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This one is a toughie for me. Control was taken from me as a child. I had no choices. Then, as an adult, I needed control. The OCD was a loud voice in my head. I thought if I didn’t have control, bad things would happen.

Through therapy, realizing that the abuse wasn’t going to happen again, the OCD has calmed considerably. That strong need for control has also eased.

My faith has gotten stronger. I realize how small I am and how big my God is.

Do I let go? Many times I do. Trust is still really hard for me. I’ve been told that, when your mom is your abuser, that is the ultimate betrayal. After all, they are the ones who first teach us trust, unconditional love, and nurturing. But I’m trying. I am. After all, I can’t control everything. It would be exhausting to even try. I know because I’ve been there. It led to lots of frustration and anxiety. So, I will strive to let go. I can do this.

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Curious #MentalHealth #addiction #PTSD

I've been scrolling through all those I've joined and am curious as to why some have not had a post for a year or more. If it's because this group isn't wanted or needed anymore, I don't believe it. If you're under staffed still doesn't make sense.
Any how, I hope and pray all us narcissist abuse survivors are healing and making mental improvements.

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Abused a lot as child and growing up

I was abused a lot as a child growing up in a talk abusive religious Christian home so I got abused by a lot of people that was around me that should have been protecting me cuz they were broken and I went to school and some of the teachers were rude and I got bullied in school and at home and then church it was just like I was a target for that or just any type of abusive could be and when it came to my medical needs it was like I had surgery every 6 months or every time you turn around on something due to my orthopedic issues or whatever it was and I also ended up in mental health for a while on and off due to the trauma that I was going through within the home school and just general life I didn't have a lot of strong supports to get me into positive things growing up as a child I didn't have a lot of positive reinforcements either as well going up so it was a lot that could have been done it was a lot of things that should have stopped that didn't until I got on my own and start living on my own but even when I was living on my own having to see it CNA could be hard to deal with cuz even they could abuse you if you let them

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A productive day #MentalHealth #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Abuse #Arthritis #Addiction #ChronicPain #PTSD

Let me start by saying I have two roommates that are messy and more on the lazy side. Me; I'm a neat freak! I do apologize through cleaning once a week. Last night I washed the dishes and swept the floor. Then laid down in my room. Couldn't sleep. So I hand washed a small load of my clothes by hand and hung them up. Swept my room and laid down. This morning I finished the kitchen, cleaning stove top, electric burners and the trays, stove knows and the door. All counters were cleaned and then I tackled in and outside of the refrigerator. Also cleaned the bathroom. Mind you I have many breaks in-between. This all took me 7 hours. Oh and I took the dog on a short walk. My back hurts but we'll worth the pain the have a clean home!!

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Good news #MentalHealth #addiction #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Abuse #Arthritis #BackPain #ChronicPain #Bursitis #PTSD #Selfharm

So my companion called me earlier to let me know that he bought a buddy's 2007 Chevy Impala. Oh, what a car will mean again. Right now he lives about half hour forty-five minutes away. My life if actually moving forward and not one bad thing after another. Yeah for us

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30 Days of DID: Day SEVEN

*** QUESTION SEVEN: How long have you been in treatment for DID?

Since 2013. We took a break for a few years, then restarted in 2024.

The worst patches saw twice-weekly sessions, doubled or more in length, but our default now is once a week for the typical hour. If we’re struggling with a specific part or memory (and schedules allow) we’ll do an extra-long session. We also take a week off here and there.

A rough estimate of our office hours with Lighthouse has totaled about nine or ten years (even the break had semi-regular check-ins), which means the time spent in proper treatment has nearly lapped the time spent in improper treatment! Success!

*** QUESTION SEVEN-and-a-Half: How many parts do you know of in the system? How many know about each other?

Our named roster once rose into the hundreds, but best guess is, at our most fragmented, we numbered into the low thousands. We stopped keeping track once realizing most alters were groups of parts, or were standing guard in front of groups of parts.

At first, the front-facing, life-living parts were aware only of other surface-level parts, and were kept oblivious to the abuse history and/or inner workings. Deeply-layered or higher-ranking parts knew more, but each section only carried a piece of the bigger picture. A complete overview wasn’t possible until very recently.

I’d say only about 30% of our system directly interacted with the outside world, and things changed so much in recovery that tracking numbers became an unnecessary and distracting task.

At this point, our multiplicity (and togetherness) is understood innately. We don’t need to be Named to be known, and once an alter is known to one, they are known to all. The recognition, acceptance, and welcoming to the fold is almost instantaneous.

#DissociativeIdentityDisorder #DissociationDisorders #dissociativedisorders

*** 30 Days of DID survey credits go to tumblr user shihkas, and wordpress blogger catalyticconvergence. Links can be found in the original post ("Dogged by DID") on our website. ***

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Love from a 5 yr old #MentalHealth #ehlersdanlossyndrome #Abuse #Arthritis #BackPain #ChronicPain

My son had afternoon kindergarten and I worked 3rd shift. One mid morning he wakes me up from my nap on the couch to tell me he made me a snack. He handed me a small plate that had butter bread (thick butter), a sliced up banana (1/2 banana), and something else. He told me he made it for me because he loves me. M

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Any helpful insights welcome #MentalHealth #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Abuse #Arthritis #BackPain #ChronicPain #Bursitis #PTSD #Selfharm

Starting some time in the next month my partner and I will be getting a car. I have my license and driven often, not regular for over 10+ years. Come winter we're planning on traveling from Indiana to Virginia and then Texas. In essence my body is not used to regularly sitting in a car. Most my shopping done my others. What advice can you offer to help longer trips; other than stopping frequently to move around. Thank you all for any advice

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Some of my favorites #MentalHealth #ehlersdanlossyndrome #Abuse #Arthritis #BackPain #chronicpain #Bursitis #PTSD #Selfcare

Accept what is,
Let go of what was,
And have faith in what will be.

The best things in life aren't things.

Memories take us back,
Dreams take us forward.

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.

When I hear somebody sing, "Life is hard," I am tempted to ask, "Compared to what?"

Hope ya liked these. Stay strong!!!

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