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    Don’t Quit Your Daydream

    I have always been transparent about my life. From my struggles with depression as a tween, to my bipolar as a teen, and now my battles with lupus and mania as an adult.

    I have never hidden behind masks because I believe speaking openly and candidly can save lives if done with care.

    Lately, I’ve been feeling relatively happy- I am truly living my daydream. Yes, I have my medical complications and I have to go to the hospital on Monday for cancer screenings and I’m worried sick.

    But I’m trying to stay with a positive attitude and and a grateful heart. I have my dream job, good health care, a good routine, and a solid support system.

    Nothing can be 100% all the time and if you keep waiting for forever… forever will never come.

    Seize the day. There is no day but today.

    I’m proud of how far I’ve come, and yes, I’m scared as hell, but God’s got this.

    “Don’t quit your day dream, it ain’t big enough if it doesn’t scare the hell out of you”.

    #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar1Disorder #Bipolar2Disorder #ImposterSyndrome #BipolarDepression #ChronicDepression

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    I'm new here!

    Hi, my name is Pollyzanna. I'm here because I am so tired of fighting against and for everything - while so few people understand.

    #MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #OCD #PTSD #ChronicIllness #ImposterSyndrome

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    Story unseen by high masker

    Struggle that is unseen when you are incredibly great at masking…….

    Let’s talk about what it is to mask and why would someone need to camouflage:

    Masking is a coping mechanism that either learns for protection or unconsciously tries to fit into society but truth I have always felt alien like. Most people who are like me that are heavily masking are relying on the social cues of autistic person /neurotypical person (hybrid of two worlds constantly colliding into each other). I will be honest, it is utterly exhausting being this hybrid of social rules , social cues , and society often shows people that are different as less worthy( wait a moment, that seems harsh but I am speaking from a place I lived , experienced , and see it).Why camouflage if you are constantly edging towards burn out ?! Sigh…..I am not always aware of my own masking until I reach a maxing level of burn out. Maxing level sounds a little over dramatic that’s what the inner monologue tells me but I know I am not being over dramatic. How can you be so sure ?! When I am in that burn out state completely utterly non -verbal and useless to everything and everyone.My mind going million miles a min but from outside look withdrawn(often I feel like the computer that was on that you unplugged and plugged back in ; on in the hopes that restarts but just crashes over and over ) .Are you sure you are not talking about anxiety? Sure , I have anxiety due to the majority of my life wondering why everyone else had manuals that clearly I never received. SOS where the hell is my manual for the following:

    Social manuals have to forge growing friendships etc. I never know if someone is being fake nice or genuinely wanting to be my friend.

    Social cues I don’t get don’t hint or do experiments on me to see if I get something; I will save you a breath … I fail this 99% of the time.

    EYE Contact with me is iffy at best. If looking directly into your eyeballs more than likely missed half the words you have said. Ok why is this social norm to stare at the eyeballs .

    Fashion manual who decides the in and out of fashion. If it ain't comfortable I ain't wearing it. I do not care if I throw my hand book my way …….I will die on this hill comfortably

    Manual on when to use honesty and when you politely lie . This is super confusing to me because people say they want you to be honest but then get mad when you do.

    Are you starting to see what I mean ?! Don’t feel bad that you missed the signs because I myself was clueless to the signs. I only pieced it together myself the last few years because of all the research , speaking with other autistic adults , and mostly learned from my boys. It’s funny but not ha ha ha funny that I now can look at all my experiences from past realized anxiety ,awkwardness, clumsiness , confusion in a lot of situations, my constant need for movement , and over analyzing everything ……..All of this was related to being autistic . In saying all of the above, being a high masking individual is exhausting and confusing because sometimes I feel I don't fit in either communities, the disabled or abled( by abled I really mean neurotypical).I know imposter syndrome is the root of the displacement I feel but to quiet that part of my brain is like trying to silent an hurricane. Hurricane?! Yes, freaking hurricane that tears up all the knowledge that I have and reasoning that is deeply rooted into my core. I am hoping that one day that I am able to conquer the imposter syndrome for myself and for beautiful boys who are autistic as well.Why not just continue life as a High masker ?! Because I want boys not to struggle with autistic burnout , feel of never fitting in the community , struggle with self acceptance, and so many more things. Lastly, I know acceptance and love for oneself and our community starts at home first.

    Tiffany Wonderley Rizzo #

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    Imposter syndrome, maybe? #Anxiety

    Hey guys, anyone ever deal with an overwhelming feeling of you not mattering to the people around you? I work a very client faced job and I know I help so many people on a daily basis but I can't shake the overwhelming feeling that I suck. 😞 I've been at a new job for about five months now after being at my last one for six years and having to leave this year after dealing with something extremely traumatic and that management team doing nothing about it. I also come from a tumultuous past with my family. How do you even start to undo 20+ years of self loathing? I have a therapist that I see once a month and we've done such good work but I feel like this sucky year has just undone all of it. #Anxiety #ImposterSyndrome

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    The endless journey of getting to know our true selves.

    Part 1 of 2 Six months ago, I decided to travel to the Middle East and I’ve stayed here ever since. I didn’t think of it as an emotional journey, but I did expect to learn a lot about different cultures, behaviors and traditions; little did I know I was going to discover something extraordinary, something almost new that has not been too far from me for my entire life: myself!

