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Toxic Friends Who Make Us Feel Worthless

I am new here. I wish good luck to everyone who has to cope with life's difficulties and health problems.

I've cut a lot of friends out of my life lately.I have now discovered that they are toxic..I generally wonder about my friends. I ask if they are okay...But they (most of them) only contact me to help them..I only come to their mind when they are in trouble or have a problem..Few people around me really care about how I am..In order to prove that I exist, I have to share something on WhatsApp, that is, I have to say "I'm here.. hey do you see me?"I don't do that either..I refused to join this craze of ostentatiousness..And when I let things go, I saw that all my friendships were actually forwarding through my efforts.. and I stopped effort and I was left alone. I realized that I have no real friends around me..I decided to experience real loneliness instead of living in a lie and one-sided crowd.I'm happier this way. I learned to spend time with myself and love myself.🌷

Note: My English is not very good, I usually use translation. I hope I was able to explain my problem.😀 #toxicfriends #eigenvalue #Selfesteem #Depression #youarevaluable

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How to help someone with low self esteem

Hi all,

It's been quite a while. I'm back because my girlfriend is dealing with some pretty major low self esteem and I feel powerless to help her having never dealt with it myself to a significant degree except within the context of a bout of severe depression when I was 18. We have a lot of things in common with our brains: OCD, anxiety, probably autism, and generally being weird smart nerds. But my environment growing up was a lot more supportive than hers. I grew up in a progressive west coast city with a queer friendly community and friends and family who were also weird and felt that it was a good thing to think for ourselves and not be "normal." She grew up in a Texas suburb in a conservative Catholic community that socially punished any kind of nonconformity or inability to instantly understand and follow unspoken social rules and has only had maybe two real friends, not including me, since being a preteen. She has such a low opinion of her ability to make friends and feels like everyone thinks she's weird in a bad way. She assumes that all social interactions are going to go terribly which leads her to not interact with anyone thus worsening the anxiety. I understand why she feels like this given her past experiences, but I just feel like she can't be so much different from me that a modest but fulfilling social life such as mine is impossible for her. She's seeing a therapist mostly for the OCD but also the self esteem, but I just don't know how to help. I do everything I can to tell her how wonderful she is, naming specific things I love about her and reasons that she is great outside of any personal relationships. But at the end of the day I don't have much personal experience with feeling that way and so I have no tips to give her like I can with OCD, the treatment of which I am now somewhat of a veteran. Any suggestions from those who have dealt with such things for what might help? And advice to give someone struggling like this? Especially if you've successfully been able to manage these feelings and gain self confidence and self love/appreciation. I suppose I should also add that we are currently long-distance and she visits me every 1-2 months (she has a more flexible schedule and makes a lot more money, and I have the more independent living situation whereas she still lives with her somewhat homophobic parents). So as much as I'd like to hug her every day and whisper a litany of her wonderful qualities in her ear, I sadly cannot.

#Selfesteem #lowselfesteem #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #Autism #Relationships #Advice #Support

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Signs of low self esteem

#AnorexiaNervosa #Selfesteem There are several signs that either you or someone you know may be struggling with low self-esteem. Those signs of low self-esteem include:

Sensitivity to Criticism

If you have low self-esteem you may be extra sensitive to criticism, whether from others or yourself. You see it only as reinforcing your flaws and confirming that you are incapable of doing anything right.

Social Withdrawal

Declining invitations to go to a party or meet up with friends, canceling scheduled plans last-minute, and generally not wanting to be around others are signs of low self-esteem. You may not have any desire to hold a conversation or talk about your life because it will only reinforce the depression and anxiety you are already experiencing.


For someone with low self-esteem, lashing out or becoming aggressive towards others is a defense mechanism. If you feel that you are about to be exposed or criticized, attacking whoever might criticize you can be a sign of low self-esteem.

Excessive Preoccupation with Personal Problems

Consistently worrying about your own personal issues takes up a lot of time for someone with low self-esteem. You may struggle to help or empathize with someone else’s problems because you are too preoccupied with your own.

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We tend to forget that no matter how worthless we may feel at any point in our lives, that we are in fact, never truely worthless. We are all just mixed bags of neurodiversity and we all are capable of MIRACULOUS things. Simple. #Selfworth #Selfesteem #loveyourself #believeinyourself

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