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A woman who knows about cars? No way!

I am trying to be a good person so please help me. I was talking to my boyfriend about how I saw an NA mazda miata and I thought "is it a 1.6 or a 108 liter engine" but I never stare at cars because I do not want men to think I am a "dumb woman" because I like their car. There is absolutely nothing wrong with liking a car for it's looks, but (most) men tend to think that is all a woman likes is a car's looks and color. I asked him if a man was looking at your car what would he say (he has a datsun 240z, a 94 and 91 miata, and an eagle talon)? He said if a man looked at my miata i would assume he liked the car. I continued, if a woman looked at it? He said i would say she thinks it is cute. So you can see me as the woman who saw a NA madza miata who saw that he has negative camber on his driver rear wheel and not on his passenger rear wheel would say nothing to him even at a light next him because I would not be taken seriously even though he needed to fix it if it was not his intent to have the rear wheel not in line with the other. My bf then started to disagree about how men treat woman in the car world without ever having been a woman in the car world, but he just stated he would assume a woman was looking at his car differently because she was a woman. He then showed me a (made up) hotwheels car and asked "what do you think of when you see this?" so I started counting the visible "spark plug wire connections" I counted 8 so I said It has 16 clinders and he said I was only saying that to make a point not because that is what I thought (that was what I actually thought!!!). He was not even taking what I thought into consideration and said I was making a show. I said what I thought and I was still lying somehow?
I have to deal with chronic pain, being called a redskin and sexism?
#IAcceptYou #female #WomeninProgress #WomensMentalHealthSummit #InternationalWomensDay #womenshistorymonth #Womenhelpingwomen #womenpower #Anxiety #Fibromyaliga #Fibromyalgia #Fibro


Accepting My Ability to Love Others

One of the biggest antagonisms I have had has been love. I have been antagonised to the concept of love, equating it with weakness from a very young age. Expressing care, concern, and affection for someone which emanated from love for me was always a difficult, perhaps impossible task at times.

As a woman, I have always been taught that expressing nurturing tenderness for anyone is one of my biggest weaknesses. In order to move forward and succeed in life, I need to sacrifice my ability to be nurturing and tender towards others and towards myself. I was also taught that expressing love for anyone was scandalous - I was never to try and express any capacity for love or affection. Love and affection, for me, were inaccessible commodities.

Women are brutally objectified and yet never given the opportunity to express their loving tenderness towards others. We are always, always shamed for being too soft, too sensitive and too tender towards others. Life for us is always a task of being objectified and vilified for our more fundamental qualities. Yet at the same time, we are constantly made to feel like paragons of virtue for having the qualities of tenderness. All genders oscillate between a feeling of absolute condemnation and purity when it comes to women.

I want to express my solidarity towards all women who’ve been made to feel like they are weak for caring too much. Like they are lascivious for being friendly. Like they are pathetic for wanting to express kindness. Women are fully deserving and have every right to express themselves and their elemental qualities. No one has the right to criticise and condemn women for their most elemental, basic qualities.

#WomeninProgress - have you ever been made to feel ashamed for being a woman? Don’t stay silent. Raise your voice and let’s change the conversation around what it means to be a woman in today’s world.


Just A Reminder... #Selfworth #IfYouFeelHopeless #youareenough

If anyone hasn’t told you today, let me be the first to say that: You are loved. You are brave. You are not your illness or disability. You are enough. You can get through this. You’re beautiful. You’re handsome. You’re worthy of so much. You’re wanted. You can always come to me if you need to. You’re not worthless. You’re not a failure. You shouldn’t kill yourself. You shouldn’t be harming yourself. It’s okay. It will eventually get better, I promise you. You can let go. You can breathe. You can be vulnerable. You will succeed. You are enough. You are enough. YOU ARE ENOUGH. #spreadlove #ItsOKMan #WomeninProgress #Empowerment #Girls #MentalIllness #Disability #youareenough