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How do you talk to someone about mental illness when you have a language barrier?

I've come to a point where it feels important for me to talk to my mother about my mental illness. Unfortunately mental illness is a huge taboo for her plus English is not her first language. Have you ever been in this situation before? How did you get over the language barrier? Did you give up and managed the relationship some other way? I would love to hear your stories or tips.

#conqueryourmind #Anxiety #Depression #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder

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Are You Suffering?

Suffering. I read something a while ago about not using that word, and I've been thinking about it since. I completely agree that it isn't wise to use it indiscriminately to say something like, "They are suffering with _____." Maybe some people are, but others aren't. That's 100% true.

Of course, not everyone's experience of suffering is the same. It goes without saying that not suffering is perceived by others. And one person's might suffer when someone else in the same situation feels joy.

On the other hand, to avoid using the word risks minimizing someone's experience. For instance, I suffer from/with erythromelalgia. I just do. It causes pain, anguish, and fatigue. When I get a migraine, I'm suffering. If I were to suggest that I did not suffer, I would be lying.

That's not to say suffering is my only experience of EM. I don't always suffer, and sometimes I have mixed emotions even during my worst flares. Pain and suffering are not synonymous.

There are similar phrases that people use without thinking, like "confined to a wheelchair." When I use a wheelchair, I'm not confined to it. A wheelchair gives me mobility and access that I wouldn't otherwise have.

The word and idea of "suffering" is similar. I'll be much more aware of how to use and not use the word.

Major religious traditions recognize the role of suffering in our lives. It's even the First Noble Truth of the Buddha. "The reality of dukkha." During the next few days, Christians commemorate the suffering of Jesus on Good Friday.

What about you? Do you suffer? And what are your thoughts about using the word "suffering?" At minimum, suffering is complex. Thanks!

#ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Erythromelalgia #Fibromyalgia #RareDisease #Fibromyalgia #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #PTSD #InvisibleIllness #CheerMeOn #MightyTogether #conqueryourmind #DistractMe #Buddhism #christiansonthemighty

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Chronic Pain at Night

Me: I'm tired. I'm going to bed now.

Erythromelalgia: I think we should stay up for another 3 hours.

Me: Why do you do this every night?

EM: I'm just a night owl, I guess.

Me: But I'm not.

EM: You can't expect me to stay awake all by myself.

#Erythromelalgia #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #RareDisease #MightyTogether #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome #Anxiety #Depression #InvisibleIllness #CheerMeOn #MentalHealth #conqueryourmind

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Thank You for Being You

I found The Mighty several years ago on the recommendation of my nurse practitioner. Since then, I have been blessed to learn from others about strength and resiliency. The deep honesty from people sharing about their pains, fears, and successes has helped me deal with my own chronic illness. I've also been able to participate in the conversation about erythromelalgia, which is my own rare disease. Everyone who shares from the storehouse of their own lives enriches everyone else. So, I'd just like to say Thank You. There's nothing quite like The Mighty, where people can be honest about what may seem like weakness, but in reality that is an expression of our strength. Human authenticity in community with others is what brings out the best in all of us.

#MightyTogether #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #invisibleillnes #RareDisease #Erythromelalgia #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #CheerMeOn #DistractMe #Fibromyalgia #conqueryourmind #CPTSD #ComplexRegionalPainSyndrome

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What time is it?

My midnight flare finally came down somewhere after 2:00 AM, but when I woke up I wondered why it was so late. I thought I had lost an hour somewhere. Then I realized the clocks moved forward. #ChronicPain makes for long nights. Regardless, I hope you're having a good day. I appreciate #TheMighty community. Everyone here shares so much strength and understanding. Thank you and God bless! #MightyTogether #ChronicIllness #Disability #DistractMe #MightyMinute #ChronicPain #Depression #Anxiety #Relationships #MentalHealth #Hope #Erythromelalgia #Fibromyalgia #Insomnia #Upallnight #conqueryourmind #MightyMinute #Love

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When the Darkness Falls

As the night fall comes illuminating the views with shades of the sunset aglow, dancing just above the rolling mountain is now my mind begins to dream a new day...

Hoping for a tomorrow, visions of happiness, joy, life beyond...Beyond this place I'm stuck in...

