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So You Think You Have ADHD? But You Can't Find A Therapist. Here Are 5 Things to Do Right Now

Imagine if you didn't know if you were ADHD/ADD or whether you had a learning disability? That was me for 40 some-odd years. Now that I do know, I look back on my childhood, teen and young adult years and think, would it have been better if I had a label? The honest answer is, I don't know. I do know that I wasted a lot of time not working on myself. Just feeling lost. Don't make that mistake.

For every person waiting for an official diagnosis, who doesn't have it in writing, don't wait to start working on yourself.

A therapist or a coach can help, but you don't have to sit around listening to sad playlists until you finally get that appointment. Do these five things to the best of your ability ASAP:

Find some form of exercise you like and that will exhaust you. Yes, even if you don't like workouts or aren't great at sports. So what. I fall off of bikes. I look like Elaine from Seinfeld when I dance. I trip on hikes. I do it anyway because it makes me feel better. Recently I started swimming. You can find me in lane 6 (the slowest lane) and I often look like I need to be rescued. I get out of the pool smiling. Get a pet or borrow one. You need unconditional love. Even the people who do love you won't always understand you. Honestly, they may also be sick of talking to you about your issues. A dog is an attention-seeking, tail-wagging lovey that won't let you down. Mine sleeps on my head, barks in my and I swear, smiles at me in the park. Find a place to be in total silence. If your only time is in the shower or with noise-cancelling headphones, so be it. Make sure you get three 20-minute silent retreats a day. No compromises. I don't care if you have to sit on the toilet and stare at the side of the tub blankly while your toddler watches Disney to get some peace. Get away and get some headspace. Say yes to something. Yes! to a new salad dressing. Yes! to a walk with someone who you barely know to get a coffee. Yes! to a book club you might never show up to but that gets you to the library to check out a great read. Yes is a dopamine hit. Don't look back in anger. There are so many things to be pissed off about. That negativity can suck you in, though. Resolve to journal about what is making you mad. Tell a friend about your neighbor nightmare— and then let it go. LET THAT STUFF GO. Sure, it will keep coming back. But keep shoving the door closed and opening a positive one. How, Denise, how? It's not easy, I know. It is do-able. Without a therapist, I cut through my anger by listening to comedians. They say the stuff you know you want to and make you laugh about evil things. They redirect your brain to laughter. Laughter is dopamine. You need dopamine.

Good luck. Wear a helmet if you need to and definitely splurge on headphones. #dopamine #ADHD #laughter #Depression #Anxiety #Solutions #Lifehacks #ADHD advice

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# Lonely & Don’t Know Who To Talk To (after being chronically I’ll and shut in (highly immunocompromised) #Solutions on coping with and handling loneliness? What works for you?

Regardless of their skills and knowledge, people living with a different abilities still encounter attitude and physical barriers.

While attitudes towards them are steadily changing, many still face attitude barriers from people who feel uncomfortable or awkward talking to them, because of their different ability.

It might be that they fear that they might say something wrong or coming across as patronising, are often the cause for people avoiding those with a disability.

We have highlighted these barriers and highlighted how people should handle these barriers to make it more accommodating and friendlier place for everyone.

Will share “ how people should handle these barriers “ tips with you over the next few days.

Take care

Marthe-Marie

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I'm in the middle of writing a post about my "fixer" personality trait. For the record, it's NOT control issue. I have no desire for control over anyone other than people being irresponsible enough to ignore social distancing guidelines. I will 100% admit wanting to control those people so they stop killing people. Other than that, it's not a control thing. It's just how my brain works. Telling me not to find solutions is like telling me not to breath, but, it's only because I hate to see people struggling in any way. ESPECIALLY, if I see a real solution that can help. I understand that not every problem has a fix, and I also understand that people sometimes just need to vent, but venting only does so much. It's healthy and helpful for processing through feelings you don't fully understand, and I am always willing to be there for someone who needs to do so, but I may follow-up with something I find could be helpful. I don't tell you that it's the only way to fix things, or try to pressure you- I just let you know you have options in case it's something you may not have thought of. Just venting, and getting upset when real options are given, can lead to a pattern of dealing with the same problems over and over. Many people fall into this pattern with at least a few issues in their lives. Don't be so against solutions that you create, or worsen, your problems. For more from me, visit the link in my profile or search Written by Dida #LifeLessons #MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #chronicillnesswarrior #Relationships #Addiction #COVID19 #alonetogether #togetheralone #athometogether #togetherathome #quarantine #pandemic2020 #writtenbydida #InvisibleDisability #invisibleillnesswarrior #Fibromyalgia #fibrowarrior #fibrosucks #spooniewarrior #Spoonie #InvisibleIllness