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Missing Friendship - Can anybody relate?

Feeling a bit lonely today guys, can anyone advise? ❤

Probably like a few of you on here lots of my 'friends' abandoned me 2 1/2 years ago when I got sick.

I tried to stay positive as I had 3 separate girls who I thought were 'keepers' I've been hearing less and less replies from them over the past 6 months.

Yesterday I messaged all 3, and none have replied. I feel even more lonely then before I messaged them.

There's nothing worse than feeling alone, when having friends is something you want.

I don't even know where to find anybody new. I find myself talking too much to anyone now doctors, nurses etc. Just because I don't have anybody else. It hurts.

What is worse is that it's my 'best friends' and my 10 year anniversary since we met this month, we were literally so close this is something we would have celebrated. she doesn't seem interested. She was like my family but seems to have moved on with new friends, as she's moved to another nearby town.

When she does message me im always hearing about a 'friend' when I ask what she's been up to.

Messages used to be often but now it's always 'sorry I didn't realise I didn't reply' or 'sorry I didn't send a reply i typed' or 'I completely forgot to reply' daily now. Where she's obviously messaging others and forgets about me.

I just feel at such a loss. I'm lucky to have an amazing husband but it's not the same as girl time.

Can anybody else relate? Sorry for rant. Happy Sunday everybody lots of love xx

#lonely  #Friendship  #Friends  #COVID  #longcovid  #longhauler  #CFS  #ChronicFatigue  #Fatigue  #Autism  #ADHD  #UndifferentiatedConnectiveTissueDisease  #UCTD  #MixedConnectiveTissueDisease  #hiatushernia  #housebound  #CheckInWithMe  #lookingforchat  #lookingforfriendship  #UK  #England


Chronic pain for 3 years and I'm only 22

I've had chronic pain for 3 years in my lower right abdomen and now it's causing my right lower back pain. Over this time I've had an endoscopy where a hiatus hernia was found but is not the source of my pain. At the weekend I had a transvaginal ultrasound due to my many gynae related symptoms and they found a fibroma on my left ovary. This is also no the cause of my pain according to my doctors. I've had blood test after blood test with no abnormalities except low vitamin D levels which is now being treated. Today my GP has said my pain could be from a trapped nerve and now I have more medication on top of the 10+ medications I'm already on. I'm only 22 I'm in agony every day at the moment and my tramadol isn't working well anymore. What can I do to make the doctors listen? What do you think could be causing this? How do you manage your chronic pain? I'm at the point now where I'm going to have to take a break from my Nursing degree because I'm so debilitated all I can do is lie in bed writhing in pain and vomiting. The doctors won't give me stronger pain relief either, how can I make them understand?

#ChronicPain #BackPain #abdominalpain #Pain #ChronicIllness #hiatushernia #OvarianCyst

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Hiatal Hernia #hernia #HiatalHernia #illness

Anyone here able to help me regarding my hiatal hernia diagnosis. What steps should I take? Best medications? Is surgery helpful? #HiatalHerniaRepair #hiatushernia


What does #polymcalgiarheumatica or/and #gca really feel like?

Doc thinks I hve PR & given me steroids 2 c if symptoms get better.If anyone has Polymyalgia Rheumatica , can I ask does it make you fatigued , in the sense that u have limited energy? Also, are u in a lot of pain? Apart from my #hiatushernia , I am not in pain anywhre but my stomach but I am very stiff in my shoulders, neck & sometimes very stiff in my legs where I feel I have 2 grab my hands around my legs 2 move them. Im also weak. I've had visual disturbances twice now, I thought it's 2 do wth fainting but see it can mean GCA & be more serious. If u get vis disturbances, do u feel faint?


The unknown #ChronicFatigue #ChronicIllness

A couple of years ago, out of absolutely nowhere I started to feel really nauseous. The commute to work & back was near impossible. My periods became very irregular & I became severely bloated. I was convinced I was pregnant. Forward about two months and I started getting excruciating pain - waking up due to what felt a massive karate chop to my stomach. I had all sorts of blood tests & scans. Every time I ended up in a&e I was told it was ‘that time of life’ -peri-menopause. .
Somethings did show up in scans but apparently they wouldn’t cause my symptoms & were not flaired.
I couldn’t walk from pain, I couldn’t eat, it would either hurt to eat or I’d get full from just a bite. I couldn’t even carry a piece of paper!! Sometimes whilst lying in bed I would feel my throat swelling up & actually couldn’t swallow. It was very scary but I thought maybe it was a sign of #Anxiety .
My doctors thought maybe some trapped gas or stomach bug. I was given anti-acids that did nothing.
I lost my job, I lost my home, I moved out of London to #nottingham for a slower pace, where people wouldn’t shove at bus stops &work would be a shorter commute, by then the 2nd set of different anti acids had worked. I seemed fine. Until I helped the removers with some carrying. Then it was back.
Whilst there I had an #Endoscopy and there we found I had an #esophageal #hiatushernia - the gastric specialist had also told me there was no need for an endoscopy as he thought I had a stomach virus!! It was only when I told him my hair was falling out that he said ok.
After the endoscopy diagnosis I was told to raise the head of my bed. That was it.
Without carrying on for pages, (it’s 4.30 am and I have work in the morning but I was googling and found this site and I realised I really needed to pour my heart but I’m rambling! Apologies!) I ended up on two different anti acids, can not do any exercise, some days carrying an umbrella causes severe pain and a flair up of exhaustion, sometimes not, I've been deficient in iron, vitamin d and zinc, my #HairLoss has got better - the specialist and I did thing it was all the trauma in my life plus possibly one of the #antiacids
The chronic fatigue is quite new and scary. I’m not even sure if it is my hiatus hernia that’s causing all this. Am being investigated. There is a lot of #Inflammation in my blood tests
So yes, in my last job which I lost, if I was told to stay an extra half hour, I would have literally lost all my energy. I’ve never experienced this, so comforting to understand it here and have people that can relate! My mother was in hospital last week so I ended up having to do a lot; in the past that would be fine but now. I collapsed last Saturday & my daughter had to call an ambulance & I’ve had to take a cab to work and back & will again tomor! I can hardly walk without going weak in the legs & I get weak & panicky. I think a proper diagnosis Would calm me. I’m getting anxious, frustrated & depressed.