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Why is it ok for people to devalue your mental health struggles

Why do so many people choose to devalue those suffering from a mental illness. Whether it be telling them they don’t have a mental illness or to just get over it. Why do people unable to hear your inner thoughts or feel your inner struggles feel so inclined to develop opinion about your mental health. This behavior contributes so much to the stigmatization of mental illness in today’s society. People are unwilling to talk about their struggles because so many people feel they are privileged to make assumptions about actual sufferers. Mental health is something that relies on subjective data and because of this people suffering are labeled as phonies, liars, drug seekers, and attention seeking.

For me this has been coming in the form of my therapist. A therapist I used to think actually cared about me and my mental health. A therapist that used to listen like she understood what I was going through, not in the form of empathy but more in terms with sympathy. Feeling what I was feeling but not necessarily being about to put herself in my shoes. She was the one that pushed for me to get an actual diagnosis and to get off the medications that were making my symptoms worse. Gone are those days. Days are now filled with her saying, “I am going to make a bold statement.” These bold statements are always directed toward devaluing my mental illness and often end with telling me that I am having a normal reaction to a stressful event. Well, it must have been a very long normal reaction to a long stressful event. My therapist even went as far as to tell me that I don’t have bipolar disorder, despite a family history and periods are requiring little sleep. How can someone supposed to be helping me be someone that tears me down. I have gotten to the point because I valued her so much that I no longer know how to feel because she has told me there is nothing wrong just me being unable to handle life. IF I am so normal, why do I not feel normal and why do I have suicidal thoughts and periods of requiring no sleep and feelings of overwhelming anxiety and depression. If that is the definition of being normal, I don’t want to be normal.

#MentalHealth #BipolarDepression #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety #devalue #devaluing #Depression #Suicide


Well, This Happened

Everyday this week, I had consciously decided not to talk to this guy at work whom I’ve always liked, but because of past events along with me forever feeling that I’m either too much or not enough (among other feelings). For the last few months, we weren’t really speaking to each other because he started hanging out with the other guys at work and for that, I felt like he had abandoned me and I went from admiring him to hating him very fast. Overall, I can’t deny the fact that even though things have happened, he is a good guy. So this week, I’ve literally been praying that I could avoid him for the rest of the time that I was at work. On Monday when I did this, he ended up showing up at my work area and started talking to me. I brushed it off because I thought it was a one time thing and that he’ll go back to not talking to me again. The next day, the same thing pretty much happened. But what happened last night really scared me. I was working and he came in to help me. After a while of not saying much, he asked me about my family and also my mental health. I didn’t go into great detail because I didn’t know how he would take the heaviness of everything I’ve been feeling. So, I told him that it could be better than what it is now. And he literally said this:”You can tell me what’s wrong, let me make you feel better.” THAT was the moment that really scared me. I really didn’t know what to think let alone know how to handle it. It is hard to me to accept help and even harder for me to accept anything from a man. I know that he cares, but it’s hard for me to fully accept that anyone cares. I’ve been pushing him away and yet I find it hard to let him go. I’ve hated him, but would feel hurt because I felt he was leaving me behind. It’s all really confusing. I don’t expect anything major to come out of this, and thinking about it makes me all the more scared and anxious. #MentalHealth #Depression #Relationships #anxiousthoughts #devalue #value #scared #relationshipsarehard #pushingpeopleaway #Avoiding #feelings #Accepting #Men #feelingscared #battling


I Finally Opened Up To One Of My Coworkers

The other night at work, my coworker and I were talking about all that’s been happening in the world and it ended up with the subject of our mental well-being. He allowed me to tell him my whole rundown of the last few months of what’s been going on with me and it lead to a nice conversation. He opened up too about his past experiences with wanting to have someone who could be a listening ear and because of his experiences, it made him want to be of assistance to anyone who felt like they didn’t matter or no longer wanted to be alive. It was a total relief to talk about it because all of this has been sitting inside me while I’m at work and all they’ve seen is me being happy and jovial, but when I leave from there, sometimes I implode in the worst way. I have another coworker whom I’m forever in an emotional push and pull. I like the guy, but there are times that I have quickly devalued him because of the things he has done. I’ve even had moments when I’ve hated him when earlier I had admired him. He is a good person, but I find that I want to push him away sometimes. I’ve even been praying to avoid him most times, but he seems to be popping up more than before. We use to talk a lot, but when he started hanging out with the others, I would see him less and less. He didn’t say much to me for a while. And that put me in a tailspin because I felt like I had been abandoned by him. I don’t expect anything to come out of this at all, and even now, I’ll try to avoid him and he’s there either staring in my direction or he has something to say. I know that I can’t handle anything serious with my poor mental health and for that, I feel like I would only bring another person hell if they ever got close enough. #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #Depression #devalue #Admire #Relationships #relationshipsarehard #openup #Openingup #openingupfinally #pushingpeopleaway #Feelingabandoned #ImListening

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A #friend who #devalue / #discard me half a year ago when she got #engaged / #married just suddenly started #Talking/ #communicating with me today.

She started talking to me suddenly as if nothing at all ever happened. Like we travelled six months back in time!! Same inside jokes and everything. #Borderline #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #narcissistic #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #unstable #relationship