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Navigating a Lifelong Journey

I’ve been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks since I was 15. What started as anxiety in high school grew into irrational phobias during my later teenage years and adulthood.

Over the years, I’ve explored a range of treatments, including many SSRI and benzodiazepine medications. While these medications offered temporary relief, I eventually chose to move away from them. I’m now medication-free and rely on alternative strategies like meditation, mindfulness, and self-discipline to manage my anxiety and panic attacks.

Through this ongoing journey, I’ve come to see anxiety as a lifelong challenge that I manage rather than cure. Although it has brought many difficulties into my life, it has also led to personal growth and increased self-awareness. While I wouldn’t call anxiety a gift, I’ve learned to appreciate the lessons it has taught me.

I’m here to connect with others who understand this ongoing struggle. I’m eager to learn from your experiences and strategies for managing anxiety and panic attacks, and I also hope to offer support and share what I’ve learned along the way.

Looking forward to connecting with you all and learning together.


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I’m new here!

Hi, my name is Crash1972. I'm looking for other like minded individuals, who seek healing and growth from Trauma, Complex PTSD, GAD, Med Resistant Depression, Panic Disorder and Social Phobias. I’m a vet, a father, an emergency services worker (Wildland Firefighter and All Risk Dispatch Captain as well as a Peer Support person on a CISM Team (training in progress)). I have recently had my first Ketamine IV infusion and have. even in therapy and Dual Diagnosis since 2008. I’m an avid reader of psychology books, my favorites being “The Body Keeps the Score” Dr Bessel van der Kolk, “Waking the Tiger” Peter A. Levine and “Dopamine Nation” Anna Lembke. Although my first Ketamine session was challenging, a lot of good came from it, and I will continue with two sessions a week for 4 to 6 weeks. I’m here to learn, support, share and heal, and I hope to find comradere and like mindedness as well as support with understanding and experiencing the journey of Ketamine therapy. I wish everyone well, healing and happiness!! nice to be here and meet you all. I’ve been dealing with trauma from a young age, and am amazed at where the science has come from and to, and am excited for the hope and future of healing process.

#MightyTogether #Anxiety #Depression #ADHD #PTSD #ChronicPain #Colitis

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#PatternsofDepression #ADHD

If there were definite triggers for depression, an upcoming divorce is. Being newly diagnosed with #ADHD hasn’t helped. It’s the ADD part I have so much trouble coping with. Distractions, my mind acting like thousands of table tennis balls are trying to get my attention. Hyper focused losing track of time. Speaking with a therapist and realizing just how long I’ve had this frustrating neuro-deficiency even in elementary school. Learning my first few teachers weaned me tested for mental retardation in those days and my mother refusing. I always felt like I was behind my grade level by a year. Now my psychiatrist wants a psychological genetic test done. My only granddaughter is on the spectrum with HIGH functioning ability. Learning from my daughter that it’s quite possible it’s hereditary. Some of the traits in her I definitely remember early on so long ago. My wife doesn’t want me to take the genetic test. I do if only to understand why I do the things I do, oftentimes don’t do. I’ve always felt a little different than everyone else. The socal anxiety stuff and my phobias I have no idea where they came from. The fear of heights, bridges, social situations, large crowds of people, fear of rejection as well as the unknown. Am I crazy? Is this my normal? I’ve so much to be grateful for yet I’ve always had a negative, cynical mindset which infects those I love the most until it cascades into failed relationships. My only daughter has studied autism and ADHD so much so she can be a better parent and what to expect. I’m uneasy about the upcoming test results and hoping for the best. I’m reading all sorts of self help books to stop the self-destructive patterns or at least cope better. My ability to multitask has been miserable my whole life. If I can just focus on 1 goal or task at a time, I’m fine. And yet when I hyper focus I tune everything and everyone out. And I’ve always done just enough to get by, which is the very definition of mediocrity. One more thing, I don’t like change and this is a big one. Though it really wasn’t unexpected because I keep torpedoing every relationship I’ve been in. I just want to more fully understand why my brain doesn’t function like the rest of my friends I’ve ever known so I can improve my relationships with my loved ones. I’m setting my expectations lower in order to not be disappointed as much. Is that a bad thing?

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Night, Night All

We are the night shift.

We are the program

that ran this world before you came.

You are the inexperienced,

Who will write your own programs,

create your own destiny.

We will wait until you ask the right questions,

make the same mistakes we did.

We will explain, while you complain.

We will nurse you through your

blunders, your errors, your nighttime terrors.

We are calm and find your hysterics

our only amusement

(Oh how it reminds us of our history,

our own folly and stupidity

Before the relentless march of truth

over our egos, our dreams.

You will rail against us and call this world,

this life a prison and us as your warders,

not realising that we are just mirrors

held up against your own fears.

