NarcissisticAbuse

I have grown up in a family that believes in forgiving, seeing the good in people, and putting others before ourselves. We try to see every situation from a place of understanding and empathy. The values I've grown up with are in stark contrast to my husband's upbringing. His family is vengeful, egoistic and the most unforgiving people I've come across.

So whenever we get into an argument, my husband gives me ultimatums like "unless you agree to what I say, things will never get better." He likes to think that everything is my fault and that he or his parents can never be wrong.

The last fight we had was a month ago. We reached a settlement after which he had to travel abroad for work. After that incident I have been nothing but kind and loving towards him. Despite being in a long distance relationship now, I've tried to express my love for him in whatever way I could. I keep reminding him of our good times and giving him hope for the future. But he is so full of resent even now that he continues being emotionally abusive by ignoring me and dismissing my efforts.

The problem is his toxic family. They keep feeding him lies about me. He was a divorcee before he married me. His family was responsible for breaking his first marriage. I accepted him without judgment and loved him too much that he couldn't believe his luck. He told me this himself. But after his family got involved things have only gotten worse between us.

How can I make him see that the real problem is his toxic family? 😞 Am I to be blamed for spoiling him with my love? What is the correct approach in this situation?

#NarcissisticAbuse #toxicrelationship #Anxiety #Depression

So evidently the definitions of sex crimes are a lot broader than originally thought. I have had three sexual partners in my life. According to the technical definitions, all three of them victimized me with #SexualAssault two of them perpetrated #SexualViolence against me and, because of the updated definition, one #Rape d me. This on top of #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse and #emotionalrape by two of them. That on top of my official diagnoses no doubt stemming from the trauma above. Further explanation for why I struggle so much.

Hi! I am looking for those who would like to connect further to be added support for each other. If you're interested, please message me. Below is my history and experience. Thank you!#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MajorDepressiveDisorder #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #Trauma #Insomnia #Arthritis #ChronicMigraines #cervicogenic Headache #OccipitalNeuralgia #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse #SexualAssault

I had this dream last night where I'm supposed to be getting married, but in the days leading up to the day, I noticed something was off. On the day, I found out that the guy had bad habits similar to my step-father's and I called off everything on the spot. After making the announcement of the break in the plans, my mom applauds me for my strength to not subject myself to a troubled marriage, but my step-father says nothing. It's strange to me that I was strong enough in a dream to stand up against a narcissist with secrets. #MentalHealth #Depression #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Blacksheep #NarcissisticAbuse

Where do you go once you're there?

Once you've made it to the top of the mountain and what you expected to be elation is replaced with confusion?

The top of the mountain is foreign.

We all hope, climb, fall- over and over just praying we can hold stamina for the next
round.

But what about when you make it?

What is really there, at the top of that mountain in your mind?

I'm nearly there and the mountain is desolate. Nothing I'm familiar with remains.

Is this where we fall or is this where we muster up all of the absolute fight we have to live a life surrounded by those who cannot make the climb?

And what about the doubt, fear, pain? Does it disappear, dissipate, or remain for eternity?

I guess there's only one way to find out?

#Healing
#ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder
#Trauma
#NarcissisticAbuse

Being the 'bigger person' just makes you a bigger target. I'd rather be a moving target...running away in a zigzag pattern (just like when someone is shooting at you). It's harder to hit an unpredictable moving target.

Break your predictable patterns of behavior they have come to depend on and run far, far away. Getting repeatedly and unrelentingly 'stabbed' and 'shot' at will eventually lead to 'death' of one form or another. Toxic families are masters at 'Death by One Thousand Cuts'.

#toxicfamilies #NarcissisticAbuse #FamilyScapegoat