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Being Present

There has been a lot of talk about the idea and concept of being “present.” The idea of just being there for someone going through a struggle. The idea that even just sitting in silence with someone lets them know you are present for them and that you are there whenever they need someone to talk to. It’s a simple idea yet so many people fail to do it for those closest to them going through a struggle. It could be the shift in society that views more of a reliance on your own problems than those of others. Being present it someone that can have an amazing impact on someone else’s life. Yet why do so many people fail to do it for those they care about.

Two weeks ago, I started a new group therapy for grief. Going into the first session, I was nervous because I was not going into grieving death, I was going in grieving the lose of friendships, employment, the pre-grieving of losing nursing school and my lifestyle. Two weeks later, I realized I am in fact grieving death, the death of my dog that I got during my first mental health struggles, so I had something to live for. If it wasn’t for that dog, I would be dead and I would have achieved so much the last nine years despite everyone telling me I wouldn’t be able to do anything with my life. Boy, do I miss that dog and wish I could go pick him out again and start out mental health journey together again. Also going to my first meeting of the new group I was in a depressed mood, as I had just read a hurtful comment on my blog, I was ready to give up all blogging which I did with only two posts. But, that first session, as each person shared their grief, death of loved ones, I realized what it meant to be present, I was there for these people sharing their stories of lose. I was able to give encouraging words and insight. It was truly amazing. The day after our second meeting, I had court and that morning the one group member messaged me and told me she was thinking of me. Once again someone just being present. IT was touching and extremely nice and caring. This however my bipolar brain into motion with thoughts of being "present."

My bipolar brain made realize that while I was present for these people, I was not truly present for them. How could I truly be fully present for someone else when I was and am still not currently fully present in my own life. Everyday to me feels like the expression of just being a warm body. A warm body in my day in all aspects. Most days I could not tell you what went on a day or two later, this is not because of a lack of short term or long-term memory. This is instead the result of me being complete numb and just not present. I don’t know if it is just the shock of the horrible situation, I have gotten myself into with my mental health and legal struggle or if it is just simple something else. My bipolar brain does make me think, if I made such a huge impact on the group members without fully being present like I could if I was present in my own life, what could I do for them and others suffering from mental health or grief if I was truly present in my own life too. I don’t know what it will look like or take for me to no longer being a warm body in my life and to be present, but I hope to figure it out soon. I look forward to it though because it will present the next chapter in my life in helping others and getting to the life I am meant to live.

So, my thought is while it is a great gesture to be present in someone else’s life to help them in their struggles, we must not forget to be present in our own lives.

#MentalHealth #bepresent #Bekind #BipolarDisorder #Depression #anixiety

Being Present - Bipolar Tater

Being Present - Bipolar Tater

There has been a lot of talk about the idea and concept of being “present.” The idea of just being
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I'm Back

I have been gone for awhile, I had my voice taken away by a hurtful message. I have since received more, but I realized from some nice women in my life, that I can let hurtful people take my voice. Being silent helps no one, it doesn’t help myself and it doesn’t help anyone that what I have to say could reach. So, it is today that I fully take back my voice and continue my mental health journey by sharing my thoughts and experiences and make an attempt to verbalize all my bipolar thoughts. So, I hope you enjoy that I am back on my blog and on Hoping for positivity, but I understand negativity will always be there especially when you are sharing with the world. God Bless all of you and I pray that my thoughts help someone out there.

March 2nd, the day of my third suicide attempt., the day I truly realized my mental health had taken a turn, a turn for the worse, a turn that would put me on a collision course not only with my health, but with my mind more specifically the voice that lives in my mind. The voice that constantly says, “Die, Nathan, Die no one will miss you.” The voice that many times a week manifests itself into vision, vivid images that put ways to achieve what the voice tells me to do, to die. This is voice that will live with me for my life, but it is a voice that I have chosen to not let win. I have recently been told that I use my mental health as an excuse to commit bad things and this is something when I read that my mind let feel was true. Then my new grief group started and I saw the hurt people were experiencing and I left it sink in. My anxiety hit and my fear of judgement started taking over and then I heard the group member talk about how other people made their hurt worse. This made me realize I needed to speak and I needed to me present. The best thing you can do for someone struggling with mental health is to be present. Be present for them, show them you care, even its just sitting with them in silence. Speaking in the group got me so much thankfulness and it made me realize that God put me here for a reason and put me in that group for a reason. This made me realize that I can’t let a horrible person take my voice away. IT made me realize I can truly make a difference in the lives of people. I may not be famous, but I have a passion, a passion for mental health and helping people.

