Toxic

Hi, my name is Healinglight.

I’m here because today feels heavy.

Yesterday would have been my anniversary with my abuser. It’s been over two years since I left. Most days I call myself a survivor — and I am. I got out. I rebuilt. I’m standing.

But some days, like today, I feel like I haven’t healed at all.

I feel angry.

Angry at the way he treated me — the manipulation, the gaslighting, the cruelty that slowly chipped away at who I was.

Angry at myself for staying as long as I did. For believing his words. For buying into promises that were never going to be real. For trying harder when I was already exhausted.

And sometimes I’m angry at the people around me who weren’t there when I needed them most. The ones who didn’t see it. Or didn’t want to see it. Or couldn’t hold space for how bad it really was.

I know healing isn’t linear. I know leaving was brave. I know I survived something that could have broken me.

But on days like this, the anger feels loud. And I don’t always know where to put it.

I’m still learning how to be proud of the woman who left, while also forgiving the woman who stayed.

If you’ve ever felt both strong and shattered at the same time, I guess I just want you to know you’re not alone. And maybe I’m not either.

#MightyTogether #Abuse #Toxic #DV

Hi, my name is Minnacious. I'm here because it's not like we used to do or we used to grow, they said you have to care about parents, you need to shut your eyes in front of your parents, blaablaablaa

And yeah, they care us, provide for us, take to hospital, but bro no one is here to check if we are okay, see they are our parents and they only need our physical well being, when we cant work for them or else we dont reply to them theyre like going to kill ourselves, their kids
and even cursing their child.

For someone who read this, it's not your fault, babe. They assume that you have done that, they start accusing you of the bad things, to be honest, it's a privilege to be a girl until something went wrong, and all of a sudden, they forgot the things we did right. Toxic parenting isn't such a small thing. As an Indian, we need to stay in this horrible place until our marriage, and the in-laws' house is bro, should I need to explain? And with their constant blaming, not have permission to go out and relax. And we shout out of anger( see, men can do this no matter what), they accuse us of being dangerous to human beings, scolding, slapping, beating.

I have a question: what are we supposed to do in this household? Study and score 99 percent, cry quietly? Did we have the basic freedom to sleep quietly? Or is it curtailed or what?

#MightyTogether #Parenting #Teen #Toxic

I was in a 6-year on-and-off relationship with a narc man. I got hooked but he had a reckless lifestyle, heavy drinking, drugs, abusive/narc traits, never processed his dad’s suicide, and several failed relationships (incl. a court case with an ex gf). I knew something was off but I ignored it. I was loyal, never liked his behaviour, but kept compromising, hoping he’d change. But I never felt like he really loved me.

He was "nice" but he also lied, cheated, kicked me out several times, threatened, humiliated me, forced sex while intoxicated a few times, never appreciated me or my help. We'd always argue. I swept things under the rug until the night he strangled me. He was arrested. And I left him.

He smeared me, played the victim, afterwards. Typical. He's been hunting on SM for a few months, and now he’s on a swingers site chasing supplies. I was in a trauma bond, blind. Then I saw things clearly, but I still feel shaken sometimes. How do I finally detach emotionally from all this?

I called the Crisis Hotline and was told, "I understand that you are having suicidal ideation and that they are bad but everyone is going through things and you need to be greatful because things could be worse as someone else has it." I discontinue the call because my situation was never understood or address.

#Toxic Positivity
#MentalHealth
#sucide
#Crisis Hotline