The evening seems a little quieter still, if that's even possible...only creaks of the house will I hear...

Followed by the evening sights & sounds of nature...Lightening bugs dance...Crickets chirping, rustling of the brush, with squirrels, deer, rabbits..

Nature without a hint of human existence.

The days seem to simultaneously flash by in slow motion...Into the night...

Day in day out, the phone never rings, the only time it gets its use is when I reach out to others..Or spam...

I wonder if they'll want to call when they no longer can...I wonder if they'll think of me like I think of them...I often wonder how the knot that tied us together shredded so easily after I became ill...

Was I only worthy when I was able to do everything for them? Was I only valued for what I gave and not for who I am? To them?

I often dream to be someone worthy of them, but that someone is not me...

No matter what the future holds, I know Ill always be remembered as the "woman" that loved & gave with her whole heart...and never asked for anything in return...I didn't ask, I didn't expect...

Here Im left piecing myself back together...

Without regret, learning to love myself

Love with your whole heart, not bits & pieces..

#ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Depression #Anxiety #conqueryourmind #Ileostomy #Trauma #liveloved #Kindness #Loveothers #givegrace


Monday Mood

Labor Day... While many families get together over this weekend (as we used to do).... I find myself longing for those days, yesterdays. Back when life was busy with our children, our family, BBQs, get togethers...Normal Life....

Time escapes so quickly, time has a way of redirecting our lives, shattering "normalcy" as we once knew. Children grow up, they move out, they move away, become independent, start families of their own...while we raise our children to become adults, the emptiness of our homes silence can become "deafening." Add into a silent home miles in between us, sporadic grandparenting, along with an unexpected illness....Our lives expectations have been redirected onto an unknown path leaving scars, trauma, loneliness, heartache, loss of everything so familiar for decades, in the wake of its path.

As I travel this journey alone, sometimes my heart just aches for yesterday. For a semblance of belonging, a sense of purpose, anything....

Anything resembling a hint of normalcy....

In a life where everything has changed, there I remain.

Pieces of me....


Left Behind....

Left to love from afar...

Cherishing those short infrequent conservations, lingering on every word, silently begging for a few more minutes....Of time...Time....

Time I so desperately miss......with them....

Is it truly the time I miss or the past full of treasured memories?

Memories of what was....What will never be again....

Then I sense that old familiar feeling, the creeks of this old house, the smells, the sense of wonder awaiting in this ever changing world....

My mind stops in that moment, reminding me....

Our purpose in life changes....

Sometimes without our permission yet always with redirection.....

And always on time....

This is my time... Im allowed this time to heal, to replenish all that I gave away, to piece myself back together, a reminder "Im" worthy of time... Of love....

Protection, redirection disguised as rejection...

Our minds are often fickle...More often our own worst enemy.

Guard your mind, your thoughts, what you allow yourself to believe...

Take captive those thoughts that dont serve you positively, those that dont add value, the lies.....

No matter where you are....You are worthy...

Regardless of your circumstances.....You Matter....

Even when you dont feel it.... You are loved......

#liveloved #Trauma #Ileostomy #ChronicPain #Depression #checkinonme #ChronicIllness #conqueryourmind


Living Intentionally #Trauma #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Ileostomy #Depression #Anxiety #conqueryourmind #Selfcare

