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Dropping the golden child mask

Hi, had a moment at the weekend shere I realised there was no relief in my life because I'm always either overstretched or pushing people away (or as I put it 'chasing the golden mask' and 'feeding the f*ck off dragon'...). At that point I realised with horror that I am going to just have to do what I want. Since then I have been committed to doing what I want and maintaining open connections with people close to me. It's scary but I think it has to be better than just doing things I don't necessarily want to do because I think it's the only way to get people to respect me and running away when they try to get close... Has anyone else had this experience? Would help to know if I'm on the right track...[yes I'm aware of the irony... 🤨]

#Depression #Anxiety #Abuse

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Im not going anywhere# cptsd#munipulation #Abuse

Well,no, I will not be quiet about whats has been done.Let's talk about, letting the cat out of the https://bag.Two strangers in one day tell me I need a police report and, joking a restraining order.
Then this https://morning.I did not expect a genuine bomb like that to be dropped in my https://lap.And then the reaction to follow, https://BOOM.The ringleader, taken a fckn https://bow.Damage control time, I suppose and right before the holidays.
Amazing that a charade, could bring so many munipulative players together.my therapist warned me,of it two years ago, I couldn't accept https://it.This is typical behavior, nothing original or out of the ordinary, I was told.

It does show the depth a man will go to for a
$$. I never wanted https://it.Dont be https://fooled.I didn't.They, have alot to loose. That is the grossest part, no admittance of guilt, nothing.im not going to be the scapegoat here, sorry.
I let myself, anger fly, gave myself permission, over the past https://year.There is a process and I had to learn that only, no one to participate with, big learning curve.
I have, lost it, here a few times,where I feel it was out of control, ranting, ruminating, mad scientists https://level.But this, https://no.One sentence, the other jumped.Wow.
I have every right to be angry, that I was phased out, without being https://told.A narrative was laid out, three years ago and this past year, has been strung very tight, between certain players and this morning, the biggest clown in the circus show, blew that up.
I am disgusted with All https://involved.Not one person, I hurt personally nor havs anyone ever spoken, to me.no https://attempt.This will not be going away, people will be hurt that should not have, been,involved.

I will happily remove myself when Im ready and able, but again, I won't be quiet, just to make you https://comfortable.You all, had time and opportunity to communicate, with me, with words.
Instead, you chose to gather up the masses, the $$ and the bottom https://feeders.Thanks for showing me true character, I am relearning that,by example and https://pettiness.I am not surprised how quick life, takes things from you, when you are forthcoming. I lived https://it.It was all Not who brought the narrative, he was ashamed and embarrassed of https://us.And his actions have proven https://that.I have a memory that likes to fckin boomerang me https://back.I hate https://it.When the entire picture flashes in front of you, its nauseous, surreal,numbing and https://paralyzing.And in my situation, I feel https://paralyzed.And I do understand now, that was the intent, the intended impact.id be without control, without choice, isolated and stuck.to intentionally put someone, who is already, vulnerable, in that position, is not love, that is not care. I am disappointed in every person, that said they were there for https://me.No.I do not see it.
I did tell the https://truth.And I am Still, being punished for https://it.I did get through it, https://alone.I did reach https://out.I did show https://up.I did ask for https://clarity.I did give https://grace.I was and am grateful, for my life, my son and his future.
Oh, but I wanted to know how, where and who?
I wanted to know who,is involving my,family? Who is, manipulating my Son?Why, are there so many involved?But Im wrong? NO. Im asking valid questions.im questioning why I was not told, a https://thing.Why was I being lied https://to.Why I have a fake phone line between her and I?
Common denominator means what? I am dealing with extremely dark triad personality stuff here and Im not going to sit by and ignore my life being https://taken.Why anyone would go behind my back, to have relationships with my Sons kid, thats their character flaw, not https://mine.To insert yourself between two people, who should be getting acquainted, is sick .Her, who has been plotting against me for the last, three https://years.Who told me to come to her when, things get bad?She https://did.Then uses it as https://amunnition.Trashes your entire being and then goes after https://family.Stay away from woman, who maliciously Hurt and Gossip, other https://women.Ecspecially the ones that go after their Own, to protect their image.

