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    Public Bathrooms

    Yesterday, I ran into a man in a public bathroom.
    I felt immediate distress and anxiety and then also guilt for feeling that.
    The distress and anxiety are there, because I was sexually violated in a bathroom when I was about three years old. And yet, in public spaces, I often use the bathroom to destress and find relative peace again. Bathrooms are my safe spaces in the middle of chaotic restaurants, railway stations and airports. Normally, they don’t remind me of my childhood trauma anymore, unless they use a cleaning agent with a specific smell.
    Until yesterday that is.
    The guilt was there, because I noticed myself wishing for ‘female only’ bathrooms, a very unpopular view and I understand the reason for that. But shouldn’t all of us be able to feel safe? #GenderIdentity #SexualTrauma

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    Anyone here identify with microlabels and/or not-so-spoken identities?

    My feelings on it are complicated, but basically it can be put like this.

    Firstly, I will be honest and admit that I’m autosexual and autoromantic, which is mostly an ace/aro-spec identity, but it can be an identity on its own. It’s when you experience attraction to yourself and are comfortable with yourself in that way, and it is not the same as narcissism.

    My gender identity is also complicated. I usually say that I’m pangender (all genders excluding cultural ones that I’m not a part of), but I also experience agenderness, so I’m really panagender.

    I hope that this is a safe space to be able to say that.

    #LGBTQIA #GenderIdentity

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    Hi

    I deleted my old account because I couldn’t change my email or my username for some reason.

    So I go by Danni (@MeStillHere) now for those who knew me as hanaful240. I’m nonbinary transmasc and I go by he/they/it pronouns (plus some others but those three are my main pronouns since they’re what society knows best). #GenderIdentity

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    Gender Identity & Mental Health #Selfcare #Selflove #SocialAnxiety #GenderIdentity

    Good morning to all the fellow Lost Souls out there looking for answers! This morning's question of the day is not in my wheel house of experiences, so I'm reaching out for help in the comments!

    Question of the Day

    " I want to understand my gender identity."

    Now, I'm the first to admit when I'm ignorant and this is a topic I have not had to explore on my own. That being said, I will approach this from a social perspective and how I view Gender Identity as someone raised in a gender binary system.

    Identity in General

    I'll start by saying that your identity is your guiding light in this world. Knowing who you really are is liberating and gives you that sense of purpose I notice many people are chasing to no avail. I've noticed humans have a tendency to categorize everything, so we create labels for others to place them in relation to ourselves. The thing is, it's not until our adolescence that we start thinking abstractly about life and start questioning the world around us. Until that moment, we live by the labels we are given even if deep inside, it feels like we don't agree. We don't know any better!

    Ever have that moment where you think, "I don't even know why I'm doing this?" It could be about your job, your relationship, how you treat yourself or just life in general. We all have a moment where we question ourselves and that moment is ESSENTIAL to our growth. What's happening is we are questioning the script/narrative that was thrust upon us by the society that raised us. In my opinion, this is our true self begging us to rethink our identity and repressing these thoughts causes inner conflict. Basically, this is what we're asking:

    " Am I who everyone around me thinks I am? Or, am I who I believe myself to be...who I imagine when I daydream about my ideal life?"

    This question demands so much inner work, most people ignore it and move on. As someone who suffered from lack of direction and purpose, I can safely say taking the break from your routine to answer this question is life-changing in the best way. WHO ARE YOU, REALLY?

    Gender and Society

    I've come to understand that we live in a globally binary system. Though for centuries people have been exploring the fluidity of gender, it's only recently that I noticed people have been demanding acceptance. Makes total sense, as many groups have fought and made progress for their communities in the last century. The thing is, I don't believe we make the distinction between acceptance and belonging.

    You can be accepted and still feel like you don't belong! It's the difference between tolerating someone and actually liking/respecting them. This is a huge reason why I believe we should accept our place in society (tolerate it), but fight to belong (normalize it). It starts with self-love.

    Self-love allows for others to love you. It's an invitation of sorts. What is normal is temporary. Humans are fickle beings! Start loving who you are and others will too :)

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    MTF Trans living in a transphobic country

    Hey, I’m Jude.
    I live in Saudi Arabia, lived here for my entire life and I get treated like sh*t everday by family members and my schoolmates.
    I try to act as “masculine” as possible, I have to pretend something I’m not and it’s so hard and very exhausting both mentally and physically, here in Saudi Arabia our schools are either all boys schools or all girls schools and since I’m an AMAB I have to suffer this, I’ve always felt more connected and related more to girls, when I was younger I had female friends and it was nice hanging out with them and I liked talking to them, but when I got older they said I’m no longer allowed to stay with the girls I should be playing with the other boys and I didn’t feel like I fit there but I had to do that so I won’t get bullied, I had to wear that masculine mask and to this day i’m still wearing it, I always wondered if there’s something wrong about me, and wondered how would my life turn out if I was born a girl? I thought to myself “that would be perfect”.
    As a little kid I used to play with the “girls” toys and my parents didn’t mind because I was just a “kid”. btw I was obsessed with umbrellas and I always waited for it to rain so I can use the umbrellas outside lol.
    It doesn’t rain much where I live.
    I remember in middle school I used to think a lot about my gender identity, I cross dressed I wore my sister’s dress when no one was home, I felt very happy.
    I used to feel sad because I got picked on at school and by family memebrs for acting very feminine and, I remember a teacher in elementary school laughing because my voice is very “feminine” and the way I talk is feminine.. I got bullied a lot for that in school by family members and by strangers.
    didn’t have many friends in school except some who come and go and I wouldn’t really call them “friends” because we never went out except for school stuff.
    But I have one good friend who appearantly is also a part of the LGBTQ+ community and we’re in the same class , we have similar interests and similar personalities which is amazing.
    Now thinking about all this, I don’t really know what to feel rn and I don’t know if I’m feeling anything at all.
    I don’t know if I’ll ever have the opportunity to transition.
    I ignored this for many years but watching trans people on the internet made me think all about it again.

    A friend on twitter told me about this app and It’s an amazing app.
    Sorry for the long rant just needed to pour everything here.

    #GenderDysphoria #Transgender #Pledge2EndBullying #GenderIdentity #MentalHealth

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    My name is Charlie... #GenderIdentity

    So recently I've been questioning my gender - I was born a girl but I often feel like I don't fit into either male or female, and I switch between identifying myself as 'she' and 'they'.
    I don't feel like I can tell anyone in my family or my friends because I don't think they'd get it, but it's really difficult being reminded I'm a girl all the time because of my name and how I look.
    I've been asking to cut my hair short for more than 5 years now but I'm not allowed, and for someone who identifies as non-binary most of the time, it's difficult to have a girls name and a girls haircut and be addressed as "she" all the time.
    Changing my name on here to Charlie (which is gender neutral) feels so empowering, I just wish I could do it in real life!

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    Toxic Masculinity & Gender Presentation Suck Balls

    Today is one of those days where I hate the body I was born in.

    I was walking on the bike trail. There was a guy with his dog on the other side. The dog wanted to say hello. But the guy jerked her away and ignored me.

    Men can really be total douches to strangers who don't possess a set of breasts. If I had been born a woman, he would've stopped and used his dog as a pickup line.

    I wish society would stop basing their treatment of others on what they think they see. I wish society would stop expecting me to butch up, move couches on demand, repair lawnmowers, or participate in fistfights.

    I wish I dressed more androgynously today.
    #LGBTQ #toxicmasculinity #GenderIdentity