With all of my friends and family on social media posting pictures from their year and the lowdown on the ups and downs, I decided to do the same. Halfway through I was really starting to freak out. The only big things that had happened this year were all bad except for the one with me getting a new job, despite the feeling I had when I had previously thought of this year as a good thing because of those small moments of fun and enjoyment. But the solid things that happened kinda weren't fun at all.
All of the other posts were so happy and wonderful and I knew mine would be a downer. Would anyone read it? But then I thought to myself: SHOULD they read it?
If I was scrolling along and came across a post just like mine, I would read a few sentences and boom be on with my way because I don't like to read negative or downer 'this terrible thing happened to me' things. Of course those with suffering and unhappiness need support. But as is the natural tendency of everyone-you start to ignore them and those negative moments.
Right then and there I deleted my draft of a post. No longer was I going to focus on the negative and personally heartbreaking things that happened this year. If I did that I would destroy the new year I was hoping to have as a fresh start with only good in store.
I vented out my emotions with myself, going over what hurt and what I grew from and began focusing on the good. How my family had become a stronger unit, how we were all focusing on facing our health issues together and even more so how I had become pretty adept with recognizing patterns in my pain to gain a sense of control.
I was so proud of myself and my family for those moments. And I was going to hold onto those. But I didn't need to share it with the world. I just needed to focus on growing even better this next year. Come what may. No longer expecting the universe to 'give me a bad hand' but depending on myself to face everything with confidence, and a mind single to the good things that had happened.
I would not let this new year break me before it began. Because expectations tend to be downers. And if there is one thing I refuse to be: it is a downer!
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