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One of my random thoughts..

We are one Love through it all..

#lupus #fibro #chronicpain #chronicfatigue #ptsd #anxiety #depression #mentalhealth #suicidesurvivor #migraine #abuse #toxicity #Selflove

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Insecurities

I recently read a message from a woman admitting her struggle with insecurities. How she degrades herself, judges herself and dislikes herself; seeking advice.

I, unfortunately, don't have any advice on this topic - since I also struggle with my insecurities. I am so overly criticising. One thing I try to remember (not always easy) is something someone once asked me:

"What do you think of that woman standing there?" I looked over to a young woman in her 30s and said she had such a beautiful smile, the perfect portion of curves, sparkling eyes, a beautiful face... She looks happy.

The person asked- "Did you even think of looking at what isn't perfect?" I shook my head. To me, she was beautiful.

The person turned to me and said, "Do you realise that most people truly don't see the negative parts/aspects of others - they don't even notice it. They see what strikes them - what shines from you." I looked at the person, taken aback. "Also, do you realise that your body type or size is exactly as hers. I can tell you wear the same size clothes, I noticed she also has a child - you are so similar."

I returned my gaze to the woman and truly looked at her. We could have been sisters. And I didn't even notice anything that I would describe as ugly, fat or disgusting.

We all have things we want to change - things that most people don't even notice at first glance...

Perhaps, as you wish you looked like someone else, someone is staring at you, loving your eye colour, hair or smile.

I have been told that I am very hard on myself and I know most people would never expect of me what I expect or criticise myself on.

#Care #MentalHealth #Selflove #insecurities

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My sunshine when I wake

Am honestly having a challenging morning but when I opened my door I was greeted by this. 🥰 My so very affectionate Ren. Yes, I pick him up like a baby. He has filled that space that I can no longer do with my grown adult girls. I just can't wrap him up like a burrito. I think he gets anxiety. 😆 Anyways, he plays a huge part of letting me forget I'm hurting and replaces it with the feeling of him purring on my heart. 🥰
I hope you all are feeling ok and can smile even once today.
Love & light
💜🙏
#Lupus #Fibromyalgia #chronicpain ChronicFatigue #PTSD #Anxiety #Depression #MentalHealth Migraine #abuse #toxicity #SuicideAttemptsSurvivor #Selflove

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A Painless hobby

So I use to be able to do a lot. I was the master at multitasking, working out, different forms of art. But for the last 20 years it gradually went downhill. Eventually I accepted what is and lived each day the best I can. I've always been an active person so not being able to do as much as the person before, that was the most difficult. One day I happened to be browsing and saw that one activity I've always loved has a Botanical Garden line. Legos! I was so happy! And it's affordable.
So I thought I'd share one that's also a favorite flower of mine...the orchid.
Maybe someone out there would like to do this as well.😄 #Lupus #fibro #chronicpain #ChronicFatigue #PTSD #Anxiety #Depression #MentalHealth #SuicideSurvivor #Migraine #abuse #toxicity #Selflove

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feeling "less than" while dealing with chronic illness

Lately, I've been immersing myself in TikTok videos that focus on the concept of a "glow up" for women. It's prompted me to reflect on the multitude of beauty products I've felt compelled to purchase in order to attain the idealized version of myself that exists in my mind.

At first, I began compiling a list of these products, but then I paused. This pause represents progress for me because, in the past, I would have undoubtedly succumbed to my insecurities and purchased every single item.

My appearance has been a source of insecurity for me, especially considering that I was unwell for a period of three years and I'm still in the process of recovering. Consequently, I have scars and lesions that don't align with the societal standards of “beauty.”

I often find myself striving to meet the expectations of others, as well as my own, regarding my physical appearance.

However, I don't resemble the individuals I constantly encounter on social media. While I recognize that these influencers likely have imperfections too, I refuse to feel ashamed of my own scars and the decision not to conceal them.

Over the past three years, I've managed to shed a significant amount of weight. But in the past year, I’ve experienced a weight gain.

Assessing my progress becomes challenging when it feels like I'm regressing compared to the people around me. It often feels like taking a step backward rather than moving forward.

Despite these challenges, I am gradually gaining a better understanding of my physical needs and identity. Such self-discovery doesn't happen overnight, particularly for someone who has endured chronic illness.

Ultimately, the emotional aspect is what truly matters, and I'm grateful to acknowledge that I've made substantial progress in that regard.

The societal pressures and expectations imposed on women concerning their physical appearance, behavior, and identity can often create a sense of burden and constraint. It is unjust that society tends to prioritize a person's looks over their accomplishments and character.

I firmly believe that every individual possesses their own unique beauty that goes beyond physical appearance.

If you are currently facing challenges and still persevering, you are displaying a strength and resilience that is truly admirable.

I want to remind you that you are strong, resilient, and powerful, regardless of what society may suggest.

Your commitment to personal growth and development sets you apart, and I hold deep respect for your inner strength and beautiful spirit.

Keep moving forward, and know that you are valued and appreciated for the incredible person that you are.

#CIRS #MentalHealth #Feminism #Empowerment #mold #Selflove #ChronicIllness #InvisibleIllness #Anxiety

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a letter to those doing their best:

I want to express my admiration for you. If you are taking the time to read this, it shows that you are committed to your personal growth and well-being. Whether you are facing your traumas during challenging times or in the process of recovering from them, your determination is evident.

It's important to remember that your experiences do not define you. Instead, it's how you respond to and process the pain that can lead to a better life.

Regardless of the hardships you've faced or are currently facing, it's crucial to prioritize self-respect and self-love, even if it feels daunting at first. I understand that it's an ongoing struggle, but I sincerely hope that one day you will fully believe in your own worth.

It's essential to recognize that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness or fragility, even when it seems like everything is falling apart. If you find it hard to believe right now, that's okay. I understand that my words may seem like just another generic message of encouragement, but I assure you, they come from a place of genuine strength.

Your ability to overcome your weaknesses is a testament to your inner strength. Learning to love yourself comes after forgiving yourself for how you coped in survival mode. It's not a reflection of who you are as a person, but rather a testament to your resilience and your decision to prioritize self-care and peace.

Regardless of your current circumstances, your personal strength is remarkable and deserves recognition. You have survived, and that makes you a survivor. Embrace and celebrate the person you are now, as well as the person you are striving to become.

#CIRS #Grief #Trauma #MentalHealth #ADHD #InvisibleIllness #vulnerabilty #Selflove #aletterto #ChronicIllness

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How do you practice self-love & kindness towards yourself?

I like to practice saying affirmations to myself like this one from Kate Allan’s “Thera-pets:” my body deserves real care and kindness and so do I. #MightyPets #MightyTogether #TheMighty #MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Spoonie #Support #Selflove #affirmations

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