Sunday… A day of rest. A day of reflection.
Remind yourself of the victories over the past week; small or big.
Remind yourself to reflect on the “Big” picture.
Those obstacles we face may seem overwhelming in their entirety but….
We’re only asked to live moment by moment.
Break down your days into moments.
Future plans are great; don’t let them derail you from this moment.
Take time to do something you enjoy, even if it’s a small block of time. Get up and show up, however that looks like in your day. Show up for yourself. You deserve it! Learn to be a little kinder to yourself, it doesn’t happen overnight so take steps today to start loving yourself regardless of your circumstances.
Circumstances out of our control are inevitable. Feelings and emotions are fleeting. Find the love for yourself “outside” of circumstances, emotions, or feelings.
Never look for happiness as an end goal. Happiness is a feeling, therefore fleeting based on circumstances, feelings or emotions.
Strive for contentment; it’s permanent.
Remember the obstacles you face are yours.
Don’t allow comparison yo minimize your situation. Comparison can minimize your circumstances, therefore minimizing your feelings. Your feelings are yours and they are important!
Allow yourself to feel your feelings; we can never heal from trauma if we don’t allow ourselves to feel.
Most importantly;
Whatever your day looks like, today. Take time to love yourself a little more today. Accept “your” normal, even if it’s a little harder than your envisioned.
I’ve found the more I accept my normal…. is “not” normal, any day, the more I learn to be a little kinder to myself. Comparison brings me sadness, pain, and a whole host of emotions that can steal my entire day.
All I have is this day, this moment…. The more I realize this, the more I find contentment even in the overwhelming circumstances.
I’m broken, I’m flawed, I’m most times more than I can handle… moments are easier to move through.
Today, I choose contentment.
To see the silver lining.
To love myself.
To be a little more patient, a little kinder, and a whole lot more loving, to me.
In these times I realize, I matter, I’m important and if I don’t choose to love me…
Then who will?

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Let’s Interrupt the Regularly Scheduled Program… for a Long-Winded-Talk about Our Mind

**This is my own interpretation progressing from the early stages of meditation practice. None of this should be interpreted is a substitute for actual medical advise. I am not a health care professional. Nor am I promoting meditation as superior to the therapeutic guidance of a professional human councilor. I AM suggesting meditation is worth exploring more than a few times. Here’s why… again my own interpretations which may or may not be proven by science backed papers I’ve read or ideas I’ve gathered from ancient to popular online sources 🤓 Enjoy!

We are complex beings. Our bodies are multi-part systems, functioning along side and (mostly) in cooperation with multiple other systems. Almost all of this is happening without any effort on our part (it’s automatic) One of those automated systems is our Mind.

Our Minds run routine programs based on our unique history of reactions and responses. Largely these ideas are modeled to you, formed thru lived experiences and a lot of it… is belief driven. All of which are reprogramable. That’s right! You can calmly witness what’s coming up and there afterwards began the process of dismantling and reprograming with your present and compassionate awareness!! Amazing!! 👏

Your Mind is Totally Hackable!!

Our left side of the brain controls the right side of our bodies and also plays the role of reasoning and Logic. Likewise our right brain controls the left body and also plays the role of creativeness and interpreting our Emotions. What we want and how best to get it, more or less. Somewhere in between is what I like to call the Judge. Logic makes its case, Emotion makes its case, the Judge considers all arguments and decides what you will be doing. This is happening very quickly most of the time. Sometimes we get stuck and the Judge rules in favor of half baked ideas. There are many reasons for this like pain induced brain fog for one oddly specific example. Mostly our past experiences along with how we see the world and ourselves have shaped our ideas. The brain being dominantly automatic is simply running well established programs. Programs designed to keep us safe and alive. Any perceived threat can trigger our inner alarm system and a default fight, flight, freeze, fawn or forget response is activated. Our brains can even create an incessant loop of repetitive thoughts. Hello intrusive friend! 👋

Managing the mind and body is all about balance. Bringing Logic and Emotion together at the same time. Remember there is a left, right and somewhat centered part of the brain along with a very loud alarm system. When the alarm is triggered the Judge struggles to well, judge and a rescue team (fight, flight, freeze, fawn, forget) is called in to protect you from the very real or perceived danger. Though this is an automated state it is also an imbalanced state. We want to bring the mind and body back into equilibrium.

Interrupting the Regularly Scheduled Program

There are tools we could use to assist us into a more meditative state, such as equally counted In and Out breaths, listening to Binary Beats, gazing into Symmetrical Art or Nature. You could also engage your body using your left and right hands and feet in unison like walking, biking, yoga, swimming, yard work, sweeping, washing dishes, crocheting… driving! (Begs the questions… Is this the reason for Road Rage!? If Emotion and Logic are now sitting in the same car, at the same time… then is it traffic that’s so triggering or is it that Emotion came along for the ride too?) Insert Radio HERE… I digress.

