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    Anyone else follow helpful/ kind Instagram quotes?

    I find it helps me to read them when I’m feeling off. :) was wondering if anyone likes to as well. #Instagram #Quotes #question #WhatHelpsYou #coping #Love #Kindness #MentalHealth

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    Difficult People: You never really know what someone's dealing with

    This new nurses aide at my pain doctor's office was really intrusive. And not very friendly. She was barely talkative or making eye contact. She seemed like she *really* didn't want to be there AT ALL.

    I asked to go to the bathroom, she said to wait, because the doctor might want a urine sample. Ok. No problem.

    Then we get in the room. I say if we're going to need a urine sample, can a get a glass of water?

    Here's where she gets weird.

    "Why do you need water if you just said you need to go to the bathroom?"

    "I just want a glass of water."

    "Didn't you just say you needed to go to the bathroom? Why do you need a glad of water?"

    I was pretty taken aback.

    "Never mind why I want one, will you just get me one?"

    After a few rounds more of this she agrees to have the other aide get me one. The other aide. Yeesh.

    She takes my vitals, some history questions, etc., then she finished. I'd been irritated the whole time about the bathroom/water incident, so as she finished, I felt like I had to say something ...

    "You know, you might want to not ask people questions about their bathroom habits, I have to say, I really didn't appreciate that."

    Anyway then she tried to explain-argue, repeating the BS about "you just wanted to go to the bathroom then you asked for water"... and finally I just told her, "Look, the issue isn't any of that -- it's that it's none of your business what I do in the bathroom or why, so please just stop!"

    Finally she left the room with an attitude of "okay I'm stopping this conversation now, crazy person," even though, well, you know.

    So on my way home I started thinking about how you truly never really know what someone is dealing with what they've been through or how much they're struggling to interact with you at the moment.

    Remembering that years ago I used to be so incredibly anxious, insanely and brutally self-conscious, profoundly insecure, and often just a few steps away from a full-blown, crawling on the floor panic attack. To the point that a lot of the time I could barely finish a sentence talking to a person, especially if I didn't know them well, without being obsessed about what they were thinking about me, and how I was coming across.

    Talking to people constantly put me on the edge of a panic attack, and often over that edge. And often that made me come across as being very awkward, very weird, "off" in some odd way, or even a little bit "creepy" because of it. Which of course sucked for me. I felt like people constantly misjudged me. I felt horrible about myself.

    Ok, sure, I'm still weird and awkward, but at a WAY lower volume. And my anxiety, insecurity, self-consciousness, and panic is a tiny fraction of what it used to be.

    So when I interact with someone who really rubs me the wrong way, I try really hard to remember how I felt, and keep in mind that I have no idea whatsoever how much they're struggling to interact with me in that moment and what sort of pain, anxiety, compulsive or horrible thoughts they're struggling with right then.

    Who knows what was going on in that woman's life in her head in her heart. I certainly don't. And she definitely didn't seem happy from the first moment I saw her.

    Of course I fail at this small kindness all the time, but I do try...

    All that said, I still told the doctor about it though, lol. Not to be petty, but because this woman needs to know that that's not how you treat patients and that's not how you act professional in a doctor's office, regardless of your issues.

    And that's some of what I learned for myself too. Is that it didn't really matter how I felt in a lot of situations, What mattered was how I was perceived, or what got done or what didn't get done, or how I made people feel.

    And I learned that it wasn't fair but that's how life is. We may be damaged and hurting but the world doesn't resolve around us.

    But also whenever possible, be as kind as possible. Because the world is chaotic and often cruel -- and our kindness can make a difference. Both to others, and to ourselves.

    #MentalHealth #Kindness #social #jerks #patience #difficultpeople

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    Making Presentations, Convincing Goldfish & Ending Controversy!

    Making Presentations, Convincing Goldfish & Ending Controversy! - #DwhellOnIt Episode 65

    📺 - tinyurl.com/pm9phwyx

    🗣 - "I can't be optimistic that we're going to solve it all when it comes to #trans #individuals . The conversation, and the controversy, all come from the same place. It comes from the same people, the same reasons and gets promoted by the same behaviours. It's all identical. If we can solve racism, we can solve transphobia, so I'm doing what I can. I'm not optimistic, but if I don't do anything about it, I don't have any right to complain about it happening either."

    ❓ - What's #DwhellOnIt ?

    👀 - Dwhell On It is a series where I answer your questions about my lived experience as a #trans woman!

    📺 - Follow the playlist! - tinyurl.com/nzbr8k27

    🔖 - Bookmarks!

    * What would it be if you had to do an impromptu presentation about a #trans -based topic?

    * How often do you experience transphobia, and how does that make you feel?

    * Is there anything that changes about you between your public and private life?

    * What is one thing you wish you could convince everyone to understand?

