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You Dont Know Me

#traumasurvivor

In a land where all things look good and kept is a reality that something’s not quite right.

Enter the villain 🦹‍♀️ the Narcissist who married an Exho. Yet while the Echo was unaware the echo tried so many different things to make IT all work for the children and the spouse. Over the top adventures were agreed to reckless spending and debt was agreed to and in fact co signed the spouse’s University Student Debt.

All was good as long as the spouse was pleased and entertained. However the spouse would become board. Would even start to exhibit out of character behaviour and would go out with their so called friends staying out endlessly while the echo looked after the children.

Then the affairs and the echo would call out the Narcissist. The Narcissist would be confronted by family and would recline into a relationship with the echo again. The cycle continues yet the echo becomes more and more aware more and more watching absent and picks qualities from the narcissist to emulate.

Now there are two in the same house who’s placing their needs of self love over each other’s needs for one and other.

The bed grows cobwebs and there is no passionate connection only passive aggressive behaviour and malicious behaviour with manipulation. Everything is a game a dance of sorrows.

The children watch on as their parents transform from loving caring parents into separate souls who reject each other’s desires or needs.

This sounds horrible yet remember the echo has leaned. Agile and smart in order to survive. Abused neglected and abandoned by their spouse on a numerous occasions for affairs of fancy and inappropriate behaviour.

The echo unaware that the abuse was directed at them and the children becomes even more self aware. Therapy and counselling bring into the light the true situation. The echo sets limit’s expectations the narcissist plows over them the echo sets standards the narcissist prefers to do what they what when they want with who they want.

The echo mimics this behaviour the narcissist becomes unstable and physically aggressive with covert manipulation.

Long story short the echo becomes the villain based on the narcissist’s manipulation.

Now the victim becomes the villain and the divorce starts.

The victim and villain is treated well like the villain reinforcing the trauma and relationships traumas events CPTSD and other mental health related issues like suicidal ideation and dissociation.

The victim or villain becomes incarcerated only to find their true selves in the institution while recovering ❤️‍🩹 from the narcissist being separated from the narcissist and developing a sense of self reliance with spiritual growth.

The victim and villain returns to become the hero 🦸‍♀️

Not the hero to themselves no the echo is still growing underneath and realizing what has truly happened and why IT happened yet this person is not the same person that entry the institution. No this person is completely different. The hero is hero to observers and othe survivors. Becoming an inspiration and testimony to the people who come in contact with the survivor.

The survivor begins helping random strangers empowering their beliefs and self narratives to be self loving with compassion while healing ❤️‍🩹 in peer social and yes groups with others dealing with loved experiences.

The hero is no long an echo no the echo is now an emotionally awakened spiritual healer. Yet growing learning supporting and yes very much still recovering ❤️‍🩹.

This healer this shaman this foraged soul built in the depths of the despair is beyond comprehension to most and yet this story has a happy ending.

The hero continues their journey and helps others along the way while also developing healthy boundaries and relationships because they are now healthy and they now have self compassion for their own needs and the needs of thier children.

The book comes out and there are so many people that are touched by the story and illuminates other’s suffering that they begin to believe and become stronger than ever able to brake their own chains and set themselves free.

The story of one can effect others and empower others.

This is a true story name’s removed for protection.

If this story is happening or has happened to you or someone you are not alone.

You matter

You are important

You belong

You are valued

You are worthy

Please remember to be safe be well be loved 🥰 your worthy.

Don’t forget IT.

We hope this helps someone out there even just one. Don’t give up don’t give in don’t stop fighting. There are so many people depending on you.

You just haven’t met them yet or they haven’t read your store.

#LivedExperiance #Support #MentalHealth #Grief #PTSD #Depression #Anxiety #SuicidalIdeation #Survivor #DissociationDisorders #Healing #Recovery #restoration #Newlife #Empowerment #Hope #Joy #Love #peace #patience lots of patience.

Be well we hope this finds you well if you know someone struggling or suffering and situation, please help them. They don’t even know they need help.

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New Me?? *trigger warning*

I'm feeling a little down today. Nothing like usual, just a little off. Sometimes this happens before the shit hits the fan, so I'm anxiously anticipating that. I feel like I live in a pinball machine, bouncing off the walls and bumpers and glass, however, today I'm just slipping along the sides and avoiding all of the obstacles. It's not a very good analogy, but it makes the most sense to me. I am asking myself if this is 'regular' or 'level' ... I can't remember the last time I felt this way.

