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One (RANT) DAY at a TIME

I’ll have #Gooddays & I’ll have bad, though I’m still constantly struggling with my #innerself daily. There are a lot of things I know I have to do, but either my #Anxiety gets worked up, or I’ll try to get it done, or I tell and/or give myself reminders & still somehow end up forgetting about it or I’ve become distracted.

I’ve noticed that my train of thought can now go all over the place. Which is why I now have a lot of notebooks that I could use if I needed to let it out.

When it comes to phone calls I need to make, or appointments to schedule… I spend hours worrying about the #Start - #during - & #End of the whole thing. Before I know it, I can’t call because they’re now closed. Of course now I’ve become #Irritated & #angry at myself.

It never used to be this hard. I know I need to find a job, even IF the job I had #terminated me in part of my #MentalIllness . I feel stuck with no #Positivity in site. & It doesn’t help that even with or without my anxiety ramping up, my #Pride will not let me ask for help.

•I give myself a ‘thumbs up’ daily for getting out of bed.
• I cheer when I have motivation to shower.
• I pat myself on the back, in my mind of course… when I do laundry & put them away.

I still struggle with driving anywhere if I’m alone. Hunter, who is my furbaby soulmate, but also my #esa is always by my side, & either one of my sons or sometimes both would join me so I’m not freaking out while driving on the road.

I feel #Guilt that I’m not being the mom that they need me to be. I feel bad every single time I ask them for help (when I’m getting #overwhelmed trying to tidy up the house). I am mad that my #breakdown caused me to fail in my performance at work & that I #Struggled to do the things they asked of me (because I was never informed from the start that there was info that they could show me & help me with #FMLA ‘cause it would’ve been easy back then to get things in order than it was a couple of months ago). I felt #invisible . I felt my #Voice didn’t matter. I tried… all by myself… in the end, the company I loved working at didn’t give a … about me.

I’m sorry for ranting about nonsense. :(

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Here's what I've been doing on my medical leave for #Anxiety and #Depression

If you saw my other posts, I decided to take a medical leave from work. My anxiety is at an all time high due to trigger upon trigger and events in my life the past couple of years (that's another story to share later).

I'm on week 2 of leave. Thankfully able to use #FMLA and Short Term Disability for it. I've got group therapy starting this week for the next 12 weeks. Weekly one on ones with my regular therapist, and of course, check-ins with my doctor.

What have I done so far. Well, not having any work responsibilities has been amazing. Work wasn't the primary trigger to my anxiety, but it wasn't helping. I'm good at my job, work in the corporate world, but this time for me was definitely needed.

I walk almost every day. I'm reading an amazing book that seems like it was written just for me. "Set Boundaries, Find Peace". I sit outside on the patio reading, listening to music.

A lot of thinking too. Working from home now for almost 2 years has been great. I can't imagine going back into the office. But a different thought has entered my head these past few I even want to go back at all? I don't think I'd ever leave my company. It's a great place to work, the people are great, and my co-workers are the best. I think, though, I need to consider my options of coming back and doing something else. I'm a problem solver, analyzer, and think way out of the box, which has done me well in my current position, but I think these talents of mine can be used in other work areas besides the one I'm in now (IT). This is something I'll be thinking more about these next few weeks.

How about you? Have you taken a leave, and realized you want to do something else? Even in the same company you currently work for?

Thanks for reading!


I walked out on my job friday too many knowing the day after would just be another hot, over exerted, dreamless of a repeat day followed by ONE day off just to do the whole nine hour day, six days a week thing--and my mind did a litte SCREW THAT.
I went to ask a few coworkers what they thought I should do, and even though they recommended I just stay I literally felt like killing myself if I had to work one more minute. So, I told my boss I was going home. Didn't call or come in the next day or today and I won't be tomorrow either. I will however be calling my HR to see if I could possibly get my job back and under the condition that I apply for FMLA. Because obviously I need it to function. I don't get how aome people can work 60-70 hours a is supposed to be more than work, sleep, eat. Has anyone else ever had to walk away from a job? Or gotten a job back after doing so?

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #FMLA
#Depression #Anxiety #Work #bpdcoping


I need advice...

My wife has been having some real bad issues with her anxiety lately. She was out of work for two months back around Thanksgiving due to her anxiety. She filed for FMLA then and the lady she had to contact wouldn't listen to her. She just talked over her and was dragging the process out and told her she needed to do all sorts of running around and making calls that, come to find out, she didn't need to do at all. At one point in there, she even told my wife she needed to be at work on a certain day or she wouldn't have a job anymore. My wife was freaking out anyway and went to work and found out the next day that the HR lady had no right to even tell her that and that it wasn't true cuz she had fmla to be off work through mid January. She also harassed my wife the entire time about wanting her to call her to update her all the time even though my wife was updating her direct supervisor of everything, which is all she was required to do According to the people who handle the FMLA and short term disability.

