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    My experience with bullying and why I feel it hasn’t gotten better, but actually has gotten worse

    From as little as I can remember I was always the kid that would be singled out by the group and picked on, in responce and due to being a highly sensitive person I would react in extreme amounts of rage. That is until I got to high school where i realized that I was dealing with people in adult body’s with kid brains that could actually seriously hurt me, so I played along with the harassment or just did nothing. I’m sick of this notion that ignorant people and the media portrays that your weak if you get picked on and do nothing about it, that was me and I’m not weak, what’s weak is the person picking on someone for no reason (as if there would ever be a good reason, no). Well after graduation from high school I assumed I would be rid of the pain and mental anguish that I received at the hands and mouths of the bullies, nope, I found other apps where I was relentlessly trolled, thankfully not this one, but the trolling is almost more cowardly then in person. I’d like to rid the world of bullies and trolls they take up to much airspace. To this very minute I’m still suffering from the affects of trolls and bullies from my past.
    #Antibullying #MentalHealth #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #Anxiety #Agoraphobia #AnxietyAttacks #Depression #Pain #Sadness #sorrow #Sickness

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    Be kind

    <p>Be kind</p>
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    Workplace safety #CheckInWithMe

    I came to work triggered today, I don’t feel safe at work. Not only does my grad school bully works at the same company as me, but in the same building, the same department, and the same hallway, but we share a wall. This woman has gone out of her way to twist, manipulate, and lie since day one when the bullying started. Now she wants to threaten me and my livelihood because she needs to feed better about herself. I’ve chosen not to engage in the childish games she’s playing, I’m not a child and I’m not playing into the twisted games she wants. This is what bullies do, and I won’t take part. How dare this homophobic woman turn around and say “I can report you to management and you wouldn’t have a job.” How dare she justify what she’s doing and has done with “god loves and accepts all of us that are straight.” How dare you! You do not deserve to be in a profession that helps people when you have only hurt people. #Pledge2EndBullying #Antibullying #MentalHealth #CheckInWithMe #lgbtqbullying

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    That moment...

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    Due to COVID-19 kids bullied my ten year old sister.

    You wouldn't know from looking at my sister and I, but we are of Japanese and Korean decent. It's a part of our heritage we wear proudly, due to this many people in my sister's grade knows of our ancestry. However, we live in a small town with little diversity...

    Once COVID-19 started to be more wide spread and worked it's way into the United States, the bullying started for my sister. My brave little sister was hurt, and angry! She straight up told these kids the facts, but she knew something had to be done.

    After telling my parents and I what had happened at school, she notified her wonderful teacher. This led to all of the fifth grade teachers having a serious talk with their students. They said there was an individual that was of Japanese and Korean heritage that was being bullied. They strictly said if this was to go on, there would be serious consequences.

    I am amazed by my baby sister everyday. It makes my heart break that she went through bullying like I had as a child (also due to the fact of what my heritage was). This has to stop, bullying is never right. I'm sure she wasnt the only Asian American bullied during this stressful time.

    Also as moms/dads/sisters/brothers/etc. we need to make sure we're setting the right examples. ALWAYS. Bullying is NEVER right, no matter what. Teach your kids to be the good example, not the bully.

    #COVID19 #COVID -19 #Bullying #Antibullying #Brave #sisters #babysister #proud #proudsister

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    Avoid stress #Stress

    While feeling like I have been hit like a freight train, pain running rampid, and no for sure cause they say to avoid stress. Well, I work in a pharmacy (stress), single mom (stress to provide), and now my daughter's school principal thought it was ok for some kid to grab my daughter's chest and not call me (huge stress). I am furious! My daughter should feel safe and secure in school. The boy has gotten no punishment. No he is not the athlete. My daughter is. So after a week and a half I emailed the superintendent. He called me that night. He was not happy. He assured me that the principal will be calling me. Someone has to stand up for her daughters no matter how much it hurts. #Stress #Antibullying #donttouchmydaughter #Pain #NervePains #pharmacy

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    5 Eye-Opening Insights About Girls and Bullying on World Kindness Day

