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Domestic Violence: A Hit That Could Last A Lifetime

Domestic Violence: A Hit That Could Last A Lifetime

Community Conversations about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) featuring ACEs Matter REACHER, Minister, and Motivational Leadership Speaker, Michael Stegall of Tupelo, Mississippi and guest starring Lived Experience Survivor, Published Author & CEO, Reba Bell (Arvae Bell-Hobbs) by way of Kenosha Wisconsin.

We need more mentally healthy adults & that starts with one bold conversation at a time.

“Even as bystanders to domestic and family violence, children may experience psychological traumatization as if abused themselves. Approximately 15 million children witness domestic violence each year (Futures Without Violence, 2008).”

That is way too many kids and we think we can do something about it! #acesmatter

Be a part of the conversation and solution by joining 𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐬 𝐌𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲, 𝐒𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝟏𝟎𝐭𝐡, 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟏 @ 𝟏𝟏𝐚𝐦 𝐂𝐒𝐓/𝟏𝟐𝐩𝐦 𝐄𝐒𝐓.

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#EmotionalAbuse #emotionalviolence #neglect #emotionalneglect #childabuse #childsexualabuse #developmentaltrauma #childhoodtrauma #bruceperry #thedeepestwell
#cognitivedissonance
#misinformation
#besselvanderkolk
#thebodykeepsthescore
#traumarecovery
#traumatherapist
#healingfromtrauma
#ptsdrecovery
#cptsd
#breakingthecycle
#psychosomatic
#generationaltrauma #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #narcissisticabuse
#narcissisticmother #innerchildwork
#childhoodtrauma #childhoodemotionalneglect #traumainformed
#motheringittogether #motheringthemother
#complextrauma
#gaslightingawareness
#gaslighting
#abuseisnotlove
#abusedwomen
#narcissticfamilyabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #npdawareness
#npd
#npdsurvivor
#narcissismawareness
#strongmoms
#toughasamother
#toxicparents
#unconditionallove #mamahoodsisterhood
#reparenting #mentalhealthawareness

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How I Broke The Cycle of Codependency

My story just got published! I hope you'll take a look at it and let me know your thoughts! My hope is that sharing my story can help someone who is struggling with codependency as well.
#MightyTogether #Codependency #breakingthecycle

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Grieving the loss of a disengaged parent

I found out the news from my brother. He told me my biological father died almost two weeks earlier and I was in disbelief.  I cried, but for many different reasons.  I cried because he was gone and I didn't get to say goodbye.  I cried because I didn't know if he had spent the rest of his day reconciling that he wasn't the father that my siblings and I deserved.  I cried because even at his deathbed, he still had the ability to make us all feel unimportant and unworthy of his love and affections.  
My biological father was a Narcissist who spent his life believing that we his children were responsible for initiating and maintaining a relationship with him.  And I get it, as an adult we are responsible for maintaining a healthy relationship with our parents.  But as a child, all I wanted was for my dad to fight for me and show up to be a part of my life.  I felt unworthy as I grew up and it took a lot of years and therapy to work through those feelings of abandonment.  Now he was gone.
I still battle with feeling unworthy, but these days I understand that my father was not capable of being a health parent to any of my siblings because there was something broken inside of him.  I live with his legacy of broken familial relationships, living with mental health issues, and knowing his was beloved and cherished by people who were not his children.  
That's the kicker.  When my brother posted about the funeral, people commented about how great of the guy he was and how much they learned from him.  I can barely remember the times when I would visit with him as a child and as an adult couldn't be around someone who was always right and was unable to take responsibility for how his life choices impacted all of our lives.  But now he's gone.  
I mourned his death and the relationship that we never hand. But I also felt a sense of closure about who he was and that my worth was not dependent on his presence or affections. I can stop waiting for him to change, waiting for him to apologize, waiting for him to be something he couldn't. I was free to move forward challenging the legacy he left behind to create a healthier future with my siblings and a healing of the deep wounds of my life that complicated my mental health recovery. I am free to focus on the love and support from my husband, family, and friends who've been there from the beginning and love me for me. #grievingaparent #absenteefather #mentalhealthrecovery #breakingthecycle #creatinganewlegacy

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what are your best tips for changing negative thoughts?

I'm stuck in a cycle of self hate and self doubt, I'm so mean to myself. and when I'm not being mean to myself I'm worrying about how I'm affecting my kids and what people think of me. How do you break the cycle? What actually works? What does it take to help myself? #negative #Hope #Selfcare #Thoughts #breakingthecycle #selfhelp #Anxiety #Depression #help #Advice

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#Temptation #Addiction #breakingthecycle

1 Corinthians 10:13 “there hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful who will not suffer you to be tempted above what [you] are able; but with the temptation also make a way to escape, that [you] may be able to bear it”
To me this stays God is aware of temptation but he has control with you, over you, and will provide a way to avoid your temptation. It speaks to me today as I have fought all day the urge to drink. And not just drink but full on binge day drink. I was scared I would give in. So far so good. And I feel better knowing if I feel tempted again, I just need to look around for the escape God will provide me. #MyTwoCents

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Too Long #NewBeginnings

Bruises on my face
Bruises on my soul
Bruises on your knuckles -
And I didn't go

Believing all your reasons
Your litany of my wrongs
I stayed another day -
Another day too long

Blood on my lips
Bleeding in my soul
Blood on your knuckles -
And still I didn't go

Believing all your reasons
The litany of my wrongs
I stayed another day -
Another day too long

Bandages on my arms
Bandages can't patch my soul
Bandages on your knuckles -
And still I didn't go

But I'm doubting all your reasons
Your litany of my wrongs
Yet I stayed another day -
Another day too long

Stitches on my leg
Stitches can't heal my soul
Stitches on your knuckles -
I think its time I go

I don't believe your reasons
I don't believe I'm wrong
I won't stay another day -
I've already stayed too long

#MightyPoets #Abuse #DomesticViolence #Trauma #startingover #NewBeginnings #Healing #breakingthecycle