    * Do you think the controversy about #trans people will end during your lifetime?

    🔗 - Links!

    * #Canada Voted in Favour of Policing #women 's Bodies! - tinyurl.com/4exsn3kx

    * Does Sport Manitoba Fund Non-Inclusive PSOs? - tinyurl.com/yz6neakc

    * City of Winnipeg: Self-Declaration and Employment Equity - tinyurl.com/yckp2xjm

    * #Transgender Awareness Week - "Progress takes time, but it should not end with us going back in time." - tinyurl.com/mvujbsup

    * City of Winnipeg City Council Approves to Prefer #Kindness - tinyurl.com/4nf8w4jf

    * Mayoral candidate blames Indigenous men for violence against Indigenous #women . - tinyurl.com/4b73c6v4

    * Expectations, Responsibilities and Talking to Goldfish - tinyurl.com/mr3msk4w

    * How Presentation Affects Representation - tinyurl.com/6cyw8k39

    ‼️ - Like! Share! Subscribe!

    ➕ - Subscribe to see new episodes when they get uploaded! - tinyurl.com/26pfst7v

    ✉️ - Comment or DM your questions to get answered in a future episode!

    👍🏻 - Please like and share!

    👱🏼‍♀️ - Look Me Up!

    @TaylorLakhryst: #Transgender woman, advocate, INFJ, ♊️, she/her/hers 🏳️‍⚧️

    * Linktree: linktr.ee/TaylorLakhryst

    👀 - Fight Against Hate!

    📣 - End anti-2SLGBTQIA+ abuse! - tinyurl.com/2p98f8hc

    📣 - Biased systems, ignorant platforms, violent abusers and isolated victims stay ongoing.

    📣 - Grassroots power comes from its people! Get involved or refer others you know to challenge systemic violence and oppression!

    💻 - You Can Help!

    @HireWheller: A grassroots group to help the 2SLGBTQIA+ community overcome often-minimized struggles.

    * Instagram: tinyurl.com/5n6dm696

    * Facebook: tinyurl.com/6pww46b8

    * Twitter: tinyurl.com/26sbj4zb

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    * Text: Dwhell on it with Taylor Lakhryst! Making Presentations, Convincing Goldfish & Ending Controversy! - Episode 65 - HIREWHELLER

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    #manitoba #winnipeg #Sports #Lesbian #LGBTQ #LGBTQ #demisexual #equality #Gratitude

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    The emotional pain of families disinterest.

    I find it deeply sad and soul destroying, that if I mention what I’m struggling with to my loved ones, the answer seems #yesweknow when wanting to share the rapid intensification of #symptoms of either #Bipolar or #BPD or #Depression etc…

    Please remember friends, find your tribe. The people who #Suffer and live with what you do. This is where the #Understanding and #Kindness you’re seeking will be found.
    I don’t believe anyone, no matter how much they love you, can even get a tiny glimpse of your #emotionalpain .
    Don’t blame,, find others who feel and understand and have similar #mentalillnesses .
    I hope this little nugget helps you in your #journey back to you.
    Bipolarlinedeb ♥️🌹🌹

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    When the Darkness Falls

    As the night fall comes illuminating the views with shades of the sunset aglow, dancing just above the rolling mountain tops...it is now my mind begins to flow...to wonder...to dream a new day...

    Hoping for a tomorrow, visions of happiness, joy, life beyond...Beyond this place I'm stuck in...

    The evening seems a little quieter still, if that's even possible...only creaks of the house will I hear...

    Followed by the evening sights & sounds of nature...Lightening bugs dance...Crickets chirping, rustling of the brush, with squirrels, deer, rabbits..

    Nature without a hint of human existence.

    The days seem to simultaneously flash by in slow motion...Into the night...

    Day in day out, the phone never rings, the only time it gets its use is when I reach out to others..Or spam...

    I wonder if they'll want to call when they no longer can...I wonder if they'll think of me like I think of them...I often wonder how the knot that tied us together shredded so easily after I became ill...

    Was I only worthy when I was able to do everything for them? Was I only valued for what I gave and not for who I am? To them?

    I often dream to be someone worthy of them, but that someone is not me...

    No matter what the future holds, I know Ill always be remembered as the "woman" that loved & gave with her whole heart...and never asked for anything in return...I didn't ask, I didn't expect...

    Here Im left piecing myself back together...

    Without regret, learning to love myself

    Love with your whole heart, not bits & pieces..

