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Is Chasing Dopamine Coming At The Cost Of Turning Our Medical Information Public

It baffles me that after having their children digitally kidnapped six times, some of these parents are still refusing to hide their child's face on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, etc. It's great that your kids are reaching their milestones on time but you don't need to share that stuff with all of your former classmates. The person who you sat next to in second grade yet haven't seen in 20 years doesn't even need to know your child's name. Children can't consent to having their photos and personal lives online. Questions like "What hospital were you born in?" are commonly used when people get locked out of their online accounts. What's crazier is the fact that these are the same parents who preach "stranger danger".

I understand the novelty of your child being named patient of the week at the pediatric medical center. In the 1990s they may have had a star with their picture and name placed in the waiting room but now in this day and age they may have an article dedicated to your child on their medical center's website alongside their photo. One could argue that posting that information is a violation of HIPPA, even with parental consent and their signatures. The ethical dilemma lies in the subconscious psychological tricks people fall for and the lengths people will go to in order to get a rush of dopamine; as when you are searching for a short term high, you sometimes aren't thinking of the long term consequences. Parents want to share the great news with all of their friends that their child has been healed and on the other hand a child thinks "I'm on the news," and both them and their child get a burst of dopamine when they find out their photo has 100 likes instead of, "My (child's) medical information is being posted on a public website online". The medical center also benefits from those parents sharing the updates on social media; as all their success stories are online for the eyes of the parents of potential patients. Even though it's cool in the short run, it may turn into something a child doesn't want their boss to see when they are 25.

I'm not sure about how the hospital commercials are produced but it would be a lot more ethical to have former patients (who are now adults) say, “Here's how the hospital changed my life for the better,” as opposed to sick child actors and their parents in front of the camera at their most vulnerable point in life. I understand that people are more sympathetic when they see children with machines hooked up to their bodies, but at what point does the medical center's website and the parents “go fund me” pages cross the line and turn sorrows into clickbait?

One solution I have is to create a newsletter that you will only send to your closest friends and family and then to post vague monthly updates on social media like, “AJ recovered from a cough and stuffy nose,” instead of daily updates and posts saying, “Aiden is successfully recovering from his three week hospital stay due to Covid.”

#hippa #sharenting #Privacy #MedicalRecords #ethics #Parenting #SocialMedia

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Recurring Dream

I just woke up from another dream with a very similar theme to what I've been experiencing the six months or so. The common theme is my parents (and occasionally my sister) invading my privacy. Typically, the situations have involved taking a shower, using the toilet, or getting dressed...so situations where I might be naked or revealing private areas of my body. Sometimes in the dream, I find myself shouting or even screaming at them to get out, to go away, to let me do the activity in peace. But they don't even react and just double down on being there sometimes referring to their "right" to be there.
I'm a little afraid to explore what my dreams might be telling me, and I don't know where to start. For context, I haven't really been in contact with my parents for 1.5 years. I briefly saw them about 8 months ago. Would it benefit me in any way to dig into these dreams, or should I just let them be?

#dreams #dreaminterpretation #dreamanalysis #Childhood #Family #Parents #Privacy #Abuse #Depression #Anxiety #Trauma

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Very frustrated

I’ve graduated (yay!?) but it took years to get here as I worked full time so as not to take on student debt and had to transfer during two moves where I lost credits. Most of my mother’s family and friends know this already but she chose to publicly post it to her SM account and I can’t help but feel annoyed. Privacy has always been a huge issue for me, even as a kid i realized my family was nosey but also ran their mouths so i stopped sharing. I don’t even have my own social account -partly because they’re a time suck- but also, because I’ve had 2 volatile relationships where I’ve had to take out restraining orders against my exes. Ma knows of one of these and I previously had the convo about my intolerance for publicly posting stuff and still fails to talk to me about doing this type of thing ahead of time. It’s really frustrating to feel like she doesn’t understand or respect that. I don’t want her to feel pressured to take it down but it’s also really annoying that this type of thing has been going on for a few years. I’ve had threatening private (untraceable) emails from a presumed ex abuser (I only think I know which but without proof can’t do anything) and just want to keep a low profile online in case they tried to target my professional or private life. It’s upsetting but I don’t think I should have to share all those aspects of my life that make me fearful/ paranoid simply to be taken serious or have my wishes respected.