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Shown#CPTSD #munipulation#Abuse

Whe one statement can cause a man to flip on a switch, he is https://guilty.When he fills in the lie with a missing word, https://guilty.When his angry flies, https://guilty.When he accuses you, https://guilty.When every question is an argument, https://guilty.When he cant answer a question without it being a fight, https://guilty.When his mother is involved, guilty.

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The hardest thing you will ever have to do…

We need to be there for ourselves first. Have enough respect and self-love for ourselves first.. #Selfcare #Relationships #Abuse #PTSD

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All About The TIPS

All About The TIPS

The mental health acronym TIPS is short for Treatment Improvement Protocols. It focuses on the three CS which are connection, co- regulation, and calm and is a series of best-practice guidelines that includes exercises and strategies like therapeutic anchor points, giving positive praise, and focusing on a person’s internal world and survival skills. Last but not least, most people consider TIPS to be very effective and it was developed by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) as a way to help assist with the prevention and treatment of mental and substance use disorders.

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She's angry #avm #CPTSD #cbt#

Someone feeling they have the right to sabotage and orchestrate your life for the better, without your participation, is controlling munipulation 101.to dig up information, stalk, harrass, mock, stage and pretend it is Out of concern, is another level of https://abuse.Calling out abuse can become https://abuse.I will not participate and https://partake.Setting a woman up to teach her a lesson, is abusive.
Any women, taking part, are as enabling, as the https://man.I said it.Sorry.
Keep your old school, mobster mentality, out of my https://life.The personal attacks towards my life, judgements by people, who never were part, is https://comical.Im no fool, I https://knew.I have years of abuse, trauma, from many people, my life circumstances and life choices,that have brought me through. Not from,these individuals,being emotionally supportive.
Im not coddled, pampered or given the princess treatment, like most have been led to believe, never https://was.The bare minimum,is no longer,acceptable.I let it be for https://years.When I asked for more, I was met with a https://fight.I have become a broken https://record.I am smashing the record.to expect a woman to be soft,sweet,nurturing after disrespecting her publicly,is Delussional.But, I do see where, all involved, see nothing wrong with it.
Projection is https://funny.I catch myself https://constantly.I observe too much behavior, its a peculiar https://thing.Ive done it my entire https://life.I forget that a majority of them, are so trauma bonded, that no one will, not, be judged, when that door, for real connection, is https://opened.I did show https://up.He did not want me to.
Acceptance and intimacy, in relationships, shouldn't https://judge.Good and bad, are you serious? Im Bad? OK.
I wear my flaws, I'll tell you my failures but not everyone is willing to do https://that.I can't be around people who do that.it is automatic,a closed mindedness to human https://behavior.Your problem with me, is You, not https://me.Mean girl https://mentality.Band of brothers https://bullshit.Say I just dont know friends, then.No, I do not, I have had to reevaluate the entire https://structure.I bonded with people through https://survival.Anyone from my https://teens.They do not know me, they know,of, https://me.Epic 😆 🤣 😂.Im actually quite lame.

Heres a few,How could she? Who does she, think she is?Well, I'd https://never.Try this instead.

She should.
She knows, who she is.
She deserves better.
She doesnt want things, she wants things consistant, completed and she wants to https://grow.That is not control, it is safety.

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Need advice (18+ please)

Need some advice. Please only read if 18+ as it contains some adult themes.
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Can someone please tell me I'm not a baby or stupid or low value because I set boundaries against a guy who wants bdsm and stuff because I'm a survivor of abuse and healing from sexual addiction? I met this guy from a local app and he's been amazing to talk to, but he's talking about chasing me through the woods and biting me and stuff like that. I feel like a baby, I feel like I'm "supposed" to do this, but I don't want to. It's deeply triggering to me. Is it possible to find a man who doesn't want that? I feel such an internal pressure, like I'm a prude or whatever, but I don't want to go down a dark path.

#MentalHealth
#Addiction
#Anxiety
#Depression
#MightyTogether
#CheckInWithMe

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Tired and hurt#DBT #CBT #avm #tbi

Why do men pretend instead of being who they are behind closed doors?They hide behind women who make excuses for their lack of https://care.He is tired from working, he just wants peace, he needs his quiet https://time.Then be alone and dont treat your family second.

