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Understanding the Language Used

Medical kidnapping and illegal seizure are terms rarely used in the medical, psychiatric and law community, but they are real terms. You can read about medical kidnapping on Attorney Allison Folmar web site. To explain it to you in terms you may understand. For example, you take you child to the doctors and your complains are regarding their vaccinations. You explain to the doctor that your child had a reaction to the previous vaccination and you do not want to get any more for your child. The doctor does not agree with you and tells you that if your child does not get the vaccine they will cite you for medical neglect, eventhough your child has had all their other vaccines, but due to your refusal the medical personnel at the hospital calls CPS and they arrive. CPS states that since you refused medical treatment, your child needs these vaccinations and that is why they are having medical problems, you disagree, but since the hospital made the call the Social Worker states they have to take the child. This was one example of medical kidnapping.

What was done wrong? Nothing

What could the parent have done differently? Nothing

Where her rights violated? Yes

Where did the child go? The CPS worker took the child to enter foster care, while the case is being created for you to go to court.

Is this legal? No, but Medical kidnapping is crime, but many Attorneys do not practice specifically in this type of crime and do not refer to it as such. Within the medical kidnapping, you have violations of other laws that aren't followed, such as civil rights violations, the 4th, 8th and 14th amendment. Depending on the state you live in there may be other violations.

How can this happen? Financial Incentive

Everytime a child comes into state care, the federal government pays the state agency money for each child. If your child has a disability that comes into foster care, the state receives additional money; therefore, the more kids in care, the more money the state receives. Now, to be fair and honest The State of Maryland Baltimore City Department of Social Services are mandated to uphold policies and procedures to ensure children are safe, but if you don't have an administration that is abiding by the laws, policies or procedures then your rights are violated.

Who advocates or speaks up for the child and parent? Y.O.U

If there are specific questions that need to be answered, please provide them. #Abuse #SocialServices #FosterCare #cps #medicalkidnapping #parentalalienation #narcissistic #triangulation #manipulation #Children #MentalHealth #lawyer

In the next part of this journey I will provide certain laws and terminology used, so you can understand them.

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My husband wants to help me so bad. He keeps trying to come up with ideas on how to magically fix everything. I can’t have children and I can’t afford IVF. It’s never going to happen for me unless some miracle happens… everyone’s favorite line to tell me anytime I mention infertility but I digress… he wants to fix it so bad he keeps trying to come up with ideas. He asked me the other day if he could just find someone who doesn’t want kids and get them pregnant (by IUI, not sex) and then they sign the baby over to me…. No woman is going to want to get pregnant and carry a baby for 9 months and then give it up intentionally unless they are getting paid for it in cases of surragacy. That’s not a solution. If we had the money for surrogacy we could just do the IVF. Surrogacy costs more than IVF. It’s all the same process except instead of going back inside of my body, it would go inside of theirs. If I could do that I would just want to carry the baby myself. My uterus is fine. My tubes are the problems so if we could do it I would but financially we can’t and it was a “time is of the essence” situation so we really don’t have time to do it later when we have the money. I have accepted adoption as being my only option. That’s okay with me. It’s taken me a lot of time to get to this point but we are certified foster parents now. We have been for a couple months now but haven’t gotten our first placement yet. I just don’t think he has accepted that yet. I think he yearns for children of his own and knowing he won’t ever have that with me bothers me so I know it has to bother him. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m doing the only thing that’s going to be able to make me happy but I’m hurting him at the same time. I want him to have what he wants in life too. And I have a million irrational fears about him leaving me or cheating to get some random girl pregnant just to be able to have a child that’s biologically his. I think I’m just crazy on that part but it’s still a fear in my mind. I know he loves me more than anything and he gives me the world 🌎. He is my best friend and my partner in life. Even though he is my everything, I still have breakdowns every now and again especially around my period just because I’m overly emotional at that time and that’s a reminder every month that I’m not ever be able to get pregnant. It’s hard enough dealing with a period but it’s worse with infertility. I think it breaks him somehow every time he sees me crying my eyes out over it. He feels like he has to be the superhero who swoops in and saves the day but he can’t in this situation. Can anyone else relate? I’ve reached the point where I’m feeling kind of alone in this. I know I’m not alone but I’ve just been kind of down lately. My state has a bad need for foster parents because you see signs everywhere asking for them but yet it’s been 5 going on 6 months since we were certified and we haven’t gotten a placement yet. #Infertility #Marriage #FosterCare #Adoption #lonely #relate #MentalHealth