We are shepherds, all else is your imagination,

Trying to dump your phobias on our doorstep.

When realisation dawns, you will see the truth

and cry over your past mistakes

but we will be long gone by then.

The door to understanding will have closed

and we will have slipped out into the night,

taking our regrets with us,

for those we have hurt in our attacks

based upon own failures of understanding...

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Doctors stink! 🤨

Good morning fellow Mightyers. How are you all doing?

I've had several downs lately and a hit after another. First, a doctor's visit who was rude to my mom and me. He would put his hand out to our faces to make us stop talking as we tried to explain to him our answers to the stupid paper form I filled out. He just wanted a yes or no response from us by the look of things. Then I had two problems today over a online game which I know it seems silly but that is how tired I am of problems and negativity and rude people. And to make matters even harder, today is Ash Wednesday and we are suppose to be kind to others. Well, year round actually, but to me, it is impossible now. I keep getting hurt by others, physically, mentally and emotionally.

how do you deal with problems that affect you physically, emotionally, and mentally?

#Depression #chronicnerves #SocialAnxiety #Diabetes #phobias

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Brainspotting Therapy: An In-Depth Guide to Healing Trauma

Within the broad field of psychotherapy, a multitude of approaches and strategies are available to assist people in recovering from traumatic situations. Brainspotting is one such strategy that has become more popular in recent years. However, what precisely is this technique, and how may it support the healing process?

The human brain remains a mystery in many respects. While we've made remarkable strides in understanding its complex structure and functions, the intricacies of how trauma imprints on our brain are still unfolding. Brainspotting emerges at this intersection, offering a profound insight into trauma-informed therapeutic approaches.

What is Brainspotting?

Brainspotting, a relatively recent entrant in the field of psychotherapy, came to prominence in the early 2000s under the guidance of Dr. David Grand. Dr. Grand's groundbreaking discovery revolved around the idea that specific eye positions, or "brainspots," served as windows to areas of unprocessed trauma within an individual's brain. By pinpointing these specific positions, therapists could access and address lingering trauma that may not be readily accessible through traditional therapeutic methods.

The foundational principle of Brainspotting lies in its unique approach to therapy. Rather than merely engaging in talk therapy, Brainspotting delves deep into the emotional and physiological realms of a person's experiences. By focusing on these "brainspots," the therapy aids in tapping into and releasing deeply ingrained emotional and bodily pain. This technique provides an avenue for individuals to confront and process traumas, which might have been suppressed or overlooked in other therapeutic settings.

How Does Brainspotting Work?

The fundamental tenet of Brainspotting is the close relationship between the body and brain, particularly in the context of trauma. When someone experiences trauma, their body has physical marks in addition to psychological wounds.

Brainspotting operates on the premise that the direction in which one looks can affect the way one feels. The therapist identifies a "spot" – an eye position correlated with the activation of a traumatic memory. By focusing on this spot, a client can access and process previously unaddressed trauma.

Moreover, the midbrain – an often overlooked part of our brain involved in processing emotions – plays a pivotal role in Brainspotting. By targeting this area, Brainspotting allows individuals to bypass the conscious, thinking part of their brain and tap directly into the emotional and somatic parts.

Key Benefits of Brainspotting

Accelerated Access to Trauma Sources: Traditional therapies might take time to reach the root of trauma. Brainspotting offers a more direct route.

Promotes Deep Processing: By honing in on specific 'brainspots', the therapy facilitates a deeper, more targeted processing of pain.

Versatility: While Brainspotting originated as a trauma therapy, its applications have expanded. It's now used for anxiety, depression, and even performance enhancement in sports or arts.

Differences Between Brainspotting and EMDR

Brainspotting and EMDR, both innovative therapeutic interventions designed to address trauma, do share similarities, particularly in their recognition of the connection between eye movements and trauma processing. However, the methodologies and primary objectives of each differ significantly. EMDR operates on a structured eight-phase protocol that uses bilateral stimulation, often in the form of guided eye movements, to help clients desensitize and reprocess traumatic memories. The aim is to change the way these traumatic memories are stored in the brain, reducing their emotional charge and making them less distressing to the individual.

In contrast, Brainspotting, while also acknowledging the role of eye movements, places emphasis on locating specific eye positions or "brainspots" that correlate with emotional and physical reactions to trauma. Once these points are identified, the therapy facilitates deep processing to release the emotional pain associated with the trauma. Its approach is seen as more fluid and adaptable, with therapists often tailoring sessions based on a client's unique needs and responses. This individual-centric flexibility distinguishes Brainspotting from the more regimented structure of EMDR, allowing therapists greater latitude in addressing the intricacies of personal trauma.

