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A love letter to young hearts #MightyPoets

I am a mother and an auntie. I wrote this for the kiddos in my life who I love so dearly. I hope that anyone who should need an extra reminder, young or awesomely young at heart that this may help.

#Poetry #growth #Support #iseeyou #Selfacceptance #distraction #Selflove #Selfrespect

Be humble

There's something to be learned from every single person you meet. We are not above anyone, any lesson or station in this life.

If you forget, life will happily show you where to sit.

Respect

Respect is a given. Because that's who you are. Trust is earned based on who they are.

Most importantly, respect yourself. If you don't, no one else will.

You deserve better from yourself.

Hard work

The things you love, have, and that are worth keeping come with hard work.

If it's easy, baby, it's probably temporary.

Kindness

If you can and want to be anything in this world, my loves, be kind.

Anyone can be thoughtless and cruel.

It takes a brave badass soul to be kind.

Be kind to yourself too.

Life is hard enough without you kicking your ass.

Be Brave

You will make mistakes, yet don't live in regret. You will be the hero and the villain in your and someone else's story.

That's everyone's common ground.

Be brave and forgive yourself.

Self-loathing is beneath you, my dear.

Be brave and be vulnerable.

You will grow more than you can imagine and love harder than you thought was possible.

Yes, there will be pain. There will be heartache.

Bravery doesn't mitigate pain.

Bravery will see you through to the other side of the coin, which is love, gratitude, and joy.

Be yourself

There's only one of you. Don't waste time pretending.

It feels bad. Let yourself be.

Those who love and care for you will be there to celebrate your truth alongside you.

Love

This might be the hardest thing I ever ask of you, yet I am asking anyway.

Love your beautiful, brilliant selves.

You must love yourself and set the tone of how others are to treat you.

Be courageous in loving yourself so well; everyone who knows you will see your light and follow in your footsteps.

You are setting examples for those around you every time you do.

Please, remember, dear one, people will show you who they are.

When they do, believe them.

This is part of loving yourself and remembering just who the fuck you are. Cause baby, you are star shine and magic.

Water your garden. Live your life so well and authentically that you plant seeds wherever you go. When things get tough, and all you see is weeds, look behind you to spot the flowers you have sowed.

Remember, I believe in you. I see you, and I am so damn proud of you.

Love you a megaton.

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Daily Inspiration

Pleasing others is a complete waste of time. Focus on yourself because you're not going to make everybody happy. #MentalHealth #self -image #selflovecomesfirst #Selfrespect #Selfesteem

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Stand your ground. #Selfrespect #Selfesteem #Integrity #moralcode

Don't be moved to stray from the principles you hold dear. Value yourself enough not be manipulated - don't let anyone pull your strings. And try not to let anyone ruin your day, Come what may. They want it their way, no matter what. #manipulation #Dignity

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#Friendship #Trauma #Selfrespect #Isolation

I suffered from a deep trauma some years ago, which destroyed all of my friendships I had back then. I tried to get professional help, even went to a clinic for 8 weeks to cure me. They were treating me for post-traumatic stress and psychosomatic disorder. I feel chronic pain, constantly confused and dizzy. But finding a therapist was hard, because in real life I will appear quite confident and rather smart. And one of my key issues is trust, because I felt betrayed by a lot of people back then, who didn't want to see how much I have been hurt, or just couldn't take care of me. So therapists didn't do, either. Maybe they felt I was too cocky or something, just too much of a struggle. So after 7 or so attempts I decided that I was better off trying on my own. And I did, but with my friends gone I was rather isolated. Retreated to myself, got lost in music, books, whatever. Made a living somehow as a private teacher, my students all respecting me, since really I am still a positive person, wanting to benefit others. But I struggle greatly, mostly because of the chronic pain which I try to overcome with lots of Yoga, but it's a very long process. And I was very happy that I found two new friends, but now I need to question those friendships and it's almost killing me. It seems like I only have been able to uphold them because I kept my composure, but as soon as I am showing a bit of my "real self" they shy away in disgust. There is not one second when they don't remind me of needing to keep my demons in check and to "perform" well, or else they won't invite me to any of their social events. At the beginning I really believed I wasn't worthy, but as time passed I learned that they even prefered to keep me isolated, since whenever I was at a social event I thrived, and they became jealous of me. They then emphasized their own problems, how I try to just get the center of attention, and it's really unfair because I always listen to their problems and really, having suffered from what I have it doesn't compare, yet they don't care. They want to be at top of everything, feeling no true empathy with me at all. So I decided to end it, because it was only hurting me. Now I feel even more isolated. I needed those friendships, and I cannot accept that they have only been superficial. That again I am better off on my own. That I need to be strong, and even stronger, and hide my trauma. But I will never be able to confront it that way. I will never be able to really trust again. Should I accept that humanity is really like that? Or is there a chance that I can keep my own self, my "soft spot", my true feelings? I don't know. I am just posting this here because I feel rather desperate. I send love to all of you who may feel the same.

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Never Settle

See, the way my depression and anxiety is set up...I just can't be involved with someone who is going to drive me batty. Do not settle...being in a relationship just to say you're in a relationship is not worth it. Especially, if there is no trust, no love, or other basic fundamentals being brought to the table. Take care of you.
#Selflove #Selfworth #Selfrespect #youareimportant #Relationships

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Tradition 👎🏽 #BeInChargeOfYourOwnHealing

Growing up WE have been taught traditional morals that were fitting for that time benefitting our parents/caregivers as the world turns and WE have grown became more knowledgeable of the things that benefits US most
A lot of tradition WE were taught wasn’t Always right and most of it didn’t work only left us Broken and Confused #Respect #Selfrespect
DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU

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I am nobody’s emotional maid #Selfrespect #boundaries #Hadenough

I’ve come to a point in my life where if people choose to hurt or leave me, I either change their significance to me or let them go. The relationship/friendship is never the same. Why would I try to return to them when they smashed it so much that I can’t put the pieces back to see what we had? It’s not worth my time. They didn’t respect it or were wise enough to just leave it as it was...nobody destroys things if they truly value it. I can’t make someone understand the damage they did when they didn’t care to think about the damage before they broke everything. And the worst part is that they had no reverence for the memories and emotions that were developed to at least preserve what was created between us as a memory. So I leave them there to gather up the broken pieces which they reduced it to because it’s their mess they created. I am not a maid for people’s screw ups and stupidity. If they are stupid enough to go through the insanity of putting the millions of pieces back together then I will let them go crazy.

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" I am responsible for my own life. No one can take charge of it but me. If I am unhappy or unhealthy, I know I have the power to change that. I have all the help and knowledge I need; and with God's hand today and tonight, I start becoming the person of excellence I have always know I could be."
#stillbreatin 🙏🙏
#Respect #Selfrespect
#selfImprovement #Life