Bullies exist and can be any age
Had to deal with a client tonight who I dread having meetings with because I’ve never dealt well with bullies.
To explain, I deal with boards and committees; anyway this one client has board members who are ok but like pulling teeth getting things done. They have a committee that has one member who triggers me badly.
Mind you this is an adult. He finds the need to belittle and talk down whenever he can. And he knows “everything”. God forbid you correct him on something or inform him on legalities. He blithely disregards your input and goes on to do nothing but criticize.
Oh, he kisses the board’s butt and throws our company under the bus. We are at fault if he doesn’t get a callback from the board, if the board doesn’t get something done. I guess it’s our fault the sun didn’t shine today either.
I grew up being told bullies have problems they take it out on others for.
Well, this adult spent 45 minutes criticizing, bullying, talking down and belittling me (bringing on a few people on the call who listened to his lies to believe him). Unfortunately the board has voiced they feel he’s a bully too but they don’t speak up.
I’ve always had social anxieties and hate yelling, I have self image issues and it’s harder than anything for me to stand up for myself (I felt like just shutting down). I did manage to put him in his place to keep things moving (small victory) but I still feel like I just want to curl into a ball and cry.
Bullies exist and some never learn or grow up. They may get older but some just have no respect for anyone and feel better by making someone else feel smaller.
I was always told to never hate anyone. I’m sorry but I hate this person. I know it’s a drain but be is a cruel bully.
I just need to try to relax (heart racing though) and focus to get some sleep. #Anxiety #Bullying #workplacebullying #WorkplaceStress