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#MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression

Just venting, but why, as a grown ass adult can't you make arrangements for your own mother's funeral? My great aunt just died, and of course her cousin can't be reached. We're in New York, and he lives in North Carolina. He's known she hasn't been doing too well, but never gave 2 shits about her. She also has 2 grandchildren that live here in the Buffalo area, but haven't seen or visited her in the 5 years that she has been back living here because they can't benefit from her because she has no money to give them. Im sorry, but the responsibility of planning and paying for someone else's mother's funeral shouldn't be left to my mother who has my grandmother with dementia to worry about. Personally, I wouldn't even bother with anything, and let someone else deal with it. Im tired of ignorant ass people, even if they are family.

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I'm new here!

Hi, my name is shaijakel. I’m here to support caregivers, patients, and families through the emotional and practical challenges of caregiving.
With over 20 years of experience as a Certified Nursing Assistant, an associate degree in medical assisting, and a bachelor’s degree in behavioral science, I’ve spent much of my life walking beside others during their most vulnerable moments. I’ve seen the weight that caregiving places on the body, mind, and spirit—and I’ve felt it, too.
Now, as I pursue my master’s in clinical mental health counseling, I’m passionate about using my education and lived experience to uplift others. Whether you're navigating chronic illness, caring for an aging loved one, or trying to cope with burnout, you're not alone. My hope is that by sharing stories, reflections, and mental health tools, I can be a voice of empathy, strength, and validation for others walking similar paths.

#MightyTogether #Depression #Anxiety #Dementia #AlzheimersDisease

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Hi, my name is NoahFence. I'm here because on May 20, 2025. I underwent a Brain Scan. The diagnoses are dementia. Multiple sclerosis and strokes. The left-side of my brain had "gross amount" of white tissues and damaged tissues. I just turned 37 on October 2nd. These past few years of substance abuse and being a domestic abuse victim had truly taken a toll on my body and now my overall health.
#MightyTogether #MultipleSclerosis #Anxiety #Depression #PTSD #Grief #Dementia

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Hi, my name is Fluffer59. I'm here because my husband is an alcoholic with dementia. Need to learn to navigate this diagnoses while keeping myself healthy & from derailing. I have had fibromyalgia for past 30 years.

#MightyTogether #Fibromyalgia

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Would you say that your obsessed with your parents or you can take it or leave it? Meaning you overly depend on them vs. making decisions for yourself

I did this many years ago. Because my mom is a Narc, and she instilled this in me from a baby growing up that I would basically always need her to make decisions for me. But a few people outside of my family educated me on what they saw, and I corrected this over a 10-year span... but now my mom respects me as an adult and doesn't try to control me... but the connect that a child has with their mom I had to break those ties permanently. Because my mom abused that at an early age... So most of the time I treat her like she is a stranger even though she's my mom... my mom now has a mild case of dementia so she doesn't remember half of what she did to me when I was younger #BPD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #MentalHealth #PTSD #Bipolar #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder

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Hi, my name is parcel. I'm here because Been a Christian since 1990. Never had any real health problems. Happily married, then about 4 years my wife started to develop Dementia so now I look after her (She's 74, Im 74).
But since having a severe vertigo attack in Aug 13th (was bed ridden for 24 hrs). Was fine the next day. With some good an bad days. Was ok. Then on Dec 27 in 23. Woke up not feeling well. Haven't been the same since. I have a feeling in my mind, things are not rite. It's continous. Affects my cognitive an neurological functions. Now I feel like "I'm drowning" due to various health probs.Constant feeling something's not rite. Had various blood tests, CT scan, endoscopy front an back. Nuthin found. Have anemia an B12 deficiency, Now on various tabs. Have had some anxiety an depression. Really struggling to look after my wife at times, I have a hernia, some globus which gives me wind, burping, difficult to get to sleep at nite.
Don't wanna get up in the morning but I have to look after my wife. Very lill support, altho Alzheimers society helps a lot. Wife has various health issues. She used to be active, now she can't go out without me. So can't go out an leave her for long. Just feel like I'm in a living nightmare, I'm unable to wake up from. Slowly drowning.
Tried praying asking God to take it away. Feels like a curse or something has been put on me. She gets Attendance Allowance. We are both on pensions. Both with saving accs an a joint acc. Recently applied for Power of Attorney. Can't attend meetings unless I bring my wife (who has severe short term memory) Help me someone.
I always had a strong faith since getting saved. God has blessed us both beyond measure. Now it feels like life is a struggle. How long does this last, until there's a breakthro.
Every day I wake up, thinking it's gonna be different, but it's not. Time goes slowly, listen to a lotta praise music during day. Wife can look afterself quite well, she has a routine. Except for meals an meds, which I prepare.
No problem with driving, just gotta keep the car going so we can get the shopping in.
Just feels like I'm "losing it" sometimes, with no way to get on top of things. no time to recover, before something else occurs.Having to rely on support an advice by more authorities an organisations than ever before.Always tended to be self reliant, not now tho.
Since Dec 09 24 I now wake up feeling slightly out of it, with some residual affects of Vertigo. Which remains throughout the day. Limiting my everyday tasks even more. I have more burdens recently inc mistake by DWP. Applied for Carers allowance then got clobbered by a reduction in Pension Credit.They miscalculated total money in accs.Meaning I now have to pay full rent an council tax. When will it all end!Have been told Carers element will remove rent an council tax costs. (Thats now sorted.)

