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    What they don't tell you in Sex-Ed..

    Part 1 of 2 Throughout my school years I attended many #sexedclasses they all covered different aspects however all had a very common theme in them which was “If you have #Sex without protection you WILL get pregnant” they went into great details about safe sex and how to practice it, they even spoke about options if you were to fall pregnant, and the help and support out there.I’m 25yrs old and I have carried those lessons around with me in my head for years but not because what I learned from them but because of what they were lacking, you see the word #Infertility never came up in those lessons, what it was or why it happened, never mind support for it. Instead I learned the word as I watched my older siblings battle against it as #Infertilitycame banging on their doors yet I was still absolutely clueless on the full meaning until it came banging on mine last year.Since then I’ve been on this journey that I was not prepared for, I’m in a rollercoaster that has sharp bends and big loops yet my seatbelt does not do up instead I’m having to hold on as tight as I can and try to grab supplies to fix my belt just as I’m collecting knowledge about this unknown subject a subject that I should of been taught on.What to do when you want to start a family yet your haunted with negatives every month?How to accurately track your ovulation days and how many days your cycles are?What to do if your not in a #Relationships but you want to become a Mummy? And the stigma around it?Information about sperm donorsInformation about IVFThe anger and grief you go through everyday and how it comes in waves and some of the waves can knock you down for what seems like weeks..How to deal with the overwhelming guilt you feel when you feel such pain when a family member or friend announces they are expectingConstant Dr appointments and the tests with the exact same responses “try to loose weight” “your time will come” “your still young you got time”Feeling such a type of broody that it actually hurtsMy life has become a draw full of pre-pregnancy supplants, ovulation tests, pregnancy tests, ovulation/period tracking tools, donor information, tables and charts and notes and Dr letters. I’m having to learn about all about this while living through it however I know exactly how to put a condom on and the different types of contraceptions there are and my rights if I wanted to terminated so why didn’t I know anything about #Infertility, how didn’t I know that #Infertility affects 84% of couples and half of women, how didn’t I know that there are so many different types of #Infertility ranging from just taking a long time to get pregnant to illnesses such as #PolycysticOvarySyndrome, how didn’t I know that the fact that I didn’t start my period till I was 18 could have something to do with my now issues to conceive, how didn’t I know that sometimes I won’t get a period but not because I’m pregnant but because my hormone levels can’t regulate, how didn’t I know that at just 25yrs old I would be experiencing isolating nightmare.I think that’s the main thing people forget to tell you about the trying to conceive journey is how #lonely it is, I struggle to connect with my peers because of how cut of this journey has made me, I feel like I’m in a prison where #Infertility are the bars while I’m looking through watching my friends and family live their lives, lives without negative tests, appointments, draw fulls of supplants and failed tests, baby clothes that stay in the closet for what may even be forever and there is nothing they or anyone can say to make this better.I wish they would of mentioned this all in sex ed, honestly that could of put people off the idea of reproducing all together because I wouldn’t wish this journey on anyone but at least I would of been prepared and that I wouldn’t have to be battling blind through this beast. #Infertility and trying to conceive needs to be spoken about more and it needs to be a conversation that is had at schools that

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    What they don't tell you in Sex-Ed..

    Throughout my school years I attended many #sexedclasses they all covered different aspects however all had a very common theme in them which was "If you have #Sex without protection you WILL get pregnant" they went into great details about safe sex and how to practice it, they even spoke about options if you were to fall pregnant, and the help and support out there.

    I'm 25yrs old and I have carried those lessons around with me in my head for years but not because what I learned from them but because of what they were lacking, you see the word #Infertility never came up in those lessons, what it was or why it happened, never mind support for it. Instead I learned the word as I watched my older siblings battle against it as infertility came banging on their doors yet I was still absolutely clueless on the full meaning until it came banging on mine last year.

    Since then I've been on this journey that I was not prepared for, I'm in a rollercoaster that has sharp bends and big loops yet my seatbelt does not do up instead I'm having to hold on as tight as I can and try to grab supplies to fix my belt just as I'm collecting knowledge about this unknown subject a subject that I should of been taught on.

    What to do when you want to start a family yet your haunted with negatives every month?

    How to accurately track your ovulation days and how many days your cycles are?

    What to do if your not in a relationship but you want to become a Mummy? And the stigma around it?

    Information about sperm donors

    Information about IVF

    The anger and grief you go through everyday and how it comes in waves and some of the waves can knock you down for what seems like weeks..

    How to deal with the overwhelming guilt you feel when you feel such pain when a family member or friend announces they are expecting

    Constant Dr appointments and the tests with the exact same responses "try to loose weight" "your time will come" "your still young you got time"

    Feeling such a type of broody that it actually hurts

    My life has become a draw full of pre-pregnancy supplants, ovulation tests, pregnancy tests, ovulation/period tracking tools, donor information, tables and charts and notes and Dr letters. I'm having to learn about all about this while living through it however I know exactly how to put a condom on and the different types of contraceptions there are and my rights if I wanted to terminated so why didn't I know anything about infertility, how didn't I know that infertility affects 84% of couples and half of women, how didn't I know that there are so many different types of infertility ranging from just taking a long time to get pregnant to illnesses such as PCOS, how didn't I know that the fact that I didn't start my period till I was 18 could have something to do with my now issues to conceive, how didn't I know that sometimes I won't get a period but not because I'm pregnant but because my hormone levels can't regulate, how didn't I know that at just 25yrs old I would be experiencing isolating nightmare.

    I think that's the main thing people forget to tell you about the trying to conceive journey is how lonely it is, I struggle to connect with my peers because of how cut of this journey has made me, I feel like I'm in a prison where infertility are the bars while I'm looking through watching my friends and family live their lives, lives without negative tests, appointments, draw fulls of supplants and failed tests, baby clothes that stay in the closet for what may even be forever and there is nothing they or anyone can say to make this better.

    I wish they would of mentioned this all in sex ed, honestly that could of put people off the idea of reproducing all together because I wouldn't wish this journey on anyone but at least I would of been prepared and that I wouldn't have to be battling blind through this beast. Infertility and trying to conceive needs to be spoken about more and it needs to be a conversation that is had at schools that students can be prepared for the future so that u like me they won't need to fight blind..

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    Trauma and Sex #Trauma #Sex

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    I have always been asexual. I’ve never had an orgasm with anyone. That leaves only masterbation if I want to feel pleasure. Even then it’s a struggle. I get loud messages in my head…stop! It turns out to be something filled with anger.

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    I can't shake this feeling #Relationships #Sex

    I don't know what it is, but in all of my relationships, my sex life has started off great and then, it just drops off and I become frustrated, sometimes angry, but mostly I feel like my partner is bored with me despite my own efforts to keep it going. I am with someone I want to spend the rest of my life with and we've had many conversations about this issue. It never seems to change anything and I just feel worse about myself as time passes. I cannot accept that this part of my relationship is just slowing down and I have no control over it. So I can't shake this horrible feeling it causes me. Sigh i don't know what to do anymore.......

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    Idk give me advice pls

    My partners in bed just aren’t aggressive enough. I know I’m probably having unhealthy sex, but I never feel satisfied, especially when my partner is gentle and “respectful”. My childhood trauma really has scarred me for life :( and I hate it because the only sexual relationships I seek are v dangerous, and if they don’t meet those qualifications I easily zone out and don’t enjoy at all. I hate it bc I’ve met some really nice guys who tries. Any advice?

    #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Advice #Sex #Hypersexuality #Selfharm #CPTSD

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