youcandothis

So it been about 45 days since I left a very toxic relationship. I have never felt so liberated. I been dating. Health coffee dates and lunch dates at the park. My therapist says to get me out there. It’s gone well. I should be starting a job this week. Also I have come to find I still have amazing people in my life. Who care about my well being and my happiness. So For the first in a long time I am excited about my life. I hope anyone going through this. I didn’t think I could do it and I did. Just wanted to share a uplifting situation. #youcandothis
#onlyonestepatatime

Does anyone feel like they offer great advice to others, but you never tell yourself the same advice?

I found myself in this situation this morning. My fiancé was hit with a TON of anxiety. I told him we could break it down, one thing at a time and work through it. Find a solution or a way to cope. But when the tables are turned, usually my thoughts completely overtake and I can’t do this. Or maybe my mind just fights it?

It’s like after years of walking, someone tells you that it’s wrong, and now you have to learn to do it backwards. I find myself going back to the “easy” way of negative thinking. Fighting your thoughts are one of the hardest things to do.

Right now, carrying a 13 lb crying thrashing baby right after abdominal surgery is easier than that. But baby steps, even the tiniest, WILL make a difference. #Anxiety #Depression #NegativeThinking #youcandothis

After years and years of tests, scans, injections, blood being taken, you finally get a diagnosis as to what’s wrong!
you initially feel so relived to have an answer, to have a reason as to why your suffering.
you feel good for a little, knowing it’s not false pain.

but, what happens when the realiseation hits, that you have this illness, that potently can’t be cured, can’t be taken away, it can only be managed through medications.

and the side effects aren’t always great! sometimes they are worse than the illness itself!wouldn’t it be fab is their was a pill with the side effect list. clear skin and thick hair etc.

so how do you deal with this new diagnosis? i personally grieved for my old life for a bit, i lay in bed and didn’t eat for a while.

i then thought. this only puts a name to a collection of gut wrenching symptoms i have suffered from for years. so i need to stop moping and get on with it. witch can be easier said than done.

But, all you have to do is take small steps each day, adjust, take time to allow yourself to accept what’s wrong, make sure you’re family understand. do reasurch and join a support group online if it helps! i find it’s an amazing help!

start by doing something simple as self care,
fill a nice bath,
have a nice shower,
paint your nails,
trim, brush and oil your beards.
get your makeup done,
go to a barber and get a massage.
hug a dog, and if u don’t have a dog, go and hug someone else’s😂
go fishing or do something that makes you happy, that brings you peace of mind

maybe start meditation, 5 minutes a day to ground yourself. i focus exactly on where my pain is , then imagining a dial, i can turn down the pain (sometimes)

no matter how you are feeling, how depressed you are, how anxious you are, you are worth everything! you are loved! and if you feel alone, we are all here for you! so don’t ever give up!

no matter how bad you feel, just remember, everybody has bad days and after the bad day, a bad week or a bad month, good things will come and good things will happen and you will have a day where you feel ok, and when that happens just don’t go mad, don’t do to much, just pace yourself, and if you dont get everything you wanted to do done, don’t worry, tomorrow is a new day!

if you’re read this far thank you so much!! i hope i can help and make you feel a bit better! if you like my posts, why no let give me a follow? i post every day, if u have suggestions or questions, let me know in the comments.

love to you all! keep chugging forward my chronic illness warriors!!