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hey everyone....rn im filled with suicidal thoughts once again cant understand how to overcome those memories which i dont deserve. even this thing has made my immune health weak....so i was that girl whom ever1 saw as a bully puppet, in the 12 yrs of my whole lyf where children play with their frnds celebrate their bdays with their frnds meanwhile me who've spent her whole lyf sitting by herself at the last desk just bcz nobody wanted to sit with me, my daily routine upto 12th was reached the classroom, sat ony my desk nd keeping a hope that sm1 will sit with me, but my mates would have already made plans to not to sith with me even if theres any emergency then they would put the bag b/w us so that they couldnt touched with me accidentally. nd at the lunch tym....ive eaten my breakfast by myself by looking out of the windows where my classmates play. and after 6hrs of crying internally in the skul when i came back home....the homies had such a beautiful rltn that ive never witnessed how it is feel to have those parents who love each other. till the nyt the whole house witnessed only rage,anger and crying voice as i m the youngest nd non manipulative person....so i was the target to beat the crap outta me as i wasnt an idle daughter who doesnt obey their narcissistic behaviour.

came to the clg....same thing happened here....as i live in the hostel so ive tried to be with every single person in a hope that sm1 will be my frnd but my luck had other plans haha. i didnt 9 this thing until 2nd yr that with whom im living.....they do backbiting passing racial slurs about me same as the skul as per my physique. im still a human how much can i pretend smtyms i cant ctrl my emotions nd starts weeping. then i met my bf....though he had similar childhood too so i thought that finally ive got sm1 bt silly me i 4got that every1 leaves me after 1 or less than 1 year lol.....our rltn was going healthy but since 2024, idk why bt he started being more bz as he is top notch businessman....even ive halt some events just to be with him but its been 11 months now i cant beg anymore abt sm1s attention or tym.....as couples spend tym with each other nd its a common thing ryt, meanwhile i would have to say multiple tyms literally like come come or else im coming to u blah blah but upto when.....even last month ive cried like a mad for the first tym in front of him bt i think he didnt care abt that situation like why did i cry.....is it bcz i wanted a quality tym with him? is it wrong? my colleagues r so much selfish that they literally live on their money not on their parents.....nd i didnt do this lowly thing with him. but ig todays boys love a girl with slefish nature who will destroy them......

so on the day of breakup i was soo fed up to beg abt the tym so what i did was i just copied nd pasted his dialogue on him that im bz i cant be with u.....if it was other way around then i would ask literally infinte tyms as i was always do....bt wht i get in response was OKAY BYE!

i mean what.....ive literally did every single thing to be with him meanwhile he literally didnt ask me why or why not i mean when ppl do this to me its okay for them bt when i did the same......im a bad person? im bad bcz i want every1s well being? or bcz i want sm attention that i didnt get? wht i know is....im too a human not an animal🥲

ps - english isnt my first language #help #Advice #Trauma

I’ve been looking for one for ages!#BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #onlinemeeetings #Community #Advice

I’ve been on Zoloft for 2 weeks and 2 days went up to 75mg on Tuesday now having terrible anxiety. I’ve had more stressors so maybe that’s all it is but it’s really bad and I’m feeling really discouraged. Had to get off Prozac because it just wasn’t working anymore. I’m super sensitive to medication so I didn’t want to switch but I had no choice the Prozac had pooped out apparently. I couldn’t lower the Prozac and start the Zoloft at the same time so the depression got a lot worse. It feels like it’s helping a little but the anxiety is unreal now. I feel like I went through all of the medication withdraws for nothing. I know it hasn’t had much time to work but I need to be able to get back to work and the anxiety I’m having today is as bad as the anxiety from before when I had trouble working because I can’t seem to see straight. I also think a lot of this is trauma response from a abusive relationship I was in. It’s been 10 months but when I get stressed I start shutting down. I’m so alone and hate myself. I feel like I don’t deserve anything and I’m a bad person.

Hi there! I am moving into my first apartment with my boyfriend in a couple of weeks and I am so anxious. The thought of moving out of my childhood home and parents just feels so depressing…I am both excited and anxious. #Advice #Anxiety #moving #Leavingchildhoodhome #scared #change #differentroutine

Any advice when you have to be in the office but you're immunocompromised?
My coworker has been hacking and coughing on the other side of our partition all week; I caved on Tuesday and started masking again because otherwise I was too anxious to focus on work.
Help? #Advice #RheumatoidArthritis #immunosuppressed #Immunocompromised

What the title says. I'm feeling validated but also scared. We still need to do a bunch of detective work to determine if there's a discernible cause, but I know more than likely it's just plain old unexplained CFS. This fatigue has been wrecking my life and my sense of self for the past year, and I worry that it won't stop. Any words of wisdom or advice from other CFS sufferers with more experience than me?

(Please no religious/spiritual suggestions, happy for you if you find that stuff helpful but I don't.)

