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Stories about rape, (WARNING THIS MAY BE TRIGGERING)..........

With all the anti abortion decisions SCOTUS has made lately I've been discussing these issues with my husband. I told him the story of the 10 year old girl that was raped and denied an abortion. He thought that if you haven't had your first period you can't get pregnant, so the thought was 'it's physically impossible.'..

We have an 11 year old daughter, I asked him what if she gets raped. His response made me angry, but I know he doesn't understand because he's never had to worry about it before and knows no one who's gone through that trauma.

He thinks to prevent rape to give her a knife, defensive classes, and I teach her confidence and self-esteem (my PTSD makes that seem impossible) to show her she doesn't need a man. Those are great ideas, yes, but I believe he assumes since it hasn't happened around here it won't and won't happen to her especially if she knows how to defend herself. I know that's the story many people tell themselves but the Freeze reaction is all too real and very misunderstood.

I'm worried for her future, not just because of SCOTUS' decision but also because of what he thinks will prevent it, will she blame herself as so many of us do because of his opinion? I bet she will.

He's never heard the stories of women who have defensive training, weapons, etc. unsuccessfully fight off her attackers, only those lucky ones who didn't freeze up.

Which brings me to my question, would any of you be able to share your story? I COMPLETELY understand if no one wants to, I just thought I would ask so I can help him see it's not just something to brush off, that he should be concerned about women's rights too. I need him to understand that this decision opens the door for more rape and assaults (am i being dramatic about this one?). He wants me to fact check the news stories I read online but I thought it would be better to show him the real stories, not the bs news reports.

Thank you for any help and reading my long post. I hope I didn't offend or trigger anyone, I really don't mean to, I'm so unbelievably sorry if I have. #Rape #Survivor

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Letter To Younger Self #Anxiety #CPTSD #PTSD #SexualTrauma #Survivor

Dear Younger Self,

Embrace where you are. Your home, the nature that surrounds you. Wake up every morning and let the mountain air carry you away, the thick scent of pine, the pinks and purples of the mountains beyond; know that you are a part of something so much larger than yourself. In whatever struggle you find yourself in through life just know that you are never alone. Even when you feel like there is no one around you, realize that you are there for yourself. I cannot shield you from the horrors that have yet to come your way, but please do not blame yourself for the actions of others. Do not make your life choices based off the actions of others. You are in control of yourself, of where you go, of what you do, and the experiences life is going to throw at you will only prove to you that you are strong. You are so resilient, passionate and strong. Never lose sight of who you are at your core. Don’t sacrifice yourself for anyone or anything, but remember that any energy you give to the world will later be returned to you. I don’t have to tell you to be patient, honest, or kind because these are things that are embodied in you. Above all else, you are loyal. The value you place on loyalty is what gives you your resilience. You are loyal to others, you are understanding of their emotional needs and the actions they take because of them. You’ve always been loyal to yourself though. You give to others without expecting anything in return, you value the smallest things in life and allow yourself to feel charged by the simplicity of nature. You have loyalty to yourself because you are self aware enough to understand that all the bad things that happen to you are not happening to break you down into nothing, but to teach you how to grow. Don’t be ashamed of your inability to feel certain emotions like others do because it is not a weakness. There is nothing wrong with you. You are self aware enough to analyze your emotions rather than feel them. You are rational, and everything you do is filled with purpose and good intent. It’s not a handicap to be unable to express emotions as others do, it is only proof of your resilience. Of your loyalty to self to keep moving forward no matter what happens. It allows you have the courage to make sacrifices that others wouldn’t dare to make. This part of you, this immense and unique energy of your soul, is what keeps you alive, it is what keeps you appreciative of everything you have in this world, good or bad. Let your own insight guide you, and stay true to the words you create. In writing you are a prophet. In soul you are so much more powerful than you could ever realize.
To be a hero you must be brave. To be brave you must be afraid. To be afraid you must have fears. To conquer them you must be patient yet fierce.
There is no light without darkness and there is no darkness without light.
Let your soul and your intuition be your guiding light through the darkness. Let your consciousness be your tool to process and collect the information the world teaches you in the dark.

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Questions Answered The Hard Way

Yesterday I left a message for my doctor to update her on my Covid symptoms, which are greatly improved, and to make her aware that I had growing suspicion my body pain is directly related to my childhood traumas. I’m the kind of person who likes to be accurate though, obsessively. So as a means of ruling out other potential causes, I asked if a Lyme test might be a good idea. I was told she’s out this week, but another professional ordered a Lyme test for me.

I no longer believe it’s necessary.

A few hours ago I woke up screaming, and cried myself back to sleep. I’m awake now feeling stable and remembering that it happened, but unaware of what it was specifically that made me scream and wake up. I don’t really need to know, and I’m not going to wreck myself digging for it. If I’m meant to know it and process it, then it will surface on its own.

My priority in this circumstance is realizing my body pain is in fact stemming from my traumas. I haven’t screamed in my sleep since I was a child, and this is happening now for a reason. I have my data, gathered firsthand. And it is accurate. #CPTSD #PTSD #SexualTrauma #HumanTrafficking #SexTrafficking #Survivor

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Figured some of y’all could identify with this like I do…

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