Hi, I was given up by my mother at 3yrs old. A lot of horrible things happened before I found her again at 16. She would tell me how bad she felt and how now that I’m back I have a family. After, some ups and downs in discovering her definition of family, I decided to do an experiment. I was feeling as though my “family” only called when they wanted something from me. Especially, my mother.
Help her pay bills, move or clean something. But seldom to just say hi, how are https://you.I was the one who would do the calling to see if everyone was ok and to let them know I was thinking of them. My mom would come to town and stop 2 blocks away from my house to see my cousin, but didn’t have the time to stop and see me as well. If I was not doing what my mother or my “family” thought I should, be doing, then I was shunned, by everyone. About 5 yrs ago I decided that I wasn’t going to call, I was going to see who would call me. 2 1/2 years later, my mom sends me a happy birthday text. Not even a phone call. I was devestated. We are now going on 5 yrs and I’ve broken down and tried to give it another shot. My Effort was met with contempt and destain from my “family” was told I “couldn’t just hit them up, and act like nothing happened, especially after I walked away from them””
Does this make any kind of sense to anyone?