Really? Does he really need to sit down more, or judge people more, or mock those below him? Really? Only a good guy, with a supporting audience?
Thats a https://bully.A family, of https://Bullys.I get it https://now.I see you.

And he is sensitive you say?
But he will kick a person when they, are down?A woman. Tell her to suck it up, get over it, get out of the way and then hold and console the other,friends https://wife.Then turn and call a woman every derogatory name in the book.
I see you now.
You want to be the hero, the good guy, the quiet reserved wise https://man.Who wants it amicable once hes done ruining https://her.I see you.
You are standing there,laughing at a girl, who suffers and struggles, mocking here with her https://enemies.When they watch, you are a tower and wall of strength? I was sick and lost,you left, celebrated being free and came home asking what my problem https://was.I see your Eightteen months of sabotaging my progress, to prove Im combative, angry and https://nuts.Sad.Its called abuse and me saying that word, does not make me abusive.
Your family and you, threw us to the wolves and then cried disrespect,because your bike got dirty and the mirror was finally on https://you.I see all of you now, I hadn't https://before.I made excuse after https://excuse.That it was my lacking.it wasn't. I questioned the norm and wanted https://better.I deserve better but what is scary, I never would had known, the lengths they went to,to get rid of https://me.We will never https://forget.And that is now ingrained in my son and I will live with https://that.He didnt deserve what you two have done.

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PTSD POST

Hi, I have major PTSD fallout, I can't get help for it as it was perpetrated by cops, Reconnect, the mental health care system, and my long time partner. I DO SEEK HELP THROUGH ANon, but it's really hard, it happenned first about 11 years ago. AND THERE were three ugly abusive arrests incarceration and imprisoning hospitalizations since then. USUALLY it's better but I have to live with abuse now and again with no real alternative. I STAY CLEAN n give service to my elders. DUE TO immense feelings of worthlessness and being put down I often think of taking my own life. MY MOTHER was a child and teen care professional when she was not being just my mother and she took her life due in my opinion to health care abuses within the Canadian Healthcare system, Mississauga especially, I would push for reform but have through experience lost all HOPE. I AM an ESL teacher, also in Retail Sales, a Homemaker, mother, person of long term relationship, with Bipolar Depression and SI, I often say if it gets too hard just take my life, and I am a caregiver for my family elders (3). I WAS ABUSED AGAIN TODAY WHILE OUT AT DINNER when a waitress forget to offer me a drink, at which point I stepped out to cool off n returned to my elder and partner while my elder insisted on talking to himself which he never does, just a warning and a plea, Abuse takes lives, my daughter hasn't been home all week and also like me was abused twice in the first week of Nov, but she has shelter, Thank you for your time, it's hard at times but better now, I take each moment by moment, go to the cops anon when I need to or think it may help and give all of myself to death soon or later caring for my family, that's life, take the good with the bad, thanks

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I’m new here!

Hi, my name is Karen Eklund. I'm 43 years old with 4 beautiful children 21, 18, 9 and 7. I'm here because quite a few reasons. My brother had schizophrenia and committed suicide due to his mental illness in 2022. My daughter that I raised from birth to 14 (she is now 18) decided to stop all communications with me due to narcissistic, triangulation and alienating father and overbearing stepmother who treated my daughter as if she birthed her and slowly inched out every part of my entire family's side from her life, not just me, but starting with me, including 3 siblings all on our side of the family because we have mental health challenges. I know people say things like this but oh, if you knew the story of my life and truly understood who these two people are, you would agree, truly, for my daughter's sake, they shouldnt have been introduced into her life. I'm new here, so, if I could say how I really felt, I would probably be immediately kicked off, lol. But anyway, sadly, I had to grieve her for many years before I had to grieve the death of my best friend and brother who committed suicide due to his mental health. I have my youngest daughter who is 7. She is diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. I myself have suffered since I can recall, probably 1st noticed around 22, when my 1st daughter was born, when I began cutting then I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, OCD and generalized anxiety disorder. Since then I have been diagnosed with ptsd, post partum, bipolar 2 disorder, substance abuse disorder along with dual diagnosis, adjustment disorder with mixed emotional features and I have been admitted on more than one occasion to a psychiatric facility for suicidal ideation and attempt. I have sought therapy and have done alot of work on my self, been in group therapy and just in general looked for any and all things that can help me keep joy in my life and keep a happy life

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