TBC

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I really wish I didn't have to get out of bed sometimes, but I have another whocounts on me every day. Thank God for that, or I might not even be here. #Caregiving #Depression #Dementia #AlzheimersDisease

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Turning 60 #Depression #Anxiety #Aging #Dementia #ADHD #AlzheimersDisease #SuicidalThoughts

I will be turning 60 years old in a few weeks. Since the beginning of the year, I have been feeling more like 80 or 90. I am more tired, sore and mental struggles. It is effecting my everyday life. I haven't been able to work an 8 hour shift for many months. I get physically and mentally exhausted after just after a couple of hours. Luckily, I have been able to work split shifts doing food delivers that I am able to make ends meet but it is difficult.

One issue that has been getting worse is focus and attention. I have a very active, logical mind. My mind is always analyzing, planning, thinking and replaying and is constantly running in the background. It's been happening as long as I can remember. I believe I have #ADHD but have never been diagnosed with it, even though I have always told my doctors this. Because my subconscious mind is so active and automatic, my focus shifts from conscious to subconscious. It doesn't matter what I am doing, driving, in a conversation, writing this article, etc. most of the time I am not aware that the focus has changed. I go into auto pilot. This makes things like multitasking almost impossible for me because with all the things going on in the background already, my mind is full and I become distracted or confused. I have tried meditation and yoga to discipline my mind and body but when it is quiet and without distractions my mind gets even more active and I can't refocus it.

The other thing that has been happening with my mind is it has been giving me false information. I'll give an example. I am driving to a location. I have the GPS directions on with it announcing turns along with a visual map. The voice tells me to turn when I get a certain point but my mind tells me to turn now. So, I turn and now I am on the wrong street and have to backtrack. Another example, I get 2 orders from the same restaurant for 2 different people. I keep them separate and note which one goes where. I get to the first location and my mind tells me to grab this order. So, I grab it and deliver it. It turns out to be the wrong one and I don't realize it until I get to the 2nd location and causes a big problem. Normally you would just look at the order and verify you have the right one. My mind was so sure I had the right one but it was wrong. I have been delivering food a long time. I know to double check these orders and maps but yet my mind is telling it is sure it is right, but it is wrong. Is this just my brain aging? Am I getting #AlzheimersDisease or #Dementia ? Is it some sort of degenerative brain disorder? I don't know but I am greatly concerned. I want to go to the doctor and get checked out but I have really crappy insurance that has a huge deductible I have to meet before it will pay for anything. So, I can't afford to see the doctor.

This is really getting the depression and anxiety worked up. I am really afraid that I am losing my mind. I don't want to end up homeless and in treatment again. The experience was horrible. I have been having suicidal thoughts again. No plans or wanting to act on them but I am really struggling financially and health wise. My quality of life is low and I am feeling like I have gotten everything out of life that I am going to get. Why continue? Again, these are the thoughts. No plans or want to act on them. But, that could change if I start feeling I have nothing left to live for. It sucks to be me right now.
#Depression #Anxiety #Aging #Dementia #ADHD #AlzheimersDisease #SuicidalThoughts

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Hi, my name is RsDs1998. I'm here because for several years I helped take care of my mom with dementia.

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