Defeated

So, I was released to go back to work on light duty since the ligaments in my knee are not 100% holding it in place. My employer says no, that I can’t come back to work with restrictions since it was not a result of a work place accident. I called in and put in a request for my FMLA to be extended for the last two weeks that I have, but I don’t know what I’m going to do. I feel so lost. I’ve applied to ten jobs this past month. I haven’t gotten a single one. I feel like a failure. #Defeated #depressed #Panicking #failure

Long story short, my employer got rid of my shift and moved me into a different position. This position requires me to be more physically active. The bad news is that I just had knee surgery. I’ve been off for two months while it heals. I’ve applied to six jobs. I didn’t get any of them. I feel so defeated. I’m desperately trying to get out of working at a warehouse, but there’s nothing in this area. I have a B.A. in History, but there’s nothing around here for that. I desperately do not want to teach. I also do not have my license so that complicated things a lot. I feel so defeated. #Defeated #Upset #Anxiety #Depression

Hi everyone! I hope you all are hanging in there. Recently I have been having an issue with my parents. They were supportive and understanding of me for fibromyalgia but lately they have been using it against me. I am not able to do a lot of the things I used to, and I tell them that I don’t use having fibromyalgia as an excuse. I would LOVE and WISH I could do some of the things I used to. They have started to make it about them, and my feelings are flat out hurt.
#FibromyalgiaDiagnosis #Fibromyalgia #frusturated #ididntaskforthis #Defeated #sad

Recently I share about a math course I am taking. Unexpectedly my funds for the tuition were cut. I dropped the course. Sadly, I found out I owe a balance for the tuition a few hours before my second class meet time. And because I am out of work due to a medical leave, I simply cannot pay or create more debt, especially when I am paying to increase additional stress in my life because I am learning complicated math skills, during this season of recovery.

Am I bummed? Yes, a little bit. I was geared-up, emotionally, to take the course. But this “geared-up” energy is an aspect of my nature that my cognitive therapist challenged me to rid myself of: I am a “go getter!” But that characteristic is fueled by pain and anxiety driven strength.

So, not taking the course is probably better for my recovery despite my desire to keep forging ahead with earning my degree. And one thing I am learning during this medical leave is taking the stress out of unexpected circumstances. I can admit I am bothered. Cry if necessary. And then continue living life.

My traumatized habitual thinking tried to shift my thoughts to a degrading place with these thoughts: what will others think; am I quitting; my life is a mess; I should have put the balance on credit. But my—in the process of—rewiring my neural plasticity’s way of thinking, reminded me how this dropped course is beneficial: no new debt to stress about; realizing my upcoming six-month neural assessment will be conducted the day before our first mid-term “quiz.” So, WOW! When I realized the latter, I see this financial issue as a blessing in disguise. Those two events occurring at the same time would have created a serious amount of stress on my brain. Phew!

Thanks for providing us the platform to share and work through our life events! Indeed, this is a place connecting #TheMighty !

#Anxiety #Sadness
#Selfcare #Selfcompassion

Its been awhile since I posted on here. I moved away from an abusive ex to a new start in Pennsylvania. Rocky start but life is way better now. I have a wonderful dr but as of today, they have really pissed me off. I have been having a fibromyalgia flare up for about 4 weeks now. I've never had one last this long and so I called them. They prescribed me prednisone for infammtion. Great cause that typically helps. Well this time it hasn't. I've already missed some work hours. I'm behind on bills because eof other things that had come up so im stressing out over that as well. This just through me over the top. I asked the receptionist if the nurse could order me something else for pain as I'm having to take one of my nightly muscle relaxers during the day to cope through work. They said they can't do anything until they see me and the earliest I can see someone would be Friday. She then had the nerve to tell me I can take over the counter pain medication. I'm sorry are you fucking kidding me?! If fibromyalgia could be helped eith ibuprofen my life wouldn't be so hard. But it doesn't do shit and the fact that they told me this made me so angry. I feel alone. I feel like no one cares. I'd like them to step in my shoes and have someone tell them you can take some ibuprofen for the severe pain you are in. I havent felt this way in a while and I feel completely defeated. I called a pain specialist in the area and they are able to squeeze me in tomorrow so at least there is some light at the end of the tunnel. However, I'm still worried they aren't going to do anything for me. I've seen pain specialists before and nothing has worked so far and i dont know what else i can do. Ive been using over the counter meds, my medical marijuana, hot showers, heating pads, pain cream. You name it ive done it and my pain still at a 7. #Fibromyalgia #ChronicPain #Defeated #stressed #Anxiety #keepgoing

I worked for this company for 8 years and was somewhat expected to be promoted, but I felt there was bias during the interview as not all of the panels were in during this other person's interview. I had tougher questions coz all of the panel were there and they were expecting I would be promoted. Some questions to this other person was about this meeting he attended, which I do not know of. This other person got promoted. I felt demoted.

Also, we've been trying to conceive for a year now and still I'm not pregnant.

My husband does not have a stable job. I mostly see him playing games when I go home from work. I do the house chores while he just relaxes.

I just want something happy in my life for a change.

#Anxiety #Depression #Defeated

I seek help for my chronic mental health only to be stigmatized by my own psychiatrist... Makes me not want the help and feeds into my negative thought process... and society wonders why the suicide rate is so high smh #Anxiety #Depression #PTSD #Defeated

My relationship with the father of my three daughters ended in February after 16 years. During those 16 years, there was a lot of toxicity. He is an alcoholic and was/is physically, emotionally & verbally abusive. Primarily towards me but the girls have witnessed it. We are over for good now & because of his substance abuse issues, I have restricted his contact with our children. Here recently, he (& his girlfriend) have threatened to take ‘drastic measures’ if I don’t give him full access to our children at his discretion. Monday, I filed a domestic violence civil protection order for my children and I. Today, I was granted the ex parte order & will have to go back to court in two weeks in which he will be present to fight against me. When I signed those papers today, I sobbed. I couldn’t stop crying. This is not how my life was supposed to turn out. Never in a million years did I think I would have to take these drastic steps. I have failed to make my family work despite my trying tirelessly for over a decade to keep things together.

I feel so defeated and I don’t have any fight left in me.
#SuicidalThoughts #DomesticViolence #Depression