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    My Mother is My Biggest Trigger & My Biggest Fan #MothersDay #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #BipolarDisorder #EatingDisorders

    Because both social & mainstream media have wore the word out, I don’t like to use the word “trigger” often, but when it comes to my mom there is no more appropriate word to use than to say she is, and always has been, one of my biggest triggers. Along wt the fact that I have made some major mother blunders of of my own in the past makes Mother’s Day sorta’ touchy for me.

    My mom has always wanted nothing more than to be a great mom, & to give her kids a better life than the one she had growing up. Her intentions have always been extremely pure, it is her actions that cause problems. She has, & always has had, untreated mental illness including EXTREME anxiety, & then depression after her dad died when I was 9. Her “go to” emotion when she is anxious, overwhelmed, confused or sad is angry, so she has just been extremely angry my entire life. Although I have 4 brothers, she very openly directs the vasy majority of that anger at me. It definitely has some psychological thing to do wt her seeing herself in me, & she hates herself, so yeah. For most of my life we could never get along bc she was always yelling at me & berating me for one thing or another. I was a great kid, straight A’s, teacher’s pet, in the Gifted program, band, etc., but all she ever did was yell at me about how hateful & disrespectful I was. I was always grounded for something, & yes physical punishment was implemented regularly for pissing her off for looking at her wrong or whatever.

    Once I turned 18, graduated & moved out, we finally could get along. But by this point I was SO extremely messed up mentally & emotionally. Fast forward 12 years, my world was falling apart, I left my addict husband who was ruining our family wt his addiction; I wanted better for our 2 kids, but by this time I had developed a drinking problem. My parents kindly let me & the kids live wt them while I tried to get us on our feet, but my mom treated me like I was 16 again, & constantly hounded me, talked down to me, & nitpicked me about everything I did, down to how wrinkled a child’s shirt my be for school, to how late I slept on the weekends. Ultimately, the morning before my 30th bday we had a HUGE blowout. In her extremely dramatic fashion, she called the cops om me bc she was “afraid” of me. When the police arrived they said that since I appeared to be no threat, they couldn’t arrest me, but since I appeared to be in mental distress, I COULD REQUEST they take me to a mental facility. I knew what I needed. I asked that they take me. I got money for the next week’s daycare fee & left it for my mom, & left with the police.

    A couple of days in at the mental hospital I was doing great & knew I had made the right decision to get care. I was feeling positive about where my life would go once I got out & could go home & start healing. Then a CPS worker came in & interviewed me. The day I left to the hospital my mom immediately called CPS on me. She said she had hoped they would contact me & let me know someone had made a report, & that would basically “scare me straight.” That she didn’t know (somehow) I was getting help at the hospital, & that CPS would revoke my parenting rights, & my right to sleep in the same house wt my kids while they investigated my abilities as a parent.— I was SO devastated when I was told everything by CPS. My kids are my universe, & without them I am empty. The case investigation lasted 7 months, & although it was closed wt no wrong- doings found against me, it was the worst & most difficult time in my life.

    During the 7 month period of my investigation my relatives wt my mom was obviously completely shattered, but she had me wrapped around her finger bc she had my kids. The worst incident wt her was when she decided to come “check” on me at my brother’s house to see if I was drinking & I was, & was also wt a guy. She went absolutely batsht & scared the life out of the poor, sweet guy I was wt. She stood on the lawn yelling at me about how horrible & helpless I was, then recruited my younger brother to come do the same. Yelling at me repeatedly that if I cared about my kids, I wouldn’t be how I was. That was the night I tried to take my own life. Many years later when I told my mom I tried to kill myself that night, she scoffed & said, “OH. So now you are trying to make ME feel guilty for that??” And looked at me like she could kill me.

    Today, my mom is there, as always, to help wt any and everything for everyone. We get along better, but she still has an extremely short fuse wt me. I just have changed my ways of reacting to her. I feel sad for her bc I can only imagine how miserable it must be being so miserable all the time, but I also get irritated bc I know she knows how to get help. I did NOT plan on writing all that I wrote, but it just came pouring out. It is very difficult in the real world to complain much about the person who does so much for you, even though on the other hand she’s done so much damage.

    I am SURE there are others out there today whose moms are their triggers, and THAT is why I began making this post, bc I know someone can relate. #MothersDay #AnxietyTriggers

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    Anxiety Triggers

    Here are some things that you may be doing that may not be helping your anxiety. Just suggestions!

    #Anxiety #AnxietyTriggers #anxietyhelp

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    What feelings are tied to the moments you feel triggered?

