It's ok to stop
Being codependent isn't only about loving an addict. I've played the role in more than 1 type of relationship. As you know from last night's post my daughter refuses to seek treatment for her mental illness. She can be very abusive both verbally and physically. My daughter will be 37 next month. It was easy to shut her down last night. I simply blocked her from texting me.
Now let me share with you the other current person I no longer play the role of codependent. My roommate that I was in a relationship with up until the end of last November. Right after we signed a new lease. He does abuse alcohol. Seems every day, I'm feeling more and more, that I'm communicating with a toddler. Last August was a nightmare for me. Loud music, lots of drinking, yelling over each other and over the music. The whole 🕙 I hid in my room. Big promise made then, won't drink until the new year. Not my first rodeo, 99.9% knew it wasn't going to happen, but the constant push is horrible. It's the same routine, like Groundhogs Day the 🎥. I get asked do you care if I have this few drinks. Before the first, I told him I didn't make the promise therefore I don't have the authority to break the promise. Today same question. Today's answer was, I have not changed my mind. I won't be changing my mind. If you drink I will go to my room. Then of course I'm the asshole. All those things I did for him without him asking has stopped.
Everything I say I feel like needs to end with,"that's my final answer". I've turned the corner and the only saving I'm doing is for myself. I'm happy to report even with all this happening, I'm still nicotine free for 16 days!
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