    #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Depression #Anxiety #conqueryourmind #Ileostomy #Trauma #liveloved #Kindness #Loveothers #givegrace

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    Special Item

    OK. This is probably weird but I am giving it a try. So say you are going to a place, any place, doesn't matter, and you can't bring people or pets, so you have one item you are allowed to bring with you. What would your special item be? Have some fun with this, I hope! #Friends #Friendship #friendships #MightyTogether #MentalHealth #FamilyAndFriends #New #lonely #alone #NoOneFightsAlone #StrongerTogether #Together #SocialInteraction #social #wellness #EmotionalHealth #Health #relate #Chat #Share #post #safe #SafeSpace #Connections #Positivity #positive #Fun #Mindful #Mindfulness #Kindness #ActsOfKindness #ActOfKindness Self-esteem Self-worth #self -love #Confidence #Life #Lifestyle

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    Getting Outed, Getting Older, Trends & Ex-Girlfriends

    📺 - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 59 - tinyurl.com/3pdekfkn

    🗣 - "I acknowledge that there are failed systems. I don't go to bed worrying about it. I don't lose #Sleep over it. It's because other #people are failures. Other #people are emotionally intolerant. Other #people are incapable of being compassionate, understanding, educatable, or competent, or however it goes. That's all them. Every time I get deadnamed or misgendered, I stand taller because I'm the better person."

    ❓ - What's #DwhellOnIt ?

    👀 - Dwhell On It is a series where I answer your questions about my lived #experience as a #trans woman!

    📺 - A new episode gets uploaded every week! - tinyurl.com/nzbr8k27

    ‼️ - Get engaged!

    ➕ - Subscribe for more episodes & similar #Content ! - https://tinyurl.com/mupvwkcy

    ✉️ - #Comment w/ thoughts & questions!

    👍🏻 - Please #like & #Share !

    🔖 - Bookmarks!

    * Do you #Love or hate any #Fashion trends differently since you came #Out ?

    * Has anyone ever outed you before you came #Out ?

    * What was puberty like for you?

    * How do you cope with being deadnamed or misgendered?

    * Has anyone from previous relationships found #Out , and have they spoken with you since?

    🔗 - Links! 

    * Does anyone misgender you whom you wish they wouldn't? Have you confronted them about it? - tinyurl.com/2s4avx9m

    * How do you deal with trolls? Is there anything you want to do to trolls? - https://tinyurl.com/mstf6jm9

    * What was the best reaction you got after you came #Out ? The worst? The most surprising? - https://tinyurl.com/4ky5hdfu

    * #Canada Voted In Favour of Policing Women's Bodies! - https://tinyurl.com/56b67cr9

    * #winnipeg City Council Approves To Prefer #Kindness - https://tinyurl.com/4nf8w4jf

    👀 - Create #change !

    📣 - End anti-2SLGBTQIA+ abuse! - tinyurl.com/2p98f8hc

    📣 - You can #help ! Everything inspiring HireWheller stays ongoing - biased systems, ignorant platforms, violent abusers & isolated victims.

    📣 - Grassroots #power comes from its #people ! Get involved or refer others you know to challenge systemic violence & oppression!

    💻 - Connect!

    @HireWheller: A grassroots group to #help the 2SLGBTQIA+ #Community overcome often-minimized struggles.

    #Instagram : tinyurl.com/5n6dm696

    #Facebook : tinyurl.com/6pww46b8

    #Twitter : tinyurl.com/26sbj4zb

    👱🏼‍♀️ - Look me up!

    @TaylorLakhryst: #Transgender woman, advocate, INFJ, ♊️, she/her/hers 🏳️‍⚧️

    Linktree: linktr.ee/TaylorLakhryst

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    * Text: Dwhell on it w/ Taylor Lakhryst Ep. 59 - Getting Outed, Getting Older, Trends & Ex-Girlfriends - HIREWHELLER

    * Description: A blonde woman wearing a striped grey t-shirt and a grey sweater is smiling & sitting on a black chair in front of a beige wall. There is turquoise text with a grey & black accent.

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    How Presentation Affects Representation - #DwhellOnIt Ep. 56

    📺 - tinyurl.com/6cyw8k39

    🗣 - "Taylor Lakhryst was an undecided voter who participated in a #CBC program called Face to Face during last year's federal election campaign. While being on the show gave her a chance to ask questions of a party leader, she felt CBC's production choices spoiled the experience by making her appear inept and powerless."

    ❓ - What's #DwhellOnIt ?

    👀 - Dwhell On It is a series where I answer your questions about my lived experience as a #trans woman!

    📺 - A new episode gets uploaded every week! - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLr2CrTrMJaIzM7ETpDxpMcGHhJ1TPxPq4

    ‼️ - Get engaged!

    ➕ - Subscribe for more episodes & similar #Content ! - www.youtube.com/TaylorLakhryst

    ✉️ - #Comment w/ thoughts & questions!

    👍🏻 - Please like & #Share !

    🔖 - Bookmarks!

    "While you expressed #Gratitude for the #Opportunity to provide visibility on the subject of abuse toward the 2SLBGTQIA+ #Community , you felt that #CBC made choices which diluted your appearance. It left you feeling, if not misrepresented, then underrepresented."

