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How to help a friend who is going through divorce and dealing with postpartum at the same time?

My friend who’s baby has only just turned 1, but she and her husband are going to separation (and divorce).
As her friend, I’m always on her side no matter what, of course.
She’s also told me that her postpartum is getting worse and she’s scared that she’s all alone.
So I said to her that she still has her baby and her parents. She aren’t all alone.
Also, that I’d be there for her no matter what and not to worry about bothering me. That she could let me know when she needs me for any help or anything. I even offered to help her with the baby. and I’d be there for her. I think my words cheered her up a little.
But, I’m just wondering what else is there I could say or do to help her. Any suggestions?
#PostpartumDepression #Friendsupport


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