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I’m new to chronic pain (long Covid ME/CFS). I have a joy jar that needs redoing. It contains color coded popsicle sticks with ideas for things I can do to enrich creative, physical, spiritual, social, and intellectual parts of my life. Many of my old sticks have things I just can’t do anymore. What things have you found that are gentle on struggling bodies (and, let’s face it, hearts and minds, too) that enrich your life? #ChronicFatigueSyndromeampME #ideas #helpneeded #newspoonie

I made my first mom friend and this evening we went to her daughter's birthday party. I so scared I'm going to screw this friendship up. Any ideas on how I can not do that? Please???
#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #scaredtobealone #helpneeded #Anxiety #FearOfAbandonment

does anyone else aboslutely hate large groups of people, and actually freezes in a crowd... But when you are comfortable with people you 1 can't shut up and 2 you are ssoo loud? #Agoraphobia #loudsilence #AmIAlone #helpneeded

This is the 1st time I have posted to The Mighty.

I need to forgive my father. He is 84 and though healthy, I don’t know how many years he has left. I know that forgiving him is important for my health: as this situation contributes to my struggles with autoimmune issues, fibromyalgia and treatment resistant and depression. But I don’t know if I can.

After I found out that my husband of 20 years, had an affair, my world turned upside down. I asked my dad to support me. (Not financially.) I begged him to let my husband know, that he, my dad, was disappointed in my husband. My dad would not. I told my Dad that I needed his support, so I could feel the stability, that was taken away. I wanted my dad to help me figure out what to do. I asked for his reassurance that my kids and I would be ok. I needed him to literally stand next to me.

But instead, he said he couldn’t do any of those things, bc it was crossing his boundary. Apparently, ‘entering’ into my personal life was against his principles.

Idk why I didn’t leave instead of listening to his tongue lashing that followed. He lectured me on what was ‘right’ and what was wrong’, and how my asking for his support was against his ‘principles’. When he was done scolding me, I felt like I had been run over.

My husband’s betrayal, and my dad’s willful abandonment added to the depression I was already in, was too much for me to handle; I no longer wanted to live. I checked myself into an inpatient facility.

How can I forgive my Dad for making everything(!) in my life more difficult? For deserting me and for his role in my pain?

In the past 5 years, I, have not seen or spoken with him. Though I have supported and encouraged my children to continue their relationship with their grandparents, they felt conflicted doing so. Effectively, sticking to his principles, cost my father his only daughter and 2 of his grandchildren.

Even if he believes that choosing his principles was right, he has not apologized for the hurt that it caused me.

How do I get past this hurt and anger?

I’ve had my best friend for 14 years. She has borderline personality disorder and I’ve developed reactions to her, ones she doesn’t like.
Sometimes my arm shakes or my leg. Sometimes I start to stutter.
It sets her off more. I have depression, anxiety, insomnia, low self-esteem, tons of body issues...
Sometimes she will have an episode and I can’t help but react the way I do. She will order me to stop shaking or stuttering, mocking me as she does it. Sometimes she will yell or scream at me to make it stop. But I can’t.

It always ends up with me being in a room alone, trying to stay out of her way but being ready to dash to her if she calls - mostly because I don’t want to set her off more. I’m constantly going through panic attacks alone.
Please help. #CheckInWithMe #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #helpneeded #amitheonlyone

My boyfriend and I have been together nearly three years and we are thinking about taking the next step and moving out.
We both have stable jobs and are trying to prepare for what we would need to do. Anyone have tips of things to think about and watch out for? or even tips to make the whole process smoother? #Anxiety #helpneeded #help #movingout

I’m on day six of a migraine and nothing has helped relieve it. I had medications, sleep, essential oils, lots of water, heating pads, oatmeal raisin cookies. What I just listed is what I’ve tried and has worked a tiny bit. The light is hurting my eyes now and I’m very nauseous. I’m weak and can’t pick up anything heavy and stairs take my breath away. My head is filled with so much pressure it hurts to touch and it’s nearly impossible to sleep as it hurts my head so much. Any advice on what has helped get rid of your migraines would be much appreciated!! #Migraines #Headache #ChronicHeadaches #helpneeded