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My relationship with my father has been difficult and complicated my entire life. While I have always been an emotional type, my father has always been the cold/logical type. He was abusive towards me as a child. At the very same time my older brother and my classmates at school where also physically and verbally abusive towards me from kindergarten all the way through high school. I recently started family therapy with both my parents in a desperate attempt to heal our relationship. My father layed out his genuine feelings on the table this Thursday and pretty much layed blame for all my mental health issues on me. He stands by how he decided to “parent” me when I was younger and claims my mental health struggles are simply because I don’t do “enough.” I don’t work on myself enough, I don’t try enough, I don’t think rationally and logically enough. I exploded with anger when he communicated this. “You don’t get to have a primary role in messing me up in the first place and get to say that. You are the last person on this Earth who gets to say that to me you piece of shit.” Am I wrong for saying this? Am I to blame? He went even further to say my issues are a “burden” on the family and that I am selfish and unempathetic. Why do I give my father so much power over me? I guess it is because he is my father and I’ve always wanted his acceptance and for him to accept me for who I am. I could just use some added perspective from the Mighty community on this subject for my blood is still boiling from this interaction with him. #Abuse #Depression #Family #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Trauma #AbusiveRelationship
