Dr Debi Silber has authored a book covering the way to rebuild after a life crisis centred on betrayal. This is great and I found her Ted Talk amazing. Does anyone else feel that the focus on women by Dr Silber in her writing maps really well to men also, especially survivors of child abuse, CSA and over coming adult relationships which experienced infidelity.
After having been through all these experiences, and over 30 years after the first abuse began (that I can remember) I’m finally coming to terms with it all. I am able to speak about each event, and am receiving treatment to help me on the path.
My next big hurdle is to forgive the perpetrators and to forgive myself. I have hated them all for so long for what they did, yet, they have all been the closet and most important figures in my developmental life. It has taken a complete reinvention to break the link to my past, and I feel that I am finally ready to forgive…the problem is…I have no idea where to begin.
I’m open to any suggestions.
Thank you for your time and patience.