allergies

I was just diagnosed with autism and ADHD at the ages of four and seven respectively. I had a 504 in place, but no one ever treated me as though I mattered, and they were simply following the law. Most teachers and every single betrayed me in one way or some other. The worst was an ablest teacher in that high school who taught AP World History. I knew this was no different than anyone else, but she completely went overboard with me having to wipe my nose with her around, teaching me apparently outside the classroom. She did not understand my allergies. She infantilized me by sitting me apart from everyone else, and people would stare at me. I felt watched under constant microscope of smothering and suffocating surveillance and freebie answers I wanted instead to find on my own. Yay, 9th Grade was over and so was that textationship for 2-week love-bombing on my side to help a vulnerable/covert narcissist feel more confident in her self-image. I was uplifting, not controlling as she was real control freak. I was publicly humiliated, had my own stuff licked, my own privacy invaded twice (stolen number, using mutual friends’ numbers), and the worst of the worst, being betrayed by the last psycho boyfriend #6 and two women children filing restraining orders over burner accounts I used to get rid of them as in telling them to F*** off. First was a reassurance junkie like I always been especially she bullied, harassed, ostracized, abused, deceived, betrayed, and traumatized me after the first boyfriend incident two years ago. Second was an egregious crybaby, who cannot handle anything but a narcissistic supply of histrionic tendencies for attention in court. I do not say this to cause any scandalous defamation, but to defeat a narcissist, you have five ways to do so. You can black rock them where you really go AWOL and have no contact whatsoever. If the situation requires you to be present with them, be a gray rock. Look as unassuming and as boring as possible. One-wording, but not yessing everything they say, but giving a nod, shrug, or “K” that does not give them at all, if not very little ammunition. It drove the last call crazy before she flipped the scenario on me and reversed the entire story projecting her insecurities. She embellish the truth to the judge and made up lies. What we and the judge did was give in to her so she could just shut up. Then, he took out all her accusations on the worst kind of mutual restraining order in my life. Also you can give a narcissist way too much supply. Give them so much power that they have no idea what to do with that. Overwhelmed their ego to where it falls and breaks them into a narcissistic mortification or collapse. Additionally, mirror their actions. A narcissist may act like they love themselves, but they have no internal validation, which is why they rely on that narcissistic supply. if it is possible, the one thing they despise most is themselves, which is why they require others to understand them and feed into their nasty behaviors to enable them and justify just how they act when they know deep down it could be wrong. Help them base their own demons by showing them exactly how they treat you. Ostracize them from your life and cut them out like they did to you in the discard phase. Here, however, this is the most dangerous technique on dealing with a narcissist. Use it very sparingly and only a last resort. The big whole smear campaign and proxy wars. If you must, you can turn everything they have said against them and twist their words exactly as they do to yours to gaslight, victim-blame, or neglect your needs. Never allow them to be that close to you. Know at any second you can sue them right after you broke down their walls and infiltrated them so much they are in infatuated with you and they will not fight for themselves. Make them just love-bomb you so much that they do not care if you go to court and will not retaliate. That was the last strategy for how I deal with narcissists but I’ve never gone to court over them before. I do allow myself to black rock them most of the time and have them learn to embarrass themselves on their own because they are extremely good at humiliating who they are and destroying their identity when faced with new adversity in the highest form of a mess they created not me or you or anyone but themselves. Let them dig their own social grave. You can’t fix stupid, but you can let it break someone. Not that that’s nice, but if you need to step away and walk away forever for your life, that is your own prerogative and volition. If you feel you are in a abusive toxic relationship, do not hold back. Never let them devalue you and then worship you as if a goddess or God. They love to suck up to their authorities and create institutional pity. They can abuse their own power and influence to control you, but I never let them. They never knew behind the scenes. I was always the one controlling them to make them head to the extremes and destroy themselves so much that they will never come back from it. I never lost my power, but for those who have, take it back! Show they how strong we all are as one unified front on the Mighty! If anyone needs any pointers, I am always available to talk. I, too, am gifted at art as well. If you would like to be taught in any way or form I would do it completely cost free out of the kindness of my heart, you can ask me for that as well. I hope my blog gives you bliss. Below is a strategy on how to manage anger I learned from 988 and it has worked miracles in my life just like the WRAP (wellness, recovery, action plan). Make your own strategies and learn to help me help you through my insights. Take this from a dark empath that fights behind the scenes to try and protect those I care about, which is now everyone in this community who deserves to be treated with humanity and not cruelty. I hope my message finds you well! Enjoy!

I once watched a parent spend twenty minutes comparing two baby lotions in a store aisle.