It’s my own issue, but wanted to say publicly if you know of someone being private and asks you to keep their info that way please respect it. They may have good reason they don’t want to share or expose different aspects with you and i think we should each have that right. Don’t force individuals in your life into a position where they trust you so little they refuse to share with you at all. This may sound dramatic as a reaction to something positive but it’s got me on edge enough I don’t want anything additionally hovering over me. #Anxiety #Paranoia #Trust #Privacy #AbusiveRelationship

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Any suggestions for finding privacy for an online counselling session?

I want to try out online counselling since it seems more affordable for me right now. The problem is that I don't really have privacy where I'm living and I don't know how to manage it. I need a place where no one can hear what I say and where I can express my emotions as they come. I'm also pretty new in town, so I don't really have a friend I can call up and ask to use their home. It seems like this should not be an impossible hurdle, but I'm stuck. Any ideas?

#Privacy #OnlineTherapy #MentalHealth

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Does anyone else feel uncomfortable with the fact that schedulerstcall centers have our personal info?

I can't stand the fact that a call center has my personal information. why can't you just put me through to the office I want to call to? But no, they get to take down our name, date of birth, and our reason for calling! I don't think they deserve to know! #Privacy

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Therapy Day x Oct 2019: peripheral questions

Therapy Day turned out to ... have some unforeseen circumstances (not really the Dude's fault, but life happened .. though he also *could* have been MUCH clearer) - for Wednesdays, he does clinic in a different speciality - Obesity & Diabetes Integrated Care lol. I'm there because, psych appt wanted a Wednesday .. that's ALL.

Figuring that out myself was surprising - he just said, "for Weds' clinics, I see people at Level 5." So I just said ok noted! ... only when the hospital sent a text reminder that I realised it was the Obesity & Diabetes Integrated Care clinic (oh 😅 But to be fair they *did* state that weight management is one of his specializations ..)

That was like whew but (still) okkkk ... until I walked in to have a cell group friend call out to me when I was registering 😩

ok side note, to be fair: I know at least 3 people from church work in this hosp, I anticipated maybe meeting them, yikesgodforbid. But this person was the one I'd least have liked to meet of the 3. She's in my cell but I have never, and don't plan to, tell her abt my MH stuff.

But also (having known that she's from my cell but now seeing her at the workplace) ... gives me Questions.

She's shared anecdotes (no naming, but anecdotal incidents) before about less-than-pleasant patients she kind of dreads more than others - not that I saw anyone in the waiting room besides me (in part cos I was too pre-occupied in my own head screaming DUDECANYOUCOMEOUTNOWPLEASE), but I just couldn't help wondering .. if that was someone who might have had an appt just before or just after me.

And by extension, ... is this what life is like after work? On the flip side as pertains to me - would the Dude just offhand describe me in general to his cell group too? What would he potentially say ..?

I don't know. I mean, my cell group friend isn't a psychologist but isn't confidentiality a general thing to abide by? To make a related parallel, as an educator (it doesn't matter whether I'm mainstream, SPED, or private enrichment) -- I'm not allowed to reveal my kids' faces to social media on public settings; for this reason I only ever upload stuff we doodle together or stuff we make using blocks in break time or .. that kind. Or friends sticker their faces out. I digress. The point is, if it is a principle (of confidentiality) in general that should apply in all variations of jobs in a certain given sector ... where then is crossing the line?

Was it ok for my friend (physiotherapist) to have described to us anecdotally her frustrations with her patients, even without naming (given that it is after all still descriptive)?

Thoughts anyone? 🤔

#CheckInWithMe #MentalHealth #Privacy

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Should I leave this site now that privacy is gone? #Anxiety #Depression #Privacy

I just saw the Share feature added to each post and entry and I am pissed. Why is this necessary?

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