The Brainspotting Session

For those considering Brainspotting, understanding what a typical session entails can ease potential anxieties:

Preparation: A therapist will guide you into a relaxed state, ensuring you feel safe and comfortable.

Identification: Through various techniques, the therapist will help identify your 'brainspot' related to specific trauma or emotion.

Processing: Once the brainspot is identified, you'll be asked to focus on it. The therapist may use bilateral sounds or music to enhance processing.

Closure: The session will conclude ensuring you feel grounded and stable.

Sessions typically last about an hour, but the duration can vary based on individual needs.

Who Can Benefit from Brainspotting?

While Brainspotting is immensely beneficial for trauma survivors, its range of applicability is wide:

Trauma Survivors: Whether it's a one-time event or prolonged exposure, Brainspotting can help process the trauma.

Mental Health Issues: Those battling anxiety, depression, or phobias have found relief with this therapy.

Performance Enhancement: Athletes, musicians, and performers use Brainspotting to break through performance blocks.

Potential Limitations and Considerations

As with any therapeutic approach, Brainspotting may not be suitable for everyone:

Intensity: Some individuals might find the process emotionally intense or overwhelming.

Qualified Professionals: The therapy's effectiveness heavily depends on the therapist's expertise.

Finding a Qualified Brainspotting Therapist

It's paramount to find a therapist trained in Brainspotting:

Certifications: Look for professionals who have undergone Brainspotting training and have certification.

Good Fit: It's essential to find a therapist you resonate with, ensuring trust and comfort during sessions.

Brainspotting is a transformative therapy that has changed countless lives. While it offers a deep dive into the psyche, it's essential to approach it with an open mind and the guidance of a qualified professional.

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Childhood Anxiety Disorder: A Guide for Parents

Part 1 of 2 As parents, our primary concern is to ensure the well-being and happiness of our children. However, when childhood anxiety comes into the picture, it can be a difficult and distressing experience for both the child and the parent. Childhood anxiety is more common than most, affecting millions of children worldwide. In this comprehensive guide, we will explore what childhood anxiety disorder is, its characteristics, how to recognize the symptoms, and most importantly, how parents can play an important role in helping their child navigate in this difficult time.

Understanding Childhood Anxiety Disorder

Childhood anxiety refers to psychological states in which a child experiences fear, anxiety, and panic attacks that limit their daily activities and enjoyment of childhood. It is important to recognize that anxiety is a normal part of life and acts as a catalyst protection of the device. However, when anxiety is severe and persistent, it can significantly affect a child’s emotional, social, and academic performance.

There are several common childhood anxiety disorders, e.g.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD): Children with GAD may worry excessively about a variety of everyday issues such as schoolwork, health, or safety. They often try to control anxiety and are too perfectionist.

Separation Anxiety: Children with separation anxiety experience intense fear and sadness when separated from their parents or primary caregivers. This fear can lead to severe distress and reluctance to attend school or participate in activities at a distance.

Social Anxiety: Children with social anxiety are very introverted in social situations and fear being embarrassed or unfairly judged by others. They may avoid socializing or experience physical symptoms such as shyness, sweating, and tremors.

Specific phobias: Specific phobias are intense fears and avoidance of specific objects, situations, or animals, such as high places, spiders, or darkness

Identifying childhood anxiety symptoms

Identifying the symptoms of childhood anxiety is important for early intervention and support. Keep in mind that every child is different and symptoms can vary. Some common symptoms of childhood anxiety include:

Excessive worry: Constant worry about everyday situations, even when there is no reason to worry.

Physical Symptoms: Abdominal pain, headache, muscle tension, or other physical symptoms without a medical explanation.

Sleep problems: Difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or frequent nightmares.

Avoidance Behavior: Avoidance of anxiety-provoking situations or activities such as socializing, school, or extracurricular activities.

Perfectionism: He is troubled by his striving for perfection and his inability to meet high standards imposed on himself.

Anger: Unexplained anger or outbursts of anger, usually associated with overheard emotions.

Supporting Your Child with Anxiety

As a parent, you play an important role in helping to guide your child through his anxiety challenges. Here are some practical ways to help your child with anxiety.

Open Communication: Create a safe and open environment where your child feels comfortable expressing their feelings and concerns. Listen deeply to their feelings and amplify their emotions, reassuring them that it is okay to feel anxious sometimes.

Educate yourself: Learn about childhood anxiety to gain a deeper understanding of what your child is going through. This knowledge can help you respond with empathy and get the right help.

Be patient: Be patient and understand your child’s progress. Recovering from anxiety takes time, and there can be obstacles. Celebrate their small successes and encourage them to keep trying.

Avoid avoidance: While it’s important to respect your child’s boundaries, slowly encourage them to face their fears. Avoiding anxiety-provoking stimuli may provide short-term relief but can reinforce fear in the long run.