I started a new medication (both new to me, my p-doc, and to the market) about six weeks ago.The new med belongs to a group of drugs called an atypical antipsychotic that also has an antidepressant effect. For the first time in over 40 years, I haven't had suicidal ideation every single day! It took me a couple days to realize I hadn't thought about it and it really threw me off. You have to realize that that line of thinking has been my life. Every. Single. Day. It has always been my go-to; the only thing that I felt I had control over. My p-doc is astounded at how I've turned around. He decided to wean me off of the antidepressant I was currently on. I've noticed that I'm a little more snappy; my patience level has changed, though, for the better. I think I'm being shown that I can deal with my illness, and that it's time for me to put in a little mindfulness and being more conscious of my mood, and the ways I choose to deal with those feelings.

To put it in nutshell, I'm terrified that this is only going to be a quick fix, that it won't work, or that it will work but there's a HUGE crash coming. I'm just really afraid. I'm trying hard to stick to today and not give thought to tomorrow, but I can't just flip the switch that's been on for so long.

I really hope we're onto something here. It has been nice not to spend so much time thinking about and planning my demise.

Thank you for always listening. It's nice to have this community's support, understanding and sometimes a well-placed foot to the butt.

#Abuse #Addiction #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar2Disorder #ChildhoodAbuse #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #CPTSD #Depression #EmotionalAbuse #Hypomania #MentalHealth #MightyPets #neglect #OurSideOfSuicide #PTSD #Relationships #SubstanceUseDisorders #Suicide #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideIdeation #SuicideSurvivors #SuicidalThoughts #Suicidethoughts #Survivor #Trauma @dannygautamawellness

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Our stories maybe uniquely different. #MightyTogether

It is the collection of these stories that make our anthology #Survivor

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I was a victim, I was a survivor, but now I am me!!! #victim #Survivor #Iamme

#PTSD it doesn’t define who I am!

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Invisible scars…

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but broken bones heal. And doctors take them more seriously because they are obvious. Name calling and verbal lashings release a storm of words that cut like knives and leave lasting wounds on your mind and soul. Trauma of any degree literally changes your brain, and the body keeps score because the connections get broken or rewired. Some Invisible wounds emerge in the form of invisible illness, that are genetic because unhealed brain chemistries breed already traumatized babies. That’s why it’s called generational trauma.

I see traits in my daughter that I developed as protective measures as a child that felt unloved and unimportant, and I’m working with her everyday to build up her self confidence so she’s not stuck with a miserable future full of illness like me. Heal yourselves and your children so the future starts looking a little brighter…

#MentalHealth #Trauma #Survivor #NarcissisticAbuse

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Sweet Sinead

So sad that Sinead O'Connor died due to mental health issues. Some will call it 'committing' suicide, that she completed a selfish act, and who knows what else. Sinead died by suicide, her last moment in a tragic life filled with trauma, pain, devastation, grief, and instability. Let us not focus on her means of death, rather the mental health demons that ate away at her and caused her demise. Many of us deal with the same issues she did, and many are a tiny step away from her death. Listen when someone says they're not feeling right, give a call or text when a friend has been off the radar for a while. We can all help people who are suffering. Any words or actions you choose can help someone get past that moment of just not wanting to be here. Be patient, compassionate and caring. Be kind. ❤

#Abuse #Addiction #Anxiety #Bipolar2 #BipolarDisorder #Bipolar2Disorder #ChildhoodAbuse #CPTSD #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Depression #EmotionalAbuse #Hypomania #MentalHealth #MightyPets #neglect #OurSideOfSuicide #PTSD #Relationships #SubstanceRelatedDisorders #SubstanceUseDisorders #Suicide #SuicidalIdeation #SuicideSurvivors #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #SuicideSurvivors #Suicidethoughts #Survivor #Trauma

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Music is comforting, inspiring, moving and often songs give me hope & encouragement to push through tough times! What songs have been there for you?

This is a playlist of my life…here’s some of my favorite songs (it’s extensive!) What songs are your go-to when you are depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, scared, in pain … or feeling great? What would be on the playlist of your life growing up? What are your all time favorite songs? Can you tell what generation I grew up in😉?!? I’ll give you a hint…classic rock & Alt Dance music literally shaped my life (especially when I deejayed in my late teens/20’s)

