. But, somehow, when these dark thoughts are in my own head, they seem quite normal. I've lived with similar thoughts for years, and they are just a bit worse than usual, right? I feel that I don't know how to appropriately assess my own thoughts because I'm just so used to them. I spoke with my therapist this morning and she was definitely concerned and started talking with me about the possibility of making a visit to the hospital. It's just hard to know - when are these thoughts just run of the mill depression heightened by life stress vs. go get help now thoughts? How do you figure this out?

    #CheckInWithMe #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #abusesurvivor #darkthoughts #Selfassessment #Decisions #Hospitalization #SuicidalIdeation

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    Apparently I’ve been there my whole life.

    <p>Apparently I’ve been there my whole life.</p>
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    Making decisions

    I still haven't made a decision about what to do regarding my parents' upcoming visit. I know that I don't feel good about seeing them, but I also know that I really want them to bring the rest of my belongings from where they to live to me here.

    The problem with depression and anxiety is that my ability to come up with creative or alternative solutions to problems is seriously diminished. I start to feel stuck and trapped between two black and white options and that makes my mental health deteriorate any further.

    Has anyone managed to get out of this spiral and found a way to come up with solutions?

    #Decisions #Solutions #MentalHealth #Family #Depression #Anxiety

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    Bipolar and decision making #BipolarDisorder #Decisions

    Does anyone else here have trouble making decisions? I mean not a little trouble…. Like it’s impossible. The older I get the more difficult it is to make decisions about things in life. Now I’m 31 and in prime decision making stage and everything I thought I knew about my choices in life I am second guessing. Do I just do things that I think people expect from me? I have no idea who I am anymore or what I want with my life.

    Any input would be helpful, my fellow mighties 💗 light to all 💫

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    #day to day events 5-24-21, but also from days prior # decisions # anxiety

    Friends, relationships, supports and a new topic: decisions
    I have to decide if I will retire. It is a 5 hr/wk job. One I held for over 2 years. Been w the company for going on 9. Told to resign w covid. Now accepted back. Trying to decide if I should go back.
    #Decisions . Anyone else have trouble w these?
    Really wanted to leave ( retire) on good terms. Have a history w bombarding supervisors w offshoots of my anxiety. # anxiety: Over the decision about pay and whether to leave ( retire) I sent my boss 6 emails. One being very long and heavy- involved & burdensome. Don’t know why they have put up w me for so long. Thinking they need the help & I maybe do good work.

    Told them ( my boss) I would work 1 more year. My boss asked me how long I would work upon receiving my heavy and involved emails.
    After the emails I realized just how stressful one more year could be.

    Decision & question:
    Do I just leave now or do I stick it out one more year?
    Could be stressful- ( I do enjoy my work- but the anxiety brings stress w it)
    Wanted to retire on good terms.

    Would staying that extra year accomplish good terms ? I told my boss last week I would give it one more year. Than after that I sent the burdensome emails. Is it worth it to stay ( one more year of stress) and try to make up for the numerous emails?

    Or should I just retire?

    This is the decision I need to make.

    The money would be nice and helpful, but w cutting things out- I think we would be okay.

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    The pressure of deciding your future #Anxiety #Pressure #future

    Our society pressures us to decide what we want to do with our life before we even finish school. We are expected to know what we want to study, what we want to do, who we want to be. But why? Why are we pressured, and expect to know all this when we’re still so young. Our brain isn’t fully developed at 18. Most kids go to university because their parents expect them to go. It’s looked down upon if we have a gap year, if we want to do something else. But realistically isn’t that better for us? Shouldn’t we get real life experience, work experience, and grow up, before we make huge life decisions? Going to university is expensive, many either can’t afford it, or have to figure out how to finance it. But they go with no plan, they go just for the fun of it, for the Greek life, for the parties. That’s not how it should be! Going to university should be for a reason, it should be because we want to, because we know exactly why we go and what we want to get out of it. We should break free from this pressure, and do that is right for us. We shouldn’t be ashamed of our decisions, but be proud to say ‘I’ll take some time off and figure out my life and who I am’. That should be more supported and praised. Do life the way you want, the way it feels right for you. And if you don’t go to university, but do something else that makes you happy and fulfilled, do it with pride. And if you figure out you want to start university when you’re older, there’s no shame in that. One is never too old to learn and grow. #growth #Life #Decisions

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    I've fallen into a months long rut and am having a really hard time figuring out what to do next. I changed careers and it took me a year to find a job. In the middle of that I separated from my fiancé of five years after at least a year or two of being unhappy. I moved in with a couple of roommates and it's been a terrible experience. I can't be in peace in my own home. Now the lease is up for renewal and I need to decide whether to stay, move home, or find another apartment. I don't feel that I have the energy to search or move right now even though I'm in a tough situation. I barely have any friends around as I left this area for a few years and practically came back during covid. My best friend is literally still my ex and given that I'm feeling so lonely, I am really missing his support and even thinking about getting back together. I know we broke up for valid reasons (which I acknowledged first) but life feels really hard right now. After back to back intense conversations with my roommates about our living situation and a recent convo with my ex about the problems we had about 2 days ago, I'm having such intense anxiety. I'm crying at least once an hour and don't know how to relieve it. What's worse is that my new job is picking up and I'm finding it incredibly difficult to focus and get anything done. I know I'm lost in a sea of negative thoughts and hopelessness but when I think about it, I also don't have anything to look forward to, I don't have uplifting people to lean on. My therapist doesn't seem to be a big help right now. I just don't know. I think I'll move home for a little while, but it's also not the best choice because where my fam lives is very isolated and I don't even have a car. My relationship with my mom has improved but it's been pretty rough in the past. I really just want to get away..go on a trip or something. If it weren't for the fact that I finally have a job with a decent salary, I would say I feel like I've hit rock bottom. How do I get out of this? Positive thoughts are hard to have or believe in right now.

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    If you could only have one type of love, which would you choose :Self-love, or Romantic love? #BipolarDisorder #Love #Depression #Decisions

    My vote is for self-love, every day 🤗

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    Indecision

    I think one of the worst downward spirals in my mental health is related to making decisions. When I'm feeling depressed or anxious or triggered, it is so hard to make decisions. But, when I leave decisions hanging, my mental health deteriorates even further.

    I'm really struggling with this with work these days.

    My second (very) part time work-from-home job kind of fizzled out in November and now that boss has just messaged me again asking if I can pick up a few hours. The inconsistency and poor communication has been an issue since I started working with her in July, but I just can't pull the plug. I just need to email her and say no, but making any life changes just now feels so hard.

    I have been saying for literally three years that I was going to try this one particular type of online employment. On Black Friday, I got a deal on a tablet that would allow me to finally do that. But then I have to start something new and that feels so monumental.

    I've seen some full-time jobs posted, starting in January. They are exactly what I was looking for, but I just don't care anymore. I question my ability to do them and some of them are not very accessible by public transit. So I keep on saving these job ads up and just never apply.

    I know that these non-decisions are weighing on me and making me feel worse, but I can't bring myself to do anything about it.

    Depression sucks.

    #Decisions #indecision #change #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #Trauma

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    When you have a lot on your mind, how do you narrow down what to focus on in therapy?

    I can only afford to see my therapist twice a month (and even that is a stretch), so I sometimes end up with a lot of things that I want to talk about in the session. It's still four days until my appointment, but I am already getting stressed about picking the "right" thing to talk about. I know it's not the most helpful way to think about it, but 2 hours/month is not very much time to process everything.

    #Therapy #Anxiety #Depression #Trauma #Healing #Decisions #AdviceWelcome

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