Spinal Stenosis

Feeling defeated again. As usual my health has the final say always winning. I have to take another semester off from school. My dad has to help me get dressed, in the bathroom, and every time I get up. I’m also using a walker and 38yrs old. My back is way worse. I’m very still with limited range of motion due to severe sharp shooting stabbing pain. Doc called in a steroid for me. If not helping I’m suppose to go to the ER.

I couldn’t take this class in the summer and can’t take it this fall. I have this class and 1 more to finish my program in child development online. Then I will finally have my bachelors degree. In 2010 I had to drop out for having emergency back surgery due to Cauda Equina Syndrome. Then 10 months later in 2011 I had a 2nd back surgery due to severe congenital #SpinalStenosis . 2013 went back to school at the local community college for early childhood education. Graduated with associates degree 2016 going part time and another medical leave. 2022 decided to finish my bachelors degree online. Now that I’m this close with only 2 classes left I have to take more medical leaves. If I can’t do these practicums I will need to switch majors again. I was looking so forward to graduating May 2026.

Now I’m not sure when I’ll be done with my bachelors degree. It’s been a long road. Even if I can complete these 2 practicums I’m not sure what I’ll be able to do in this field. Not only is my spinal stenosis worse, I have #DegenerativeDiscDisease #Arthritis and now #Scoliosis all in my lumbar region. My cervical spine is bad also but not as bad.

I was diagnosed with BPD at 14. My symptoms were extremely severe for a long time, but I’ve been in remission for years. I am 37. I also have CPTSD, OCD, generalized anxiety disorder and panic attacks, Major depressive disorder, Dysthymic disorder, ADHD, Fibromyalgia, Degenerative disc disease, Arthritis, Spinal stenosis, And other chronic illnesses that involve immense pain and other challenges. I’ve done a lot of work to reach a place of stability and I’ve been doing pretty OK. I got sick last year and I haven’t gotten better. It might be long Covid. I used to live an extremely active life, and now I can’t the body that I was in and the person that I was is no more I am grieving the life. I thought I would have and I am grieving who I used to be. I feel lost and alone, but I have been managing. My husband‘s brother is in the Coast Guard stationed in Alaska. We live in south east United States Tuesday. My husband left to go to Alaska for eight days to visit his brother. He won’t be back till next Tuesday. It’s only been a couple of days And I am really struggling. My thoughts are dark and my BPD is making an appearance. A lot of what I am feeling is valid and there’s a lot of unresolved pain that he has caused through our relationship. I thought I had dealt with that is surfacing. I don’t feel like I can trust him anymore. I also caught him in a small lie. Which reaffirms that I cannot trust him. I thought we had a good relationship, but I think I was fooling myself. He is not a bad husband and he’s not a bad Person. But he’s also, not Ben the husband that I need. I realize I have been really really lonely pretty much our whole relationship there’s certain things I ask him to do and he says he will do and then he doesn’t do them. Or things that I tell him are important to me and he says he hears me and then there’s no follow-through.. He knows my story. He knows what I’ve been through and he knows what I struggle with. I told him he should go on this trip because I wanted to be a good supportive wife, but now I regret saying that he didn’t take the time to have conversations and check in with me to see how I was processing the coming up trip and to see what he could do to make sure I would be OK and have a safety plan in place. I really just want him to come home. I need him to come home but he won’t. If the situation was reversed, I would try and get an earlier flight back. And he’s choosing not to. On one side I get it because this trip is important to himand spending time with his brother is important to him but also what about me? What about our family, he keeps saying how he wishes we were there with him, and he keeps experiencing stuff and seeing stuff that he wishes he could share. and that this is hard for him too. But in all the videos and pictures he sent he looks like he’s having a great time and I’m here broken into 1 million pieces with no one to help hold me together. I feel alone betrayed abandoned and left out. Things that I have felt throughout our marriage as a byproduct of his choices he asked me to give him Grace, but I have nothing left to give. I don’t know where this leaves us I think he expects to come home and everything’s just gonna be fine and that’s not the case. I don’t know what to do. I feel so defeated and letdown by the one person that’s supposed to have my back and the one person that supposed to be there for me for better or worse. And he’s not.