One said gentle.

One said dermatologist tested.

One said natural.

But the deciding factor?

“Hypoallergenic.”

They exhaled in relief — like the label itself guaranteed safety.

And that moment captures a quiet parenting trap:

we often read emotional reassurance into words that are actually legal language.

This isn’t about blaming parents.

It’s about understanding how risk communication works — and how marketing fills the gaps left by uncertainty.

What “Hypoallergenic” Legally Promises (And What It Doesn’t)

Most people interpret the word as:

This will not cause an allergic reaction.

But legally, it usually means something much softer:

The manufacturer believes the product is less likely to cause allergies compared to similar products.

That’s a probability claim — not a safety guarantee.

There is no universal standard percentage.

No required allergy testing threshold.

No requirement that reactions never occur.

Two different brands can both use the word while having completely different formulations and testing rigor.

So the label reduces risk in theory —

but doesn’t eliminate it in practice.

Why the Word Feels So Powerful

Human brains don’t naturally think in probability.

When caring for a child, we default to binary categories:

Safe vs dangerous

Approved vs harmful

Good parent vs careless parent

“Hypoallergenic” sounds like a certification — almost medical.

But legally, it functions more like a comparative adjective.

It reassures emotion more than it communicates measurable protection.

And marketing knows this.

The Real Risk With Sensitive Skin Isn’t What Parents Expect

Parents often focus on the big scary ingredients:

Fragrance

Preservatives

Chemicals they can’t pronounce

But allergic reactions are highly individual.

A baby can react to plant extracts.

Another reacts to oat protein.

Another reacts to a preservative used in hospital products.

The key insight:

Allergy risk lives in the person, not the label.

A product designed to be gentle for many people can still be the wrong match for one specific child.

Why Companies Use the Label Anyway

Because it solves a communication problem.

Manufacturers cannot realistically promise “zero reactions.”

Biology doesn’t allow it.

So the label signals intention:

lower irritation design

commonly tolerated ingredients

avoidance of frequent triggers

That’s useful information — just not absolute protection.

The misunderstanding happens when we convert a statistical claim into a guarantee.

A More Rational Way to Read Labels

Instead of asking:

“Is this safe?”

Ask:

“How would I notice quickly if it isn’t safe for my child?”

Risk-based parenting shifts from prevention fantasy to early detection strategy.

Practical approach:

introduce one new product at a time

apply to a small area first

wait a day

watch the skin, not the branding

You’re not trying to eliminate all possibility of reaction.

You’re trying to control the consequences if one occurs.

That’s a solvable problem.

The Emotional Layer Behind the Purchase

Many parents aren’t buying lotion.

They’re buying certainty.

The word “hypoallergenic” acts like a permission slip — relief from the fear of causing harm.

But children don’t benefit from perfect labels.

They benefit from attentive observation.

Confidence comes less from picking the flawless product

and more from knowing what to do if reality disagrees.

The Quiet Reframe

“Hypoallergenic” doesn’t mean safe.

It means thoughtfully formulated for the average person.

Parenting, however, is never about the average person.

It’s about the specific human in front of you.

Once you understand that, labels stop being guarantees —

and start becoming starting points.

And strangely, that makes caring for sensitive kids less stressful, not more.

Because now you’re not chasing perfect protection.

You’re managing real risk.#

Today I reacted allergic to my bandaids…
They were safe before and I was only allergic to a special brand.
A nurse just slapped on another bandaid wich made matters worse… and told me how I should take proper care. She was so rude…

Then I asked again and another nurse got me bandages without any glue. She was kind and understanding and also gave me a form to fill in as the wounds were healing self harm wounds. She also got me an doctors appointment to talk about it and said to see her on Thursday Top Change the Dressing. She was soo kind and helpful, the polar opposite of the other one…

Im covered in bandages though. Like one at my arm and one for each leg…

My skin itched and burned soo much…
My eyes too…
I just wanted to claw at everything to stop it.
As it’s no official diagnosis yet they aren’t allowed to give me medication…
(I would have had an allergist appointment this week but I am in the clinic so I needed to cancel it. I can get a new doctors appointment as soon as possible and get transferred to a local allergist. But that takes a while…)
I just need to suffer for the next days…
Yey, lucky me…

#MentalHealth #Depression #Allergies

I had some fruit allergies for years now.
It started with kiwi and pineapple…
But more and more allergies added themselves to the list throughout the years. The most severe contact allergies are like mint (wich also hinders my breathing, like eucalyptus and menthol), honey and beeswax.

