Personally, I relate this so much to psychological and emotional abuse in a relationship.
Situations where your partner in your relationship / experience / situationship, etc goes back and forth between being good and bad. The sudden act of withdrawal of affection and emotions, from avoiding you just suddenly to starting to give you attention suddenly too, to not showing compassion or empathy when you plead or cry, all this have been so abusive.
It is scary to be in a position where you wouldn't know what to expect from a person because they keep changing. What mood they will be in today, will it be a good day, will they be nice today, will they reply on time, will they call back, will they be rude, what choice or words will they have today and so on.
To me, lack of empathy in this way is abuse.
It is absolutely an individual's choice about how they use their time and attention, but exploiting someone and depriving them because it doesn't affect you, is abuse especially when they've become vulnerable due to your actions.
I look forward to a future where we speak more and more about this and we find ways to hold people accountable for their actions because we don't really see this as abuse as much as we need to.
#traumabonding #narcissism #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #Codependency