    When we founded Kind Campaign in 2009, no one was talking about bullying — at least not at the level we see today. About a year later, the media started covering a series of devastating teen suicides that were all a result of bullying taking place at school. Those traumatic events put this issue under a national spotlight. For the first time in history, bullying was being taken seriously, rather than being accepted as a rite of passage. With recent television shows that address bullying, like “13 Reasons Why,” or celebrities such as Lady Gaga sharing their personal journeys to overcome bullying, we’ve seen this topic take shape in new ways. As Founders of the internationally-recognized nonprofit Kind Campaign, our work aims to end the systemic issue of girl-against-girl bullying. After wrapping our 13th Founders Assembly Tour this fall, where we traveled to schools in Los Angeles and New York to deliver interactive and educational anti-bullying assemblies, we’ve discovered some encouraging developments surrounding this issue, and we’re feeling incredibly optimistic. In honor of this year’s World Kindness Day, here are five incredible transformations surrounding kindness that we’ve witnessed as we have traveled into school hallways for the last eight years. 1. Girls are taking a stronger stance and advocating to be kind. During all of our assemblies, the girls have an opportunity to write a “Kind Pledge” — an action step related to bullying, kindness or self-confidence that resonates with them and inspires positive change. We give the girls time to fill out and reflect on their Kind Pledges. We then welcome them to share their pledges in front of their peers. It was remarkable for us to see the complexity, depth and call-to-action conveyed in so many of the Kind Pledges from this last tour. This season, we heard girls share pledges touching on gender stereotypes, political division, LGBTQ issues, sexual assault, and how they can personally contribute to the conversation, support peers who are affected by these issues and used the opportunity to share some of their own personal story. The Kind Pledges shared were a real representation of the current social climate and showcased the issues these amazing young ladies have on their minds and hearts. It was encouraging to witness because it left us walking away from this specific tour feeling like the younger generation is more socially aware and conscious than ever before. 2. As the age groups of girls partaking in bullying practices get younger, the stakes to address bullying get higher. We’ve noticed a dramatic increase in demand for our assemblies at elementary schools. Once we arrive there, we hear young girls vulnerably share their experiences with bullying similar to what you would find in a middle school or high school. While it is an unfortunate reality girls are exposed to bullying so jarringly early on, the need to address this age group — and bullying as a whole — grows paramount. They’re some of the most impressionable females we work with, which makes the need for education about the detrimental effects of bullying — and the positive impact generated from practicing kindness — extremely dire. We’ve seen schools across the country responding, and ultimately, seeing the importance in starting this conversation as young as possible. It’s an essential step forward in the kindness movement. 3. There are more avenues to bully now — but they all lead to a dead end. It’s been fascinating to watch the evolution of social media over the last eight years, and its direct impact on students and their daily experiences at school. While cyberbullying was initially made possible decades ago, the avenues to engage in it have, unfortunately, expanded enormously. With the advancement of technology and the ever-growing popularity of social media channels, bullying can happen, literally, at one’s fingertips. These platforms are pervasive in youth’s everyday lives, especially girls. Unfortunately, there is now no escape from your social climate at school. Whereas previously, a student could go home from school and have at least the evening to exist without feeling connected, now with cell phones and social media, students are surrounded by their experience at school 24 hours a day. Fortunately, girls are realizing not only are these channels impermanent, but this phase of their lives is also only temporary. Having conversations with them about the short-lived nature of this period gives them a different perspective; they feel less overwhelmed by their experiences and more hopeful about kindness coming to light. 4. Girls are ready to take one step closer to kindness through accountability. During all of our assemblies, the girls are given the opportunity to write an apology to someone. We witness so much healing and reconciliation with this activity. It was particularly special to see how many girls came up and asked for extra Kind Apologies. Knowing so many girls not only wrote a single apology to someone, but thought of multiple people in their lives to address, demonstrates the growing accountability girls take for their actions. And that’s motivating them to be kinder, moving forward. 5. The walls of each school may be different, but the emotional experience of the girls are the same. Every school that we walk into is different — filled with unique people, living their lives, and dealing with their individual circumstances. But what has withstood the test of time is that this issue, girl-against-girl bullying, is universal. There has not been a single school we’ve come across that hasn’t dealt with this issue in some way or another. In fact, often times, we are greeted by the faculty sharing a story with us about an incident that happened in the hallways earlier in the week, if not on a daily basis. While each school dynamic and respective girl’s situation is unique to them, we see that the negative aftermath of bullying is identical from school to school, city to city, and state to state. The circumstances of girls’ bullying and being bullied may vary slightly, but the emotional turmoil that bullying generates bridges the gap of girls across our nation. One more silver lining though? These young girls truly do share the power and growing determination to promote kindness. Their will to get involved and create changes is a testament of that. Today, we see a new generation of activists rising up; young people who are not afraid to speak out against policies, action, inaction, anything and everything they don’t agree with, and demand to see change. The case is no different with bullying in schools. These young girls recognize their power to promote kindness, and after our Kind Campaign Assemblies, carry that resolve to get involved and help stop bullying in their everyday lives. If you are interested in becoming involved with the Kind Campaign movement, visit www.kindcampaign.com or follow us @kindcampaign. Another way to be a part of the conversation is by literally wearing it! In 2014, in alignment with the 10-year anniversary of the movie “Mean Girls,” we released the phrase “You Can Sit With Us” and witnessed another major turning point in the anti-bullying conversation. Check out our limited-release “You Can Sit With Us” tees, launching in honor of World Kindness Day on Omaze.com. We want to hear your story. Become a Mighty contributor here . Thinkstock photo by elfiny