CARRY ON WAYWARD SON – Kansas
BOHEMIAN RHAPSODY – Queen
THE SPIRIT OF RADIO – Rush
FOOL IN THE RAIN – Led Zeppelin
ROXANNE – The Police
DREAM ON – Aerosmith
PIANO MAN – Billy Joel
MOONDANCE – Van Morrison
PEACE TRAIN - Cat Stevens
IMAGINE- John Lennon
LONG AND WINDING ROAD - The Beatles
LANDSLIDE - Fleetwood Mac
SOLSBURY HILL – Peter Gabriel
ME AND JULIO DOWN BY THE SCHOOLYARD – Paul Simon
DON’T STOP BELIEVIN’ – Journey
PARADISE BY THE DASHBOARD LIGHT - Meat Loaf
TIME WARP - Rocky Horror Picture Show
WALK ON THE WILD SIDE - Lou Reed
HOTEL CALIFORNIA- The Eagles
SULTANS OF SWING- Dire Straits
MAYBE I’M AMAZED – Paul McCartney
SOUL MAN– Blues Brothers
BORN TO RUN – Bruce Springsteen
THE BOYS OF SUMMER – Don Henley
FOREPLAY/ LONG TIME - Boston
BABA O’RILEY - The WhO
FREE BIRD - Lynyrd Skynyrd
FLY LIKE AN EAGLE - Steve Miller
CHINA GROVE – The Doobie Brothers
JOSIE - Steely Dan
TINY DANCER - Elton John
ANOTHER BRICK IN THE WALL, Pt. 2- Pink Floyd
JUMP - Van Halen
THE LOGICAL SONG – Supertramp
COME SAIL AWAY - Styx
COLD AS ICE – Foreigner
SHAKE IT UP – The Cars
I WANNA BE SEDATED - Ramones
IS SHE REALLY GOING OUT WITH HIM - Joe Jackson
WITH OR WITHOUT YOU – U2
JACK AND DIANE – John Mellencamp
WALK THIS WAY - RUN DMC w/ Aerosmith
LIKE A PRAYER – Madonna
EVERYBODY NEEDS SOMEBODY TO LOVE - Blues Brothers - soundtrack
(I’ve had) THE TIME OF MY LIFE - Dirty Dancing soundtrack
MANIAC - Flashdance soundtrack
FOOTLOOSE - Kenny Loggins - soundtrack
ALIVE AND KICKING – Simple Minds
EYE OF THE TIGER - Survivor
BILLIE JEAN (or BEAT IT) – Michael Jackson
WALKING ON SUNSHINE - Katrina and the Waves
COME ON EILEEN - Dexy’s Midnight Runners
RIO - Duran Duran
TAINTED LOVE - Soft Cell
DON’T YOU WANT ME -Human League
WAKE ME UP BEFORE YOU GO-GO – Wham!
IT’S STILL ROCK AND ROLL TO ME - Billy Joel
EVERY BREATH YOU TAKE - Police
FAITH– George Michael (R.I.P)
DANCING WITH MYSELF -Billy Idol
MODERN LOVE – David Bowie (R.I.P.)
WHEN DOVES CRY – Prince (R.I.P)
SHE BLINDED ME WITH SCIENCE – Thomas Dolby
RED RED WINE- UB40
ONCE IN A LIFETIME - Talking Heads
MONEY FOR NOTHING -Dire Straits
ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST -Queen
I’M STILL STANDING -Elton John
HIGHER LOVE - Steve Winwood
SWEET CHILD O’MINE -Guns and Roses
LIVIN’ ON A PRAYER - Bon Jovi
SWEET DREAMS (Are Made of This) – Eurythmics
OWNER OF A LONELY HEART - Yes
WHIP IT - Devo
BLISTER IN THE SUN – Violent Femmes
TEMPTED – Squeeze
MIRROR IN THE BATHROOM – The English Beat
DOWN UNDER - Men at Work
IN A BIG COUNTRY – Big Country
YOU SPIN ME ROUND (Like a record) - Dead or Alive
ENJOY THE SILENCE - Depeche Mode
EVERYBODY WANTS TO RULE THE WORLD - Tears For Fears
SLEDGEHAMMER - Peter Gabriel
OUR HOUSE – Madness
CRAZY - Seal
LOVE IS A BATTLEFIELD- Pat Benatar
RUNNING UP THAT HILL (A Deal with God) – Kate Bush
HOLD ME NOW – Thompson Twins
(closing time):
FRAGILE – Sting
TAKE ME HOME – Phil Collins

#MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Selfcare #Selflove #Disability #PTSD #Grief #IfYouFeelHopeless #Hope #Belief #innerstrength #fortitude #Connection #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #TheMighty #TheMightyTakeaway #MightyTogether #MightyMusic #Music #Meditation #DistractMe #mentalhealthwarrior #fighter #warrior #Survivor

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the price of pretty

If I stopped to think about all the men that have taken advantage and abused me sexually, physically, mentally, and emotionally…I would cry forever. #Abuse #SexualAssault #Incest #RapeSurvivors #Survivor of rape and or molestation #DomesticViolence #PTSD #SexualViolence #Shame

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is Michelle. I'm here because I am a burn survivor and would like to share my story and lessons learned on my survivor journey. I am an Equine Assisted Services Professional and Business Professional (MA, MBA). My passions include writing, agility with my dog Eli (service dog) and showing my horses.

#PTSD #Fibromyalgia #Survivor #BurnInjury

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