Fast forward to today. We had an issue with her daughter a week and a half ago and she called off work and started a new file on that basis and then had another panic attack about that. But she sent emails to the HR lady about doing some more FMLA cuz later that week she had first round of psych eval done about her anxiety and let her contact person at her work know what was going on. Yesterday or something the HR lady called, and told my wife she refused to file the paperwork until my wife called her on the phone. She said she didn't know what was going on and so she wouldn't proceed with filing the case. My wife had emailed the HR lady the first round of issues and said she wanted to do everything in email writing because talking on the phone was a trigger for the anxiety that she was filing for FMLA about. As I said, she did email the lady about this case, she communicated on writing. But today she found out from her workplace contact that they pointed my wife out and fired her cuz the HR lady hadn't filed any paperwork.

I feel like this all sounds very not legal and my wife is calling a lawyer tomorrow to find out if there is a case here...

#FMLA #Anxiety #BipolarDepression #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder


Feedback#Fibro #Work

Hi there, I was approved to work from home until 12/22/20 due to pandemic and health. I have fibro - diagnosed 7/2020. Noticed my Director is inpatient and expecting me to ret to work full time up and running in Jan. Even though I'm fulfilling all my responsibilities. My question is it premature to have the conversation now about continuing to work from home, FMLA options, etc.

# Fibromyalgia
#Work from home

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Working through *COVID-19 Hacks*

There are a number of things that you can do to keep your position safe without putting your health at risk.

1. FMLA - Is a USA law that is used to take unpaid leave due to a chronic condition or to take care of a family member. This protects your position at work.

A few cavets to this: It can't be used for preventative purposes of the flu or COV-19. However, if you are immunocompromised you can use the ADA law for a reasonable accommodation.

A reasonable accommodation is ANYTHING that you and your doctor deem necessary to help you complete your job to the best of your ability at work. For me, that means having a flex schedule, working from home, having a stand-up desk and ergonomic items IF I'm in the office.

FMLA can be used if you need to self-quarantine due to possible exposure, have symptoms etc.

2. Emergency paid sick leave.
The legislation would require employers with fewer than 500 employees to provide emergency paid sick leave.
The act would generally require 2 weeks of emergency paid leave.

For full-time employees, employers would provide 80 hours of paid leave.
For part-time employees, employers would provide the average number of hours the employee works over a 2-week period.
As modified by the House on March 16, emergency paid sick leave would be available if employees are unable to work or telework because the employee:

👉Is subject a federal, state or local isolation order related to COVID-19
👉Has been advised to self-quarantine
👉Is experiencing symptoms of COVID-19
👉Is caring for an individual who is subject to an isolation order or who has been advised to self-quarantine
👉Is caring for a son or daughter because the child’s school or place of care is closed, or the child care provider is unavailable due to COVID-19 precautions.

Have questions?? Ask away😊


Returning to work tips?

My FMLA is over, I return to work on Monday. My anxiety is acting up because I am terrified. Terrified of all that can go wrong. Terrified that I will become overwhelmed. Terrified because I don’t know what will happen. Positive words? #Anxiety #Depression #FMLA


Workplace struggles and FMLA

So I had to meet with my HR manager this week because I’ve been struggling to adjust to a new medication. Last week I missed a day and a half of work because I couldn’t stop crying or concentrate on anything. I was feeling like the deepest, hollowing out pain of sadness for no good or rational reason (other than having mental health problems).

Due to other health conditions, illness, appointments, and some really bad depression/anxiety days, I’ve run out of sick time which I feel extremely guilty about, and had to get paperwork for FMLA protections (and to be able to use my vacation time as sick time if needed).

I feel even more guilty for even thinking about FMLA. It would be one thing if it was a hospitalization or pregnancy, or whatnot. It’s just hard when it’s something invisible like depression, and I feel like my managers are going to think poorly of me for it. It’s probably just my brain being irrational again.

Anybody else have to get FMLA and feel really bad about it? How did you reconcile this need? #Depression #FMLA

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Do you ever give yourself final warnings? For example after four months on FMLA for my anxiety & depression I have given myself 10 days to get help. #Anxiety #Depression #FMLA #FinalWarning