    Ivy Souter

    A Letter to Boys Who Bullied Me in Middle School

    The reason it took me so long to write this is because it is very personal, and I was afraid of being judged, but it something I wish to share because I know I am not the only person who has been bullied. Many people are bullied in their lifetime, some more intensely than others. The way I was bullied wasn’t extremely blatant to me at the time. I didn’t label it as bullying. The things said to me were blunt and rude but always done in a joking way. It wasn’t until I sat through several therapy sessions that I realized I was bullied and it had had a significant impact on my body image and self-esteem. Writing has been a way for me to say things I could never say in person. It is time for me to let this go. I will never forget it, but I need to forgive them. So, these are the words I want to say. To the Boys Who Bullied Me in Middle School, Yes, I still think about the things you said, even though you probably didn’t give your words a second thought. They have haunted me for a long time. I would have never called you a bully at age 12 because you were boys. You were people I was taught to impress. You called me fat. You called me ugly. You made fun of how slow I ran. It wasn’t creative, but it didn’t have to be. I equated all of those words with worthlessness. Society taught me to try to be pretty and thin to attract the male gaze. Just becoming a teenager, I began to find boys attractive. At the time, I may have thought some of you were cute and wanted your approval. A smile. A compliment. You called me names. All I could think was, I want to pretty and thin like the other girls so boys would like me. I would finally feel worth something. It never ended. In high school, I received some taunts from you still when we crossed paths, but they slowly faded away as I faded too. I became nothing in hopes of impressing you and every other boy I knew. You probably matured and realized your stupidity, however, I thought your taunts stopped because I was now thin, and thin was beautiful. I went into treatment for my eating disorder and realized the only person I need approval from is myself. I have to love the person looking back at me in the mirror. The things you said to me didn’t mean anything. You probably weren’t even thinking when you said what you said. You were ignorant middle school boys. No one taught you to hold your tongue. I hope you realize now that what you did when you were young significantly affected me. Teach your children not to say mean things to others because words actually can hurt. Your words still affect me today. Now in college, I now stand next to boys preoccupied with the idea that they disapprove of the way I look. No, this isn’t the sole reason why my self-hatred developed along with my body dysmorphic disorder and eating disorder, but my middle school days definitely play a part. It will take me a long time to fully internalize that I have to love myself. I can’t wait for the day I feel comfortable in who I am and no longer seek validation from others, especially men. Thank you for making me stronger. I have come a long way since my self-loathing middle-school self, and one day I will be where I want to be. We want to hear your story. Become a Mighty contributor here . Image by Digital Vision