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Hello #MightyINsighters how are you doing? Did you know that the month of May is National Foster Care Awareness Month? How are you comemmorating this month? #FosterCare #CheckInWithMe

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Who do you share your story of #Adoption and #FosterCare with? #Wanted #Chosen #Loved

Hello #MightyINsighters how are you? Here is a question to ponder 💭 who do you share your story with and how much of your story do you share? Let me know in the comments and if you want feel free to create your own post with your story or any questions you have! #CheckInWithMe #MentalHealth

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#FosterCare #aunt #niece #Family #proudaunt #empath #Empathy

I am in a weird place in general. I’m tired and I’m sad. I miss my family. I’m worried about them…consumed by my thoughts about them. Thoughts of them struggling and being afraid. It’s based on reality because I have heard all about the tears, the screaming, the anger, the fear, the frustration.

Took me a while to realize…that it was because things weren’t going great. They’re not happy and I’m picking it up.

Hence why I write to them when I can. I’m not legally family…I’m not their mother…all I can do…is be there.

I never thought I would feel so helpless. But…to be honest…it feels good to get this off my chest. If you hide your feelings…they just grow and grow…until they consume your very soul.

I’m a sensitive person…I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I’m just emotional. But I check the facts.

I always try to check the facts.

I already had my crying session. I feel better. Calmer. Now I will do my best to be an amazing aunt. The best I can be.

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A face in the dark

A warrior from within,

Cries tears of sorrow

"Warrior" by Ann Marie

My niece is in foster care right now. I haven't seen or talked to her in a long time. I miss her, so very much. It's taking a while for her and her brother to come home. And they are naturally frustrated. Everytime I watch the "Do you want to build a snowman?" music video I cry a little.

She just reminds me of Anna from Frozen.

She was always there for me. Whenever I had a difficult time...she lifted me up with her hijinks and silly antics. Now she's going through a difficult time herself...and I don't know how to be there for her.

I sent her mom some uplifting voice messages for my niece. Some music, some poetry. All this after a letter was already on its way to her mother. (I think I'm overdoing it xD).

I'm sorry, I just miss those kids so damn much. (Why am I apologizing? xD).

All in all, things are better health wise. I had my first treatment for Interstitial Cystitis. Heparin, it's called. It was a weird experience. A lot of relief afterward.

I was happy about that.

The pain was unrelenting and followed me wherever I went. I could barely get any writing done (insert sad face emoji).

I just miss my niece. And I am worried about my other nieces and nephews. Some of them (not all) don't have the best home life. So I worry about their mental health. I want the best for them. I want them to all have a good life, full of promise and happiness.

That's all I want.

#Family #InterstitialCystitis #icwarrior #FosterCare

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Welcome New #MightyINsighters !! I am so glad you are here! My name is Hilda Antje and I want to welcome you to my group! I am an adoptee and have also worked in foster care for three years. I am passionate about helping others connect and am always open to learning - please take a moment to introduce yourself and again welcome! #Adoption #FosterCare #insights

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What topics or post ideas would you my #MightyINsighters like to see in #newyears2022

What topics surrounding #Adoption #FosterCare would you like to see more of and why? Please let me know in the comments. Also what ways are there where we can grow our group? #CheckInWithMe #groups #Wanted #Chosen #Loved

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How can we shed more light on the topic of #Adoption

Hello #MightyINsighters How can we as a community lift up diverse voices in the world of #Adoption and #FosterCare I want this community to be supportive and a safe space for sharing the range of adoption and foster care stories. #CheckInWithMe #Wanted #Chosen #Loved #MentalHealth