    To begin with, I believe we all adopt certain behaviors and points of view based on the people around us, our friends and family, and even the environment we’ve been raised in: it’s the normal cycle of life, learning things based on our circle and surroundings, things that eventually become part of ourselves. I’m happy to say that most of my life, I’ve been surrounded by good people with nothing but good intentions, and I’m aware I’m lucky to be able to say that. Of course, there are always going to be exceptions and certain life experiences when unfortunately, we crossed paths with people that were not good for us, yet the majority of my life I’ve been well taken care of by my family and friends.

    Nevertheless, there was always something about myself that I’m sure many of us have felt in this community, something “off” that won’t allow us to enjoy life to the fullest, whether that comes in form of #Depression , #Anxiety , insecurities or past #Trauma , it’s all somehow bottled up inside our mind and it’s certainly not easy to shake it off our brain. These thoughts and feelings made me want to adopt different behaviors based on the people I was surrounding myself with: I created multiple “me’s” that I’d used based on who I was hanging out with. This sounds like something normal when we’re kids and teenagers, but it does become something concerning as we grow up and notice that we are unable to be ourselves with the people we care about, and this can also affect our performance at work, college, etc.

    There’s always a reason behind it: maybe, we’re afraid of how they’d react if we show our true selves, or perhaps we’re a bit scared of judgment. For me, I was simply not comfortable showing certain parts of myself to a group of people, which made it very confusing for me to actually get to know my true self, one that wasn’t running away from my family and one that wasn’t constantly trying to adapt to social situations even though I didn’t even feel like talking. This is a very common symptom of depression and anxiety that not many people talk about, it makes us feel ashamed and we can even develop other serious illnesses such as #ImposterSyndrome (feeling like a fraud, doubting our abilities, not accepting our achievements, etc). I was having such a hard time getting along with my family and not pushing away my friends, until I decided it was time to take a chance and, therefore, take a step aside for a while: I packed my bags and with a bit of determination and a desire to find out what else is out there, I traveled to Egypt.

    I had a chance to meet wonderful people from different places around the world, I discovered new places and got to know different realities, religions and points of view. As I took the time to make new friends, some of them I even now consider as part of my family, and I realized something new I wasn’t aware of before: our worth is not based on how people perceive us, our value is not measured by how others see us or what our friends, family or other people have to say about us. It is so important to allow ourselves to get to know a little bit more about us every day, as we meet new people we discover new things we like or may not like about others and about ourselves, and as we discover new places we realize what we value about what we’re able to call ‘home’. We’re always told we should be grateful for our family, we should thank our friends and the ones that are there for us, and this is absolutely true, yet the most important thing is to be grateful to get to know ourselves more everyday. After all, nobody knows me better than I do, and I guess that’s what I was missing all along, there’s that empty space I’ve been wanting to fill for years: the lack of me.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m fully aware that there are many things yet to learn and see, but the mere realization of this is what brings me peace of mind instead of constant anxiety, because it’s an art to be able embrace the present and the unknown, something that I myself am still learning to do; getting to know ourselves is a journey, and we’re lucky to be able to say that we’re in this to

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    The endless journey of getting to know our true selves.

    Part 2 of 2 gether.

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    ADHD Newbie

    Hello! I'm a newly diagnosed ADHDer, and just been having some more anxiety on my new meds than I anticipated. I like the focus I get from adderall and used to lexapro from previous experiences, but I am noticing that I am having A LOT more imposter syndrome than usual. Anyone else have this experience or something similar??? #ADHD #meds

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    Imposter Syndrome

    Most days I feel like I am an imposter in the chronic illness space. My bloods/xrays are not that ba, but bad enough to show somethings wrong. But then why the pain, fatique, brain fog, blackouts, nerve pain, stiffness. If I'm not that bad, why do I feel miserable? The thought that this can get worse is overbearing! I look normal, I'm generally a helpful, talkative, able human being. So I feel like an imposter. I feel like I am not sick enough and don't belong. I have to fight to get heard by my docters, my friends and family don't understand. I'm tired of explaining. I now know that I don't absorb medications, THIS SUCKS! All I want is to be pain free, have energy, sparkle and enjoy my life. I'm in limbo as I can do neither whole heartedly. I am not deathly ill, neither am I capable to have a normal everyday life without the constant reminder this is hard, this is painful, this is exhausting. So yes, I feel like an imposter.

    Don't get me wrong, I am so incredibly greatful for the things I can do and that I am not gravely ill. I am so incredibly thankful that I am not as bad off as a lot of people on this platform. All I want is for my current symptoms to be treated so I can continue with a normal life.

    So yes I have imposter syndrome and I don't know how to overcome that! Not healthy enough to belong, not ill enough either!

    #ImposterSyndrome #PsoriaticArthritis #Spondyloarthritis #nervepain #ChronicDepression #PTSD #CPTSD #generalizedanxiety #InappropriateSinusTachycardia #AutonomicDysfunction #atrialfibrillation #costochondritus #discbulges #JointHypermobilitySyndrome

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    Imposter Syndrome

    Hello 👋🏽
    I struggle really badly with imposter syndrome and my work.
    My logical brain says, stop you can do this you’re just as qualified as anyone else
    but
    the other side says, why are you even trying, that’s stupid, they are all gonna laugh, you’re gonna fall flat on your face, there are so many others better qualified, they just pretend to like what you are teaching and will be laughing and talking behind your back…
    It is exhausting and debilitating and I’m tired.
    #ADHD #ImposterSyndrome #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #PTSD