This is a message I received from my roommates, I feel rather hurt by it but I'm unsure how to respond. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I've replaced my roommates names and left mine and my friend who was involved.
"I’m saying this here because we don’t want any kind of adverse reaction, and because we’re hoping that being with Pierce will help keep you calm if any of this upsets you.
Look, we aren’t trying to constantly rag on you for stuff. But when you say you’re going to do stuff, we just ask that you try a little harder. Today, for example- you said you’d do a little cleaning and then hang out with Pierce. He came over around 3pm; you could have asked him to help for 20 minutes so confrontations don’t occur.
The simplest way to put (roomate 1) and I’s recent feelings toward you is this: we miss the old Chelsey. The Chelsey I asked to be my bridesmaid. The fun and goofy Chelsey that would randomly start cleaning something while singing and dancing. We get that you have mental health issues; but, and I’m going to be honest, I have never met anyone who relies on their issues as much as you do as (what really feels like) an excuse to not do stuff.
(Roomate1) and I have mental health issues too. He has anger control problems, PTSD, emotional dissociation, social claustrophobia/anxiety, in addition to all his physical problems like Crohn’s, high blood pressure, etc
I have generalized anxiety and major depressive disorder, PTSD, major trust issues and abandonment issues, as well as suicidal ideations. But do you see us ever really say that we can’t do something that NEEDS to be done because of any of that stuff? No. We do what we have to do. We don’t rely on any of our mental health issues to put us down or make us incapable of doing something because that’s a surefire way to fail.
Life is a bitch, Chelsey. You can’t always expect stuff to be handed to you on a silver platter, because (again, honesty) that’s exactly how you act most days.
We still like you, we still want you to live with us, and we still want you in the wedding. But we want the old Chelsey back, because we feel like we can’t help you grow or improve yourself with the way things have been recently. We want you to succeed in life."
This was sent after I had spent most of the day on the couch and then playing scrabble with pierce. I have had multiple panic attacks in the last week and between my #ChronicFatigue and #Anxiety once I sat down and rested I came to the conclusion that that is what my body and mind needed. I had mentioned to roomate 2 when she asked that my plan for the day was maybe a little cleaning, cleaning the litter boxes, and then playing scrabble. I did not get any cleaning done, nor clean the litter boxes.