#MentalHealth #perfectionism
1. You have very high standards for yourself and others.
While expecting a lot out of yourself isn’t a bad thing, expecting perfection can cause more stress and anxiety than you need.
This becomes a major obstacle when you are up against a deadline. Perfectionists will keep tweaking and tweaking until they think that whatever it is that they are working on is totally perfect.
This also causes issues if you are working in a group with others. They may think that you are being critical of what they are doing, and stop attempting to help.
2. You can’t stop thinking about it when you mess up.
We all make mistakes. If you aren’t making mistakes then you aren’t truly pushing yourself to become the best version of yourself that you can be.
Perfectionists get very upset when they make mistakes. Failure isn’t an option for perfectionists, even though failure is the best way to actually build confidence in yourself.
If you catch yourself being too self critical after making a mistake, then take a step back and remind yourself that mistakes are the best way to learn and get better.
3. You are highly focused on results.
Setting goals is an important part of personal development, but if you are only focused on the results of those goals then you will never be able to achieve your full potential.
The problems arise when you are so hyper focused on the results that you forget to trust the process. Part of achieving the most out of life is learning what processes work best for you.
I talk more about how achieving your goals and dreams depend totally on the processes that you have in place for yourself in my goal setting guide. It totally changed the way I do things when I started to understand to look at the small daily actions that I’m taking rather than just looking at the results.
4. You procrastinate. A lot.
This is one of the effects of a few of the signs that we talked about above. You are hyper critical of yourself. You are afraid of failure. You can’t stop thinking about it when you mess up. So you just don’t do anything.
You put everything off until the last minute because you know that as soon as you start on the task, you will start stressing and judging yourself. It makes you so much less productive when you expect perfection from yourself.
5. You never celebrate your successes.
Being a perfectionist means that no matter how well you do something, you will always think that you can do better.
You could give a killer presentation, build an awesome project, or even write an amazing article, but you will still feel like you should have done better.
It’s hard to be a perfectionist for this reason alone, not to mention all of the others that we talked about. It means that you can never be happy with your performance.
You can refer to this:
resiliens.com/resilify/program/how-to-overcome-perfectionism