#ChronicFatigueSyndrome #ChronicFatigue #ChronicIllness #Diagnosis #Advice

When you struggle to accept it as a part of you and want to push it away, be someone who isn’t anxiety prone or depressive prone but also how to accept it or be self compassionate even when it’s hard? #Anxiety #Shame #Barriers #struggles #Advice #TheMighty #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #Support

Hi all,

It's been quite a while. I'm back because my girlfriend is dealing with some pretty major low self esteem and I feel powerless to help her having never dealt with it myself to a significant degree except within the context of a bout of severe depression when I was 18. We have a lot of things in common with our brains: OCD, anxiety, probably autism, and generally being weird smart nerds. But my environment growing up was a lot more supportive than hers. I grew up in a progressive west coast city with a queer friendly community and friends and family who were also weird and felt that it was a good thing to think for ourselves and not be "normal." She grew up in a Texas suburb in a conservative Catholic community that socially punished any kind of nonconformity or inability to instantly understand and follow unspoken social rules and has only had maybe two real friends, not including me, since being a preteen. She has such a low opinion of her ability to make friends and feels like everyone thinks she's weird in a bad way. She assumes that all social interactions are going to go terribly which leads her to not interact with anyone thus worsening the anxiety. I understand why she feels like this given her past experiences, but I just feel like she can't be so much different from me that a modest but fulfilling social life such as mine is impossible for her. She's seeing a therapist mostly for the OCD but also the self esteem, but I just don't know how to help. I do everything I can to tell her how wonderful she is, naming specific things I love about her and reasons that she is great outside of any personal relationships. But at the end of the day I don't have much personal experience with feeling that way and so I have no tips to give her like I can with OCD, the treatment of which I am now somewhat of a veteran. Any suggestions from those who have dealt with such things for what might help? And advice to give someone struggling like this? Especially if you've successfully been able to manage these feelings and gain self confidence and self love/appreciation. I suppose I should also add that we are currently long-distance and she visits me every 1-2 months (she has a more flexible schedule and makes a lot more money, and I have the more independent living situation whereas she still lives with her somewhat homophobic parents). So as much as I'd like to hug her every day and whisper a litany of her wonderful qualities in her ear, I sadly cannot.

#Selfesteem #lowselfesteem #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #Autism #Relationships #Advice #Support

I'm pretty new to this site. I'm a mid-20s guy grappling with how long I'm going to have to deal with MH issues. I've been having MH problems for more than half my life. I've tried a lot of med combos, most don't work, but one works really good and I've been on and off that for the past two years. A close relative said that she's tried coming off meds over and over again but that depression always comes back whenever she does. I've noticed the same thing with me. Once I come off this combo, I fall back into the same hole of overdrinking, suicidal thoughts, hurting people I love in those moments, feeling like crap 24/7, no motivation, angry all the time, etc. I don't want that anymore. I think I might need meds forever but I don't know and that thought still makes me uneasy.

I like who I am when I'm on this med combo. I don't overdrink. I don't overreact. I don't get road rage anymore. I don't have the 24/7 negative thoughts. I can actually laugh and I'm generally upbeat and positive. It's night and day. I've gained some weight but in light of my most recent crisis point, I think being overweight is better than dead and hurting the people in my life. Plus now that my mind is right, I can do stuff to counteract that weight side effect, right?

Any tips on how to accept that this is probably going to be a longer-term thing I gotta take meds for? Any tips on how to manage weight while on the meds? I got off this combo last time because of weight but if there's a way to manage that side effect then I want to try that. #Depression #Advice #MentalHealth

Guys, I'm really struggling at the moment. Every single day of my life, I'm in pain. I've accepted it as a fact of my life. But a few weeks ago I randomly injured a muscle in my lower back that has been locked/cramped up ever since, and is pretty much crushing my sciatic nerve. I'm getting such painful burning-aching sensations CONSTANTLY. There is no reprieve.

I can't get comfy when I'm sitting, and I'm barely sleeping at night. My doctor has examined me and she's pretty sure it's my sciatic nerve that's been pinched and that I need the appointment for physio. But the earliest they could fit me in was 23rd October - 10 days away! My doctor has prescribed a course of diazepam (valium) to help ease the muscle and try and abate the muscle spasming around the nerve. Which works to an extend but I really can't do much. I can't lift anything heavy, etc.

I am truly miserable right now. And I have been for the last two weeks since the injury. It just doesn't stop... My nephew came over on Wednesday and I couldn't play with him the usual way I do - chasing him about, lifting him up and bouncing him. And he just kept coming and cuddling my leg, raised his arms at me and said; "Up!" It broke my heart when I said no. He walked off with his head hung down and his bottom lip poking out.

Since the injury, I've eaten a LOT of junk food. I just cannot stop, and I don't really care all that much. I know I'm comfort eating (I used to do this a lot in the past), and I know it's not good for me. I'm just finding it really hard to give a crap about it.

What should I do? I'm so close to tears... I need a nice long, tight hug/cuddle. It's so hard to keep going.

#POTS #PosturalOrthostaticTachycardiaSyndrome #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #FattyLiverDisease #NAFLD #Diabetes #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #InterstitialCystitis #ChronicPain #sciatica #BackPain #exhausted #mentallyexhausted #feelingdefeated #chronicillnesswarrior #Advice