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Staying positive in bad times

How do you stay positive when there is souch negativity around you. When you see your marraige falling apart over something as trivial as an insecure mother in-law? How can something so petty have so much power.

It defies all logic.

I don't want to be sad. I don't want to dwell on negative thoughts. I want to be able to ignore shitty people and live my life as best as I can. I want to do what makes me happy. I don't want to waste my time being sad over my ungrateful husband. Its been over a month and he is adamant on his cold behavior towards me.

I'm trying to stay positive.

Any advice on how to be happier?

#Anxiety #ToxicMarriage #Narcissiticabuse

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What to do when you don’t know what to do? #Depression #PTSD #Narcissiticabuse

Finally broke the trauma bond after 7 years in narcissistic abuse. It took 10 months. I can finally say I miss having someone but it isn’t him. For 5 months I laid on the floor and cried and rarely left my home. Finally sold my home and moved in with mom with dementia so my siblings wouldn’t put her away. Small town, no sitters full time, can’t work without sitters, love to hunt but wore out with it now. No fun alone. No place to volunteer. Money will be a factor soon. I pray and pray for answers. Caretaking is harder than being a mother. I see myself slipping back into the depression. I need to work to keep my mind occupied. Tried meditating, can’t turn thoughts off. Not suicidal any more, but have no purpose it seems. The repetitiveness of dementia patients wears me out. I get 4 days off a month. That’s my help from siblings. Why do I care enough to sacrifice myself to make sure my mom is taken care of. 61 years old, in shape, not hard on the eyes, educated, can’t date, no sitters, don’t even know if I want to. Do you ever feel like you don’t care if tomorrow comes or not? I can’t find direction.

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Just done .... #Depression #Anxiety #CheckInWithMe #Insomnia #Bekind #youmatter #Selfcare #loveyourself

Soo I am still very unwell ,at home now on strict bed rest but atleast it's not getting worse.

Spoke to family member today and instantly I know this person triggers me but I was answering to let them know I'm OK anyways and that was it a 4 min phonecall literally had my hands sweating,heart beating through my chest, sharp pains in my head , dry mouth and that feeling I was about to throw up !!!! How she can understand why I'm so ill or getting worse I'm obviously bringing it on myself and making it worse being selfish I should be up and getting on with it ......

Baring in mind I am just out of high dependency unit for covid 2 days ago ,I have pneumonia, sepsis, damage to my liver and my lungs and in general just extremely worn out every bone in my body is agony .....

She's not doing anything for me so not as though I'm getting the attention she seems to think I want ....I haven't asked anyone to do anything for me .I am just trying to get better ....

Honestly cannot believe the past 2weeks I've had still dealing with it all and yet then on top of it a reminder of how horrible one person can actually be ....

Sorry for the rant ...I'm definitely feeling sorry for myself now .....

It's no wonder I prefer being alone....

#Depression #Anxiety #CheckInWithMe #Insomnia #Bekind #youmatter #Selfcare #loveyourself #Endometriosis #COVID19 #ChildLoss #lonely #Narcissiticabuse

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New Community! [SpousalNarcissismAbuseSurvivors] Please join and feel free to offer suggestions/ideas on how to improve the page!

I decided to create a community of people who share the same pain and guilt that comes with being the innocent victim of a narcissistic/over-possessive spouse. I was a victim for five and a half years, finally losing so much of myself that I had no other choice but to leave, no matter the costs it brings.

Though I am beyond grateful to have found the courage to leave ONCE AND FOR ALL, I struggle DAILY with the emotional and mental repercussions a year and a half later. I am looking to not only share my personal experiences with those who may find comfort or a connection to my stories, but allow others to safely and freely express their innermost feelings, concerns, & questions that I am sure we all have had cross our mind at one point.

I truly hope you accept my heartfelt invitation to this new page and join me in creating a safe haven for all those who know what it feels like to not have a voice anymore. Please share if possible! 🙏

#spousalnarcissismabusesurvivors
#youareworthsomuchmore #Narcissiticabuse

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Feeling deserted and abandoned by family. #Narcissiticabuse #Depression

So as I have written before I left he narcissist almost 3 months ago. I have been doing ok. Went thru a couple months of breakdowns crying grieving because we were in business together and I lost everything job home partner friends coworkers everything. Now he hired my sister and my niece neither of which can do my job but just to hurt me. I am devastated they went to work for him. Crushed. Back in the depression and grieving stage. He has destroyed me financially emotionally mentally and some physically with ruptured disk in my neck. I just can’t get out of this hole again. Never been this low.

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Narcissistic abuse recovery

Hi everyone,

Just looking for support on how you can get over a narcissistic relationship. My story is mentally exhausting, hes gotten into my head that im the crazy one im the one who wrecked things.. anyone want to share stories? Advice on how to move on and get over it? How its affected your relationships affer the fact? Just hoping theres other people out there that have gone through the same situation #Narcissiticabuse #narcissisticpartner

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