I can’t believe I am going through with it but I am. I am breaking all my bonds in this world and feel terrible for what I’m about to do but there’s no other possible solution. Not sure when or how but it’s on, and soon, man.

My fiancé and I have had a major blow up today and I am triggered, triggered, triggered. I don’t feel like he is being honest and actually it’s ok. The arguing is over and I can be free, finally.

I’m going to miss the real and only true love of my life and that is my dog, Sam. I have to believe he will be ok. I am praying our souls will remember each other in our next life together because I am determined to seek him out. I feel like we’ve been traveling together for eternity. Surely, we will continue to do so.

I am so happy to have had the opportunity to share my experiences here. More love and acceptance with the Mighty peeps than anywhere else! Much love to you all and please continue to support each other with love and compassion. That’s the only way. Until we meet again ❤️🙏😘 #SuicidalThoughts #PTSD #Depression #Anxiety #Osteoporosis #SpinalStenosis #chronic pain

I’m tired of trying. Ready to throw in the towel. Getting my will notarized and saying goodbye to this cruel world soon. The suicidal thoughts will never cease. I’ve had them since I was as young as I can remember. And here I am at 55 wanting to just go away, be gone. As trite as it sounds, everyone will be much happier without me.

#PTSD #ADHD #SpinalStenosis #Osteoporosis #Depression #Anxiety #SuicidalIdeation

I’m proud for making myself go walking alone without my fiancé (he was working) and instead with my dogs only the last two mornings. That’s pretty remarkable considering I don’t have great balance and have fallen several times when walking (I still have drop foot even after lumbar fusion). I logged a mile each day.

I’m also proud for getting up early, getting chickens out and fed, and making breakfast for my fiancé’s son before dropping him off at school. I spent yesterday planting some tea plants, starting some seeds and repotting a couple of other plants. I haven’t been able to do this in years!!!! Natural therapy 😊🌻☀️

Time management, depression, and distraction in addition to physical pain can be difficult for me to cope with. But, I did all of it and am so happy to have given myself these opportunities to grow.

if you want to share your experiences on this post with good days and days that aren’t so good, feel free to do so!

#ADHD #PTSD #Osteoporosis #SpinalStenosis #Depression

I had a creative and fun day yesterday in making more bases for my herbal products. I worked steadily and took breaks when I felt my body needed it. My fiancé delivered an order for me so I was very happy for his help and the order! I thoroughly enjoyed being in my zone and making things.

However, I am extremely sore and exhausted today. I got up early to help get my fiancé’s son to school, made his breakfast, let the chickens out, and could barely make it through those few things. Everything hurts so much, I am back in bed.

The “not knowing” part of how I am going to feel the next day gets old and it’s disheartening and it’s difficult to overcome the depression that goes with it. I’ve lost time with family and friends, plus, lost time I could have spent on projects or plans because of it.

I know you know what I’m talking about. Just wanted to share this with you today in case it could be helpful to know you’re not in this alone.

#ChronicPain #Osteoporosis #SpinalStenosis #Depression #PTSD #ADHD

Has anyone tried stem cell therapy where they use our our own cells and also, extract cells from a baby’s umbilical cord?There are places in Mexico that do this and the results have been pretty good at 85% pain reduction even for spinal stenosis.

Hi, my name is BrokenButterfly3. I've been diagnosed with

#MightyTogether #Depression , #PeripheralNeuropathy #Polymyalgia,#RheumatoidArthritis #inflammatory Arthrits#ChronicPain #cervical & Spinal Stenosis, #failed Spinal & Bilateral #P Hand Surgies#Anxiety #ADHD #Grief

Hi, my name is Goodluck12. I'm here because I believe I have arachnoiditis. This is probably caused by my major scoliosis surgeries several years ago. Now, I have trouble walking as my legs are very weak. The surgeries have also caused me to have spinal stenosis and I walk bent forward.
I like to know if anybody else have these problems. I would appreciate hearing from you. Thanks.
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Hi, my name is Floridaliving3866. I'm here because I have osteoporosis, osteoarthritis and spinal stenosis, spondylothesis and hope to share information and support with others

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #Osteoporosis #Osteoarthritis