#BipolarDisorder #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #bepresent #Bekind #Suicide

I'm Back - Bipolar Tater

Bipolar Tater - A blog at mental health and my experiences of everyday life with bipolar 1 disorder.

A blog at mental health and my experiences of everyday life with bipolar 1 disorder.

Idiots Guide to The Serenity Prayer

Grant me the serenity to accept everything that isn't me
The courage to change anything that is me
And the presence of mind to recognize the difference #serenityprayer #bepresent #focus

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How long does it take to break a habit? Science says anywhere from 18 to 254 days. That’s right, the old belief it took 21 days to change a habit isn’t what psychologists are saying today. What does that mean for those of us looking to better ourselves, improve our abilities, and create a better day-to-day life? It means we have to live less out of habit, and more out of intention. When you find yourself going through the motions of your day, acting out of habit or your usual schedule, I encourage you to stop and ask yourself a few questions:

Does this habit help me or hurt me long term? How can I add a little extra happiness into my routine? Can I improve this routine in some way?

When you take the time to take care of your present self, you contribute to your future self's well-being. Small changes create big impacts. The more you live with intention, the bigger the lasting changes!

#thepowerofhabit #leadwithintention #bepresent #thismoment #recoveryjourney #physicalrehabilitation #ProgressIsProgress #Dailyinspiration #selfcare #FindingForward #Recovery

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Tomorrow is a fresh start! #thepastisinthepast #focusonthenow #bepresent #OnedayAtaTime

I love Anne of Green Gables and I love this quote as it reminds me that even if today wasn’t as great as expected or if it was a bad day that there is hope for a better day tomorrow...tomorrow will be kinder and more hopeful and brighter! There is always hope and we have to be brave enough to find the light and hold on to the light during these chaotic dark times. Choosing to find the joy and practice gratitude and noticing and appreciating the little things! I love Anne Shirley’s optimism, curiousity and imagination! Stay Curious and Hopeful! And I hope tomorrow is kinder to you! #AnneofGreenGables #Quotes #bookquotes #Hope #curiosity #becurious #tomorrowwillbekinder #afreshstart #hopeistheonlythingstrongerthanfear



Let’s motivate each other! What are some things that help you get out of a funk, a depression, or make you feel most yourself?! For me, exercise, being outside, writing, music, and spending time with family and close friends! #positivty #Depression #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #Gratitude #Mindfulness #bepresent #Motivation


Grateful for #mateship #loyalty #bestmate #notjustadog

Feelings of deeper meaningful and thoughts of how lucky I actually am to have what I have.

Let's focus in what we have that makes us so happy and privileged not what we aspire to make us happy.

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Being present

I use photography as a form of art to channel my emotions and anxiety. I find beauty in the small things and focus on that. #Anxiety #bepresent #ArtTherapy #Photography

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A time to evaluate our lives

We are in the thick of a global tragedy.

So many people are sick, dealing with loss of lives and loved ones, loss of businesses and our livelihoods.

So, how do we raise our heads up out of the despair we are feeling and start seeing the positive in our current situation?

When I look at how humanity has responded to our crisis, I see a refocus on family and community, and a renewed sense of a shared connection between all of us.

We have been given a break, a time-out the constant chatter of needing to be busy and keeping packed schedules.

Our minds have an opportunity to be quiet. We can be present and listen to our own needs and listen and hear each other instead of being focused on social media and our next event.

We also have been given a rare gift to evaluate our lives and take stock of what we have in front of us, our priorities, our values and what really is important in our lives.

In a sense, we have given a blank slate to start over, if we so choose.

We have an opportunity to look deep within ourselves even if it feels uncomfortable to work on work on ourselves. With the time we are given right now, you have the choice to start making new decisions, start new healthy habits, create new goals and let go of what has been holding you back.

You have been given a gift to start being the YOU that you have been missing out on.

What will you do with your time?

What new opportunities have you discovered?

What new choices will you make?
#Hope #opportunities #Gifts #Newgoals #bepresent

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Negative thought challenge

Let’s acknowledge and validate our emotions but try to challenge it into something more positive and optimistic #challengenegativethoughts #bemindful #bepresent

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