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What are your thoughts on small talk?

In my experience, you either love small talk or you loathe it. (Let’s talk about the weather for eighteenth time, amiright?)

I admittedly don’t mind it. I’m pretty good at filling gaps in conversation, it doesn’t matter the audience or context. My secret? Asking people about themselves! But small talk can also be really anxiety-inducing if you’re constantly second-guessing the right topics and right timing.

I would also venture to say that my anxiety kicks in when there’s a lot of silence, so perhaps I need to examine my relationship with small talk through a more constructive lens! When does it become a positive trait vs. a dampening coping mechanism?

Share your thoughts with the group below.

#Anxiety #MentalHealth #Depression #SocialAnxiety #PhoneAnxiety #CheckInWithMe

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T-Mobile is Hurting Chronic Illness Patients; CEO Could Care Less

T-Mobile has recently decided to move along with the decision to remove the five dollar per line autopay discount from users who pay via credit card, apple pay, and Google Pay for the phone bills. For those with chronic illnesses, this is devistating. Let's dive into the problems with doing something like this and continuing to chose to be tone deaf to those begging for this not to happen.

Those who have chronic illnesses are largely just barely, if at all, making ends meet financially. You have families struggling to chose between eating and medications. You have people rationing medications because they can't afford to get all their prescriptions or pay for their treatments. Some of these treatments require cell phones. Having a family remain safe in a modern world requires cell phones. Cell phones contain apps and the ability for people to track their health. The service that comes with this does too.

In a recent patient support group, out of 50 patients present, 35 of them were affected by this change happening. People were in tears and terrified. Why? Because they require the connectivity the company offers them with the ability to keep their family connected together, and to be able to live their lives safely, efficiently, and as healthy as possible. For them, their payment dates don't line up correctly. They have to use credit to make their phone payments so that they have the services they need to work, to attend and find treatments, to track their health conditions, and so much more. Some have watches and connected devices they purchased to be able to help themselves. The only way they were ever able to gain access to these services was because of T-Mobile. Now they're stuck. They have payments due, and with this upcoming change they have no choice but to either cancel service (which they can't do because the company sold them new items before this became a reality advertising to them that well because of the autopay discount you're only really paying X amount per month now, so they were totally mislead.).
Multiple people shared the same sentiments. They had inquired if there would ever be something that these per line discounts would be taken away. They were told no, never. T mobile will always have these discounts no matter how you pay.
But meanwhile, that wasn't the case. They were lied to unknowingly by employees who were mislead to believe this too.

Now I am sitting in a support group with over 20 patients devistated, hurting, afraid. And they all tried contacting T-Mobile and all got the same responses that brushed them off.

The CEO had even said that it's only a smaller number of users who pay by credit anyways so it's not a big deal. You know who that small amount of customers is? It's us. It's those of us with chronic illnesses who missed a day of work this week because of a flare up and are now missing pay because FMLA doesn't Gurantee you any form of pay. It's us who have every last penny budgeted with nothing left over because of the rising costs of groceries and medications, it's us who have multiple lines because we have families, and it's us who are stuck when these payments don't align having to decide if we're going to have our medications or not because our phones double as a medium for us to access treatments and apps that are prescribed as part of our treatments. 5 dollars a line may not seem like alot, but in reality it's a ton for us.

The most disheartening and truly awful part of this is that the CEO could care less. He makes excuses about it and brushes it off, acting like it's totally no big deal. But for us it's a huge deal. For us we don't have the luxury of just simply changing how we pay. For us we don't have the luxury to be able to give up that 5 dollars a line. It's really not much to ask to just leave this the way it is. It's really not. I've been in on earnings calls. I've seen the margins of profit. Anyone can. And they're not hurting by any means. Yet the CEO thinks it's ok to just hurt people like this and not give a single care in the world. His words are empty. Actions are what speak, especially from CEOs. The most basic way to invest in your customers is to not do this. The company constantly touts all these charitable initiatives they participate in. But when their own customers are in great need, it's apparently just too much to ask for them to do the right thing.

To the CEO Mike Sievert, when you have chronic illnesses changes like this can be life or death, housing or no housing, medications or no medications. You don't have to budget to your last penny. You're lucky. You get sick and it doesn't matter to your wallet. But for us? It's like smacking the medications out of our hands. There's nothing left in the wallets. It's so harmful beyond belief. I've never seen people so upset over a change for a phone plan. But they are and it's for good reason. Don't write this off. Don't write them, us, off. I'm begging you. Patients are begging you. Just please listen. I don't understand why you don't seem to care and why you seem to just be plugging your ears and saying, but it's only a small amount of users. There's a reason Mike. It's us. It's those of us with chronic illnesses. It's those of us with rare diseases. We're that small group and it's killing us. Just please stop. You have that power. Exercise it before it's too late. You can't say nobody ever said anything because they have. You just are choosing not to listen. We're begging you to listen. Did you learn nothing from the pandemic we all just went through together?