    It feels as if #CBC chose to represent me as what I interpret as inept, powerless, and stuck with candy-coated concerns because who I am isn't palatable enough for Canadians who can't cope that #people such as myself strive to inspire and create #change .

    #social platforms highlighted my segment as being of the utmost importance on an issue that had not been placed front and centre in the campaign until my appearance.

    I continued to focus much of my argument on the treatment of my introductory video. I emphasized how problematic it was that this video highlighted "my love for #Sports and karaoke" while omitting more substantive #Comments about the importance of placing responsibility for bigotry and hate-based abuse on the abusers rather than the victims.

    "I'm an undecided voter because" and "Let's be #leaders …" were extracted from two completely different sections of what I provided. #CBC created that line and not me, and I'm not sure if that is conducive to "accuracy."

    "You stated that you followed all the directives given to you in advance by producers, yet you were the only one of the four participants given less than 40 seconds of airtime."

    "You also reiterated that #CBC exercised poor judgment when it failed to include your exchange about pronouns with #ErinOToole .”

    #CBC watered me down and presented me with the safest, most palatable and most comfortable image they could build based on the information I provided.

    "Your complaint is, first and foremost, a reminder that the stories journalists tell are not really "theirs." They are the stories of real #people with real lives, ambitions, and concerns."

    Journalistic Standards and Practices covers much ground regarding ethical #Journalism but doesn't cover specific circumstances.

    "There is more debate to be had about editing your introductory video … it's clear that those producers took two risks with your video."

    "On your frustration that the #question you asked on the show was "negotiated," … I worried it meant that programmers were forcing you to ask the questions that they wanted."

    🔗 - Links!

    How Presentation Affects Representation - tinyurl.com/yc26c89x

    Your Friends Appreciate a Random Check-In Call or Text More Than You Realize - tinyurl.com/3hbad7au

    What four undecided voters asked #ErinOToole | Face to Face 2021 - tinyurl.com/2p8ntybn

    #Media and #Journalism are transphobic. I was on #CBC News: The National Face to Face - tinyurl.com/5yfc9a65

    #Canada Voted In Favour of Policing Women's Bodies! - tinyurl.com/56b67cr9

    Is there anything that #people expect you to be good at but are very bad at? - tinyurl.com/br4j293z

    #CBC News: The National | #ErinOToole , Alberta's deadly COVID-19 surge, TIFF returns - tinyurl.com/4mvaemvy

    👀 - Create #change !  

    📣 - End anti-2SLGBTQIA+ abuse! - act.newmode.net/action/hirewheller/csr

    📣 - You can #help ! Everything inspiring HireWheller stays ongoing - biased systems, ignorant platforms, violent abusers & isolated victims.

    📣 - Grassroots #power comes from its #people ! Get involved or refer others you know to challenge systemic violence & oppression!

    💻 - Connect!

    @HireWheller: A grassroots group to #help the 2SLGBTQIA+ #Community overcome often-minimized struggles.

    Instagram: https://instagram.com/hirewheller

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HireWheller-103322085282334

    #Twitter : https://twitter.com/HireWheller?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw

    👱🏼‍♀️ - Look me up!

    TaylorLakhryst: #Transgender woman, advocate, INFJ, ♊️, she/her/hers 🏳️‍⚧️

    Linktree: linktr.ee/TaylorLakhryst

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    * Text: Dwhell on it w/ Taylor Lakhryst Ep. 56 - How Presentation Affects Representation - HIREWHELLER

    * Description: A blonde woman wearing a black sweater is smiling & sitting in front of a beige wall. There is white text with a yellow & purple accent.

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    #Gratitude #Opportunity #social #Sports #Comments #leaders #canadian #gender #grateful #interview #manitoba #News #Out #Respect #Safety #Success #winnipeg #Youtube #active #Activism #Anxiety #athlete #Business #causes #Charity #donate #Energy #equality #Fundraising #Lesbian #LGBT #LGBTQ #Kindness #marketing #Media #nonbinary #philanthropy #Pride

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    Kindness is a sign of strength…

    I saw this today, and it just resonated with me. We have choices in how we behave, especially towards what we perceive as rudeness, or even anger in another person. We don’t have to fuel a fire..We can choose to be kind, calm, and self-disciplined. Even if we’re secretly losing our composure when faced with certain people in life. We can choose to fake it till we make it, if we have to deal with rude and uncouth people..Usually, it’s people who are trying to manipulate or get their own way, or those with a sense of self-entitlement, I see that as rudeness. I also see a general disregard, a discourtesy for another’s feelings, or for a persons space as rudeness. We don’t have to acquiesce to the rudeness of someone though.

    #Kindness #strength #Emotions #higherground #Selfesteem #RiseAbove

    #Depression #PTSD #insecurity #FamilyAndFriends

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