Also I’m allergic to other things, like a specific ingredient in soap and dish soap and also in the glue of band aids. Wich leaves my skin in a terrible dry and reddish condition… (pineapple also)

Recently though it got worse.
Like in the last two weeks there were three new allergies. Like gooseberries, grapes and cherry tomatoes…
For me it’s usually like extreme itching and burning of my eyeballs and my mouth.

I don’t have the energy to go to the doctors especially because my mental health is more important right now…
But it seems important especially if the allergies continue…
My parents are against it and say it’s just stress… And I know that stress induces the allergies but still I’m not sure what to do…

Like I avoid the fruit whenever I notice new symptoms but it’s still a bit creepy. Like my allergie list has now a total of 14 items on it…

So this is just a call to all The Mighties out there who maybe are more experienced than me…

#FoodAllergies #FoodProteinInducedEnterocolitisSyndrome
#Allergies

I'm so tired. Beyond exhausted.
There's just too much, I don't really feel like fighting for much. Let's be real, global politics are just overwhelming at this point, every day a new battery of bad news, even with small victories like recently in my country, I feel we're still losing the battle.
And that's not just what is affecting me but mostly it's thanks to that... I see friends suffering because of it and I feel for them. I can't expect a future anymore... I remember as a teen almost getting into adulthood I was like "I'm sure adult life sucks", but I wasn't expecting it to suck so much! I am only being able to live because I got some family support, because the government aid is too low for a person to live with. But part of this family support comes with a cost, comes with power over me and that means abusive behaviour that I just have to accept quietly with my head low.
Being disabled makes everything even worse, I can't get a job due to prejudice, I work my butt off to be qualified for stuff, but this work never seems enough. Because in the eyes of others I'm useless, I'm a burden, I'm an extra cost to consider. So I'm going through university just to get a piece of paper that says I am able to do computer stuff when many programmers get the job because they learn by themselves. And at the university I don't actively learn to code, I learn by myself, but I don't have the right for credibility it seems. I'm so tired.
Recently my biggest source of drainage is thinking how I'm living in this messed world and I'm just beginning my youth to a very clear possible war scenery in the world. It's not only depressing, but at the same time it gives me low expectations on getting my degree and starting to stabilise my life. I feel stuck.
Not only that but there's all this pressure for learning to do stuff, while taking care of my home, and then getting second degree obese and now needing to lose weight. I wasn't very worried because of spite, I don't like fatphobic comments so everty time someone commented on my weight I would make less and less effort for losing some. But now I'm already hating myself, I'm already with thoughts of stopping eating for good... But at the same time I'm so tired, I have so much in mind that I just want to starve myself until I lose the hunger sensibility, I want to eat, and not compulsively, but I just don't want to feel hungry. I don't feel the energy to do physical activities even more now that here's going to summer time and I suffer a lot with allergies caused by excessive heat... So I just don't know how to make a 180° and get a hold on things.
Adult life suck, bills suck, family is abusive, social relationships are depleated because now we're all cranky adults that have no time, hunger also sucks, and global politics don't give a break, I'm too much overwhelmed and it's not only me, but a lot of people are considering that a new war is no matter of if, but when. There's so much more affecting me right now, but I'm too tired to go through my line of thought. I honestly want a escape route from my life, I want to scream, I feel like hurting myself to relieve my emotions, I feel like giving up, there's no antidepressant in the world that will help with it, because it's not a matter of "your body is not synthesizing your hormones correctly", sure there's that, but come on! The outside is so bad, so terrible, so overwhelming that what can an antidepressant do? Also therapy isn't helping much either. Things are so out of control that telling my psychologist my worries won't solve anything, because we can't just make the world leaders act like adults should.
And really, the "stop worrying with stuff you have no control over" speech isn't good in this case, because yes I don't have control over it, but ignoring is even worse, because it will mean I am putting myself to the mercy of the possible worst future foreseeable. I can't not worry about if tomorrow I'll have to fight for a meal, or not worry about if there will be even a tomorrow!
I am in a country that thankfully war related laws are very strict and prevents us from going headfirst on them, but internal politics are also not so well. We have a small victory here and there and then there are people that only worry for their own pockets just destroying everything again.
I'm just tired!
I just want to rest for a single day without worrying about anything, or anyone. I just want some rest.

Shifts in seasons can affect us in many ways, including our sleep and overall health. Changes in temperature, sunlight, humidity, and weather patterns—depending on where we live—can lead to flares in symptoms, allergies, and disruptions in routine.

I find it harder to sleep during the summer and tend to experience more symptoms of seasonal depression. Spring, however, is better for me when it comes to maintaining a more consistent sleep schedule.

How do the seasons influence your sleep?

I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences!

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