(Note: it's not as simply as just switching phone plans for people. The company openly has advertised to us for years oh it's only this much a month with autopay and autopay has always meant it's only so much with autopay and it doesn't matter how you pay. They would present it in stores by saying things like "so you're really only paying this much a month.". They mislead people into believing that this was their monthly rates and then lead them to believe they wouldn't be paying more for it. They lead them to believe the price with autopay was the full on price of the plan alot of times. Now people are stuck. They're basically screwed over and the company could care less. They have balances due on devices that have to be paid off to switch networks. Or to switch to a prepaid option, etc. But prepaid options aren't doable for a lot of people. They just aren't. The cost ends up far too much and the service is lackluster at best leaving them vulnerable if something happens medically.)

Normally I wouldn't write about this here, but the sheer number of times in support groups this has come up lately is beyond alarming.

#consumer
#affordability
#ChronicIllness
#PhoneAnxiety
#PhoneAppsForPain
#cost
#PatientAdvocacy
#advocate
#LGBTQIA

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Good morning, have a blessed day.

Does anyone not like talking on the phone? I just don't like talking on the phone unless i need to. I always get #Anxiety before making a phone call. I even keep putting it off at times. I just find it stressfull and awk·ward knowing what to say. #TheMighty #MightyTogether #MentalHealth #PhoneAnxiety

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Celebrate your little wins against anxiety!

Hey everyone!

Matt here, one of The Mighty's senior editors. I don't know about you, but fighting against my anxiety often feels a little like trying to extinguish a fire with a water pistol. It just doesn't do enough, you know? But sometimes... sometimes, I have a little win.

Today, I called a scary government helpline about tax and I didn't have a panic attack or ask my partner to sit with me while I made the call.

I know, it might seem small, but for someone with phone anxiety, this is pretty stellar, if I do say so myself!

So, I'm feeling strong, and I'm feeling inspired. That's why I want to know:

💪 Name just ONE way you've shown anxiety who's boss over the past few days. 💪

It doesn't matter how big or small it is. Let's celebrate each other's wins! We've got this, Mighty fam!

#Anxiety #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #MentalHealth #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #Depression #PTSD #SocialAnxiety #PhoneAnxiety #PanicDisorder #AnxietyAttack #PanicAttack

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#mantra of the day

Today is a day I really need to keep simple. K.I.S.S.!😲🙄 I need a mantra to keep me focused. “Show up for yourself.” That works! Moment by moment of how can I make the best of this moment? Took a shower, hair,make up😬, tidied up the house, read for an hour(!😲),all done at a very leisurely pace;—basically trying to follow through actions, what ever those are at a given moment, that I know will benefit me.
What’s your Saturday mantra? How are you doing today?

Bipolar1 #SocialAnxiety
#situationaldepressionprogression #ADD /ADHD
#PhoneAnxiety

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#PhoneAnxiety /phobia

How is everyone doing with their fear over that nasty phone?😅I'm doing a bit (a bit!) better. I'm always optomistic. Different days bring different #mantras . Lately its #takecareofufinishedbusiness . Logically I know that calling back & responding to calls/people I've been avoiding lifts more weight off my soul. Success feels wonderful. Baby steps, baby steps. One step forward, two steps back is ok. If you strive to keep trying, KEEP TRYING!😀

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#PhoneAnxiety /phobia

Another "tool" to add to my #PhoneAnxiety tool belt. I'll try to be consistent with this advice. If you try it, or, have any other advice, please share!

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#phoneanixiety

#PhoneAnxiety ", just one facet of my social anxiety/GAD, reared its head after 2-plus decades of self- medicating. Sobriety brought me to health care professionals who explained my diagnoses of GAD, depression and ADD/ADHD. Phone anxiety? Who knew? I chuckle at myself, and the above advice; exposure to conversations via customer service reps, etc. The irony: those calls are easy and even fun for me; i'm in control of the conversation flow, and, I love "connecting" with others. Simple questions can lead to interesting conversations! While chatting with a customer service rep in the Phillipines (between his slow computer jumps) he asked if he could sing for me; he wants to audition for American Idol; wanted to know if he was good enough. Fantastic, I told him! A human connection, prompted by me, such as that--love it. BUT answering the phone? Being "forced" to shift my mental gears and dive into the realm of the unknown?? Call a friend or relative for a "casual" conversation??? THANKS TO AN ARTICLE I SPOTTED IN THE MIGHTY, I was guided on how to tell loved ones about my phone anxiety. That brought great relief for me, and the support i received has helped me relax enough to make a little progress!

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