Teach coping strategies: Help your child develop coping strategies to deal with anxiety. Relaxation exercises, mindfulness techniques, and positive self-talk can be powerful tools for managing anxiety.

Set reasonable expectations: Avoid putting too much pressure on your child in class or in extracurricular activities. Set reasonable expectations and emphasize effort over perfection.

Seek Professional Help: If your child’s anxiety is critically affecting his or her everyday lifestyles and functioning, recollect looking for expert help from a certified intellectual fitness expert. Treatments which include cognitive behavioral remedy (CBT) may be very powerful in treating youth tension disorder.

Taking care of yourself


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Depression and its creeping phobias

I feel incredibly guilty. I planned to visit my bestie of 35 years in Connecticut this week to see him and his new house. We haven't seen each other in almost 3 years. The day came and I talked myself out of getting on the plane. This fear happens sometimes but lately it's all the time. Not sure how this phobia links to my depression, but the real issue is I lied to my friend because I just didn't want to explain my mental paralysis, especially when it sounds so irrational. I've flown all over the world. This was a short 2 hour flight. But I couldn't do it. Now I have a week at home to lie around and hate myself for it. My suitcase still sits at the front door. I'm riddled with shame.
Thanks for allowing me to be 100% honest. Sometimes even the ones closest to me forget I have these unpredictable internal meltdowns because I'm always putting on my best life-loving positive performance, to the degree that some people actually deny I have depression (like I'm wrong about myself).

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I would like to tell you what Spinocerebellar Ataxia Type 1 has done to my body and mind...

Peace of mind is my biggest challenge because stress, depression, fears and phobias are my best friends and all my problems seem unsolvable and incurable. The body says everything is fine, and the mind thinks otherwise. It panics and creates fatal scenarios. It dominates me, not I him.

I bonded with a stalker and bully who whispered to me for years that she would come, until she finally came ... and dragged me down, even though I was already pretty down.

The spirit wants more than the body can do. Physical activity depends on health, but health also depends on physical activity. Lack of coordination, balance, agility, and regret over lost activity. Limitations and changes in perspective. Lowering expectations and increasing success factors. Functionality becomes a training goal and determines future and current exercises.

It ruined my life and put me on a losing position, deprived me of the chance to achieve my life goals, forced me to change them and focus on intellectual activities. And I helped her, too. I gave up what I was doing. For fear of losing something in the future, I lost it now. I could not go back and continue because even if the opportunities are smaller, the dreams and desires are the same. I wanted to, and I could not, but I did not know what to want either. Everything alternately and completely randomly, without any stabilization.

I am afraid for my present and future health, my finances, my attractiveness, my loneliness, my immobility, my dependence on others and for the mess my husband is in. And I must admit that the question often goes through my mind, what to do in this life for the future...

Accept the present. Yes, acceptance and surrender is a difficult thing because it means accepting the worst, fighting to the death and knowing that it may not do any good because no one knows what is happening in our lives and why. Acceptance and nothing else, because I will always be full of regrets and never forgive her, I only dream of not breaking down when the scales of victory tip to her side…

All my stories are on the blog.

#MentalHealth #RareDisease #ChronicIllness #Disability

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Persevering forever..

In episode 8 of Creative Copes Podcast we talk about how the anxiety/panic attacks can turn into disorders and the havoc it can wreak on someone's life. Stress is a normal part of life and everyone experiences it in different ways. But stress, even BIG stress, is not a disorder. It is bothersome, it can cause pain and anguish, and mirror most of the same symptoms that anxiety presents as.
We touch on anticipatory anxiety, specific phobias and each of our struggles with the invisible monster. We share some intimate details of life that are definitely not easy to openly admit. The vulnerability game is high in this episode. We hope that you can recognize that you are NOT alone, that we all suffer differently (but there is no one "right" way to struggle), and we all recover at our own pace. Be gentle with yourself. It's rough enough out there as it is.
♥ We dive deeper in the blog, Wisdom Walks, on our website:
#creativecopes #creativecopespodcast #podcast #wellness #health #creativecoping #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #endthestigma #youarenotalone #ptsd #chronicillness #chronicillnessawareness #invisibleillness #agoraphobia #anxiety #pain #panicdisorder #fibromyalgia #dysautonomia #crohns #occipitalneuralgia #endometriosis #chronicmigraine #chronicpain #mecfs #spoonie #spoonielife

Creative Copes Podcast • A podcast on Anchor

A podcast featuring two friends wanting to inform, educate and raise awareness into our ways of Creatively Coping with mental and physical restrictions. We want to add flavor and color into the bland landscape of chronic and invisible illness. Through wit, crazy and sometimes dark humor, we will explore how to channel our energy through creative means while searching for balance and flow to stay sane with dynamic disabilities. Love and Light ♥
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