These are examples of physically encouraging our brain parts to work in harmony. Thru unison tasks with our breaths, ears, eyes and touch senses you can gain some control over your automatic systems and will then be better able to help rebalancing your brain, calming your body and even reducing pain! We can quite literally induce the balancing of our brain by using both the left and right sides of our body simultaneously and repetitively. This is probably a good reason why breathing meditations are widely encouraged. “Just simply focus on your In and Out breaths.”

These Tools and Activities also have in Common… Raising Your Awareness!!

This new found awareness seems to be trouble for many beginning Meditators. We don’t want to be with those thoughts or become MORE aware of the uncomfortable feelings coming up in us. We want to be distracted again, right away! Just Breathe! We might have even triggered a loop…. and now we can’t stop feeling or thinking about it. Congratulations! You have just become aware of an imbalance within. Both Logic (who also has lots of problems left to solve) and Emotion are simultaneously competing for YOUR ATTENTION…. NOW that they have it… it’s extra LOUD!

Your Attention?? Who’s Attention You Ask?

Yes… YOU are observing your Body, your Mind’s fears, doubts, worries etc AND your Emotions! You are now aware of all of this. You are the Observer. When you know you are the Observer… you naturally Observe. You have awareness and presence. The Present Observer is like the Meditative Observer… it’s just that our awareness is either focused on observing something in our outer environment OR focused on our inner environment 🤔

The Balancing of Two Worlds

Our focus of inner and outer awareness oscillates naturally (automatically). We react, we respond. Emotion, Logic. We are sort of genetically destined towards logical thinking though… right handedness for example. Right hand dominance is also suggested to be a result of generations after generations carrying our young on the left, over our hearts. This would also be very pleasing to the left Emotion-driven side of the body 🥹 Humans are so cute!!

The practice of meditation is You, The Awareness, that decided to sit the body down and give the mind and emotions the audience of a Non-Judge over and over. That’s your practice. Non Judge and Judge are aware in their own right, Emotions are signals to pay attention 🫣 and our thoughts are records of meaning you assigned or adopted about you and the world around you. You are the awareness of those thoughts and feelings that call for your attention. This too is why we breathe… bringing balance to the body, the mind and to let the discomfort move out thru our breaths. In - we reach it, Hold - we grab it, Out - we release it.

When we don’t feel great something is definitely off. We know that but perhaps we don’t always think of it as being off balance. That is exactly what is going on and we can learn to recognize it in ourselves. This is the challenge we are all tasked with. Life is going to knock you off balance! We will always be seeking equilibrium. Your own two feet and the head on your shoulders are always working together to maintain this upright and more balanced way of being. Let the Mind follow the Body (Remind me now) Let the Body follow the Mind (Remember this?) This IS breathing in and breathing out. Let the In and Out breath bring you into balance. In, Out. Life source in, Now let that old crap out.

If you are not having these loving whole body breathing moments and you’re feeling worse…
Do NOT continue to torture yourself. That’s the opposite to our GOAL of Self Compassion. If you are not feeling strong enough to be a Compassionate Witness to your own inner truths passing by… come back when it’s safer to be vulnerable again. In time you’ll recreate that safe inner space for all of yourself to show up to be heard and seen… Then your Judge will be better able to understand Emotion and Logic now that their unresolved cases have started to be sorted thru.

I have trust you can discover for yourself what methods will help you to bring balance to your systems. I also hope to have encouraged you with extra examples of why meditations are such an effective route for Self Compassion and relief.

May YOU regularly interrupt…
Your regularly scheduled programing!

🙏 Woo

#conqueryourmind #IntrusiveThoughts #Anxiety #Pain

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Put Your Batteries On!

Feeling depressed, so time for some Behavioral Activation. Also, my feelings are not facts. Yes, I feel sad that my dad rejected me last year for Father’s Day and man does it play with my self-worth & feed the stupid suicide ideation. My self-worth does not come from my Dad, it comes from being made in the image of God. I am God’s daughter. I’m fighting the depression today! I am doing this for my future children, husband and because I love my sister and niece . They need me and I want to be there for them. Going to start my Monday Arm workout!! #CPTSD #conqueryourmind #BehavioralActivation #PunchDepression #f ***Depression#SuicideIdeation #coping #iamworthy #JMJ #CheerMeOn