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    Trolled by your best friend? You just might be dealing with a #narcissist

    A best friend does NOT kick you when you're down...not even subtley.

    Original post: Dual Diagnosis -- Autism & CPTSD

    #narcissism #MajorDepression #Autism #CPTSD #unsolicitedcriticsm


    Dealing with my father who is lying to and about me

    My father and I shared a close relationship for 48 years until my mother died. I'm an only child. I had a difficult relationship with my mother due to her aggressive personality and insistence that she was always right. She died years ago and while she was dying and immediately afterwards - unbeknownst to me he established a relationship with a woman who became my mother's best friend while she was dying from pancreatic cancer. He didn't tell me about this new relationship until they had already become committed to each other. My father always had narcissistic tendencies, and his new woman (whom he married a year to the day after my mother's funeral) indulges him in these tendencies to the point where he became insufferable. I haven't seen him in seven years or spoken to him in six. It is on my heart to do something about this, but because I intrinsically knew he was lying in the beginning I couldn't accept this new relationship. Since then I have found out that he has repeatedly lied and defamed my and my wife's character to many people, while trying to contact me maintaining that he doesn't know what he's done wrong.

    Is there any point to trying to re-establish contact with my father at this point?

    #narcissism #manipulation #Lying

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    I hate everyone trying to describe what I’ve been through as MDSA

    It’s too much but they won’t stop. I can’t handle it. I can’t take it. What if they’re right to say that’s my experience. What if they’re wrong? What if it’s true to the narc mom I had. Was she really that bad? Of course she is, but I don’t want her to be

    Someone help me with this I can’t take it it’s too much. Why do I have to live my life this way with her. WHY?!



    Shame game

    As someone with anxiety I’m always in my head. It’s a battle to make sure that I don’t let myself explore the outer fringe too much. But when you’re the victim of emotional abuse…it’s hard! Because the abuse is compounded by the same you feel. I try and try and get torn apart…the shame of having to beg, to be telling someone you’re trying and you are a good person. It’s a disgust in myself like I have never felt!! Anyone else experienced shame during abuse? #Shame #Abuse #narcissism


    One of the saddest things about being a victim of abuse, is when the abuser is loved by everyone on the outside

    No one would have suspected my mom was a horrifying abuser. She was so good at keeping up appearances and putting on a fake front that no one suspected her as an abuser. When she died, they all cried and lamented on her being a "good mother". Actively choosing to look the other way when abuse presented itself

    This is why victims don't come forward, Abusers are very smart and crafty. They isolate their victims and unleash their fury behind closed doors. But in the public eye they make sure they look great. So when you come forward, they will dismiss you. Especially in cases of child abuse

    If a child or teenager or anyone comes to you about abuse, don't think "no way that person is an abuser, they are so nice!". Narcissists live on this treatment. Choose the victims side and listen. Many evil people live in a facade and fool you. Even if they don't act abusive in front of you or towards you, if you look close enough, you can see through their BS.

    #Abuse #narcissism #Trauma


    From the Inside...

    For the first time in a while, I feel a calm from the inside. I got some new books on self help, one of which is an art therapy workbook. I also made a plan of action pertaining to my mom's husband. I'm holding him to come through with his promises and I'll do my part, but I refuse to shoulder all of the effort. And what I didn't know was that narcissistic fathers tend to discard daughters at a certain age. I'm still learning to navigate through this, but I truly am ok right now. #MentalHealth #Depression #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #narcissism

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    I have, after almost 15 years of marriage and an escalation of issues, realized that my husbands bad attitude, mean words, and refusal to communicate or be concerned about feelings (mine and our 4 kids), is due to him being narcissistic. I have come to the determination that I would be better off not being in this marriage any longer. However, I am currently trapped. I have been a stay-at-home parent throughout the entirety of the marriage, therefore I have no income of my own that I could rely on to support myself and my kids if I left. I am looking into getting a job (even though he doesn’t know that yet), but I am really worried because I have Fibromyalgia and CFS, along with a laundry list of other health difficulties, so I am very worried that even if I can get hired somewhere that won’t be too strenuous on me, my bad symptom days could cause serious problems for me to wake up and get to my job everyday. I am working on obtaining my Bachelors in Community Health through an online program, but I am still a few years away from completing it due to me taking only one class at a time. I also have to worry about my two daughters. One is 19 the other will be 18 in a couple months and both still live at home and have a long list of chronic health problems themselves that I have to help them manage. The 19 year old even has Aspergers and was recently diagnosed with BPD to go along with the EoE, Ehlers Danlos, and AMPS that she has. The soon to be 18 year old has CFS, depression, EoE, and Dysautonomia. My oldest son is 16 and is actually my stepson, but to me he is just my child since I have been his mom since he was 8 months old. However, I know if I leave my husband, I won’t be able to take him with me since my husband is his legal guardian. My youngest son is 13, has ADHD and still has several years of school left. So, even though I feel it would be better for me to leave, I have to consider my kids and their needs. I don’t have family to turn to for help, nor friends either. The couple of friends I have are actually joint friends to both me and my husband, not just mine, and are struggling financially themselves so are not in a position of helping me even if I asked. I simply don’t know what to do. I am horribly unhappy and tired of being emotionally neglected and abused. I need a game plan, but am not sure what steps to take to create one. Any words of advice or simply understanding would be very appreciated right now. Thanks for reading! Sorry for the lengthy post! #narcissism #Fibromyalgia #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #EmotionalAbuse #amps #EosinophilicEsophagitis #ADHD #Support #Dysautonomia #Aspergers #Feelingtrapped


    LIFTMEUP Obsessing I will never be accomplished #Anxiety #Depression #chronic Depression #SuicideIdeation #codependent #narcissism

    My ex husband of 28 years is a narcissist and just got engaged. I’m terrified I’m nothing without his abusive motivation pushing me to achieve. Please help I’ve tried with some support to do more than go to work and come home daily and I can’t break this ruminating obsession. I feel like I’m nothing without being impressive and I just can’t see the point of continuing living.


    I made the mistake of googling my narcissist...

    I've been no contact with my narcissist ex-"friend" for nearly a year, and he lives on the other side of the country. Yet, my morbid curiosity got the best of me, and I googled him this evening.

    Of course, all my feelings are back. The anger at his exploitative treatment of me, all the lies he told and feeling ashamed because my #Autism #Autism meant that I didn't pick up on his machinations earlier.

    #MentalHealth #Trauma #PersonalityDisorders #narcissism


    Recovery from Narcisstic Abuse. #narcissism #Abuse #Depression #PTSD

    So it’s been 4 1/2 months since I walked out on the narcissist. It has been the hardest time in my life. To worship someone for 7 years only to find out the man I fell in love with doesn’t exist. That is hard to accept as reality. I am still trying to wrap my head around the concept of how he could be so good at times yet be such a douche bag to cheat over and over , to finally admit to some of his infidelity, to admit to the addiction of needing women to pursue him, to lie so much about little things, why does a part of me still want to believe he really loves me????? He has spit in my face so many times, called me the nastiest of names, caused permanent physical damage to my body, run me down to all my acquaintances, now destroying me financially. So can anyone explain why I still want to believe he loves me??? After an episode with a woman at his clinic, more allegations are being made on social media, unwelcomed flirtations with patients. How do I keep the facts at the forefront of my mind and heart and let him go?