    For me, it’s always about feeling helpless. Sometimes it’s about feeling trapped too. But on my worst days, it’s like BINGO and I’ve got the whole row. The best I can do is give myself grace in those moments. I hope you will give yourself a little bit too.
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    #CPTSD #PTSD #AnxietyAttack #Anxiety #triggered #feelings #Grace #findinghope #MyCondition #bingo #Bekindtoyourself #ItsOK #helpless #Trapped #fearful #giveyourselfgrace #progress #Trauma #AnxietyTriggers #triggers

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    Trauma triggers

    I have serious trauma from someone who used to be my friend named Brandon. I dissociate every time I see “b” words or see the name Brandon or Canada where he’s from. This whole new “let’s go Brandon” trend is very triggering for me. Anybody else have issues with triggers?? And how to get over it?? #PTSD #Trauma #SchizoaffectiveDisorder #AnxietyTriggers #Depression #CPTSD #BipolarDisorder

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    Religion on the Mighty #Depression #MentalHealth #Anxiety #PTSD #Relationships #Faith #Religion #Christianity #AnxietyTriggers

    There have been a few posts concerning religion on The Mighty. As the creator of “Christians on The Mighty” I wanted to wade into the conversation. I have never kept it secret that I am a Pastor.

    I understand how some people could be triggered by issues around church and religion. Triggers can come in many forms. I personally can be triggered by men with beards and posts that reference football. This is because the guy that molested me when I was 11 years old was the bearded medic at the under 13 football team I was in.

    So, I have blocked some bearded guys. They did nothing wrong, but for my own peace of mind I blocked them. I have raised with The Mighty some months ago the idea of a filter that blocks out posts that reference religion. I have not had a reply yet.

    I started the group Christians on the Mighty because I was concerned how poorly some churches have handled the issue of mental health. Things have improved a lot. I know many fellow Pastors who like me, routinely refer people to psychologists and psychiatrists. These medical professionals are fantastic and so valuable.

    The aim of the group is not converting anyone or promoting Christianity, it’s to help Christians who struggle with mental health get the help they deserve. I came to the Mighty seeking support and to support others. That’s it.

    In the interim I respectfully suggest if certain people or posts trigger you then please block them. And please show respect to those that have different opinions to yourself. Using generalisations that label all priests as pedophiles is frankly offensive. I am not Catholic but we need to keep things respectful.

    If The Mighty bans all religious talk it will trigger a mass exodus of people, myself included. I don’t think they will though. Freedom of speech is important but if filters can be developed I will welcome them. In the meantime we all walk our own walk, hopefully helping others along the way.

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    What are your triggers? #TreatmentresistantDepression #AnxietyTriggers #triggers #AnxietyTriggers

    With Thanksgiving days away, many are dreading the social engagements. Family can be a HUGE trigger for me. I’ve avoided most social events with them in the last couple of years.
    Do you know who and what triggers you? Do you know what to avoid? How to work through the aftermath?
    Give us some tips. Avoidance and limited contact is my tip. Lol. Not the best, but it protects me. #TRD #PanicAttacks

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    I need help #Depression #PTSD #Anxiety #SexualTrauma #AnxietyTriggers

    I’m having a hell of a time with my triggers. I was sexually abused. My triggers are sitting, there’s pressure on my privates that remind me of being touched. Using the bathroom and wiping myself. Showering and washing myself trigger me because of touch and a bad memory in a shower. Laying on my stomach, because that’s the position I was in when the abuse was happening. These are daily things I can’t get away from. Can someone give me advice?

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    Why do people think it's acceptable or even healthy to tell the clinically depressed to "let things roll off their back" when others are causing new triggers and flareups of Depression every day.

    It's not allowable to react (even though it may be badly at times) and request other people take our illnesses into consideration. We should only take theirs into consideration. I'm tired of it
    #Depression #Anxiety #AnxietyTriggers #MajorDepressiveDisorder

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    Relationship Anxiety

    I struggle a lot with relationship anxiety in romantic and close platonic relationships. In romantic relationships, i’m so extremely afraid they’ll cheat, or lose interest in me. In platonic relationships i’m afraid they’ll drift away, and i’ll be lonely again. I’m so afraid of going back to the loneliness i used to experience, and feeling inadequate. Sometimes these people don’t respond to me for hours (which i understand is normal) and this causes me to have a terrible pit in my stomach and tight feeling in my chest. I do plenty of hobbies but my mind is still worried, and it’s hard to focus. Please understand i’m not upset at people for living their lives, but I just need help at living my life too, not worrying about all these disatarous situations my mind makes up #Anxiety #AnxietyTips #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #AnxietyTriggers

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    Weird Triggers Anybody?? #AnxietyTriggers #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Anxiety

    I’ve noticed two extremely weird (after reading multiple articles I didn’t see anyone else say these soooooo) trigggers that I’ve had and I realize that they are two of my oldest triggers I guess you would say?
    1st: The Sun....let me clarify-Heat/Brightness/Openess?? I can’t do it. Bright days, hot weather-Instant trigger no matter what’s going on.
    2nd: Hair in my face: That tickling feeling is so infuriating I don’t understand it. It’s MY hair. I KNOW where it’s been and I realize that it’s just a piece of hair brushing against my face...but I get pissed. 0-100. I will literally be upset with myself until I get it out of the way.

    Ending this I realize I have set myself up for failure to ALWAYS be triggered as I live in Texas (not much I can do to change that instantly) and I decided to grow out my “luscious locks” as I call them frequently. Anybody